Yebo akunjalo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuhlukaniswa kwamadoda uma kuqhathaniswa nabazalwane babo abancane akuyona nje indlela yokwazi ilungu lekhonkco lezocansi eziqine kakhulu, kodwa futhi nokuhlolwa okuhloswe kakhulu ukuba nomqondo wokuhlekisa. Ukuba khona, ngendlela, njalo kwenza indoda ibe yinto encane njengendoda efanayo yesilwane esithintekayo, ukuba ibe njengoye ngokucacile akomile.
Akuyona into yokuthi izazi zengqondo zithi umuntu - kokubili owesilisa nowesifazane - uhlukaniswe ngekhwalithi ekhethekile: iningi labantu liyathukuthelelwa yizo zimfanelo kwabanye obonakalisa uhlamvu lwabo. Ngakho-ke, singaphetha ngokuphephile ngokuthi indoda ecasuliwe ngokuqhathaniswa nesilwane isesimweni esiyinkimbinkimbi, noma igcwele imibono engalungile ngesilwane esithile, noma imane ivumelana nobukhona bezimpawu ezimbi zesilwane. Kunoma yikuphi, lokhu akukwenzi kube njengomuntu ohlala endaweni ephephile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lolu hlu luyinto engcono kakhulu kwabesifazane abakhathazeka kakhulu ngezilwane kunabesilisa abakhulu, abanobunzima kakhulu ekubhekaneni nokuncipha kwabo, ngisho nangokuqhathaniswa nezilwane.
Ngakho hlobo luni lwezilwane okwenza izinhlobo ezahlukene zamadoda zibukeke?
Yiqiniso, akekho ukuhlukaniswa okunjalo okuzohlinzeka ngokuhlukaniswa okucacile ngokuvumelana nalesi simiso sokufana nesilwane esithile. Noma yimuphi umuntu angaba nenkani njengembongolo enhle, futhi ebukeka ngesikhathi sokudlala ngothando, njengekati eliqinisekisiwe kakhulu, futhi ehlukumezeka esikhathini sokungaboni ngaso, njengobhere obuthukuthele, futhi othembekile, njengenja. Kodwa ngenxa yobuningi bokuqoqwa okukhulu kwezici ezithile kubalingiswa bomuntu, umuntu angambeka esimweni esithile sokufana nezilwane.
Ngakho, okokuqala, indoda enesimo sayo sokuziphatha ilandela eduze kakhulu imikhuba yenja. Omunye wemikhuba emibi kakhulu yokuqhathanisa amadoda nezilwane, ngisho nalabo abangenakho ukuhleka kwemizwa, nokuqonda okungaqondile kwalesi siqhathaniso ukwenqaba ukukhomba okungenalutho. Amadoda afana nokuba njengezinja. Okokuqala, ngoba lesi silwane esiningi kakhulu ekubonweni kwanoma yimuphi umuntu kufana nokuthembeka nokwazi ukuba umngane nengxenye eyodwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, amadoda angomazingoma eziningi futhi azidweba phakathi kwabo nomngani omkhulu womuntu: ngakho emehlweni abo bonke abesifazane besemhlabeni bahlonipha kakhulu, bahlakaniphile, banokwethenjelwa futhi, ngokwemvelo, bayathandekayo.
Ngakho yini ehlukanisa inja yendoda?
Uthembekile futhi uthembekile, uthanda ukudla okumnandi, ukuphikelela kanye nomninikhaya. Owesifazane yena akayona nje inkosikazi yenhliziyo nento yokubonga, kodwa futhi nomngane othembekile othembela emicabangweni ejulile kakhulu. Amadoda anjalo ayingqayizivele futhi alungele ukulinda abathandekayo babo iminyaka eminingi. Kodwa-ke, ngokushesha nje lapho ezwa ukuthi omunye umuntu uthandana naye ngothando futhi ethandekayo, yena ngokwakhe ugijimela ezandleni zommangali wakhe ongalindelekile: njengomthetho, amadoda anjalo angazi ukuthi abe mhle kanjani, ngokuvamile umthandi wabo uthanda imizwa ephakeme akazi. Yingakho engacabangi ngesimo sobuhlobo. Izinhlobo ezinjalo zamadoda zivame ukushada kanye kuphela empilweni yazo, futhi ungadonseli ngezenzo: yiyona into ejabulisayo ekubuseni ukuthi bonke abantu besaba izibopho zomndeni.
Okwesibili, ikati lendoda.
Umuntu onjalo utholakala empilweni cishe cishe wonke owesifazane. Isici salo esiyinhloko uthando olungenakuphela kobulili obuhle. Uyakuthanda wonke umuntu ngesikhathi esisodwa, kodwa angagcina ethembekile ngokwanele isikhathi eside kuphela esingahle amkhohlise, ekhonjiwe ehlathini elithambile emathangeni akhe. Uthando lomuntu-cat ludlulisa ngokuqondile emagagasi. Futhi hhayi ngenxa yokuthi unesithakazelo ebuhlotsheni bakhe obuseduze kakhulu. Yilokho akubonayo njengengona ebaluleke kakhulu ebuhlotsheni. Prelude, ukudlala ngothando, ukuthandana imidlalo, ukwethula imizwa ethandekayo yanamuhla ezihlukahlukene - yilokho abantu abathanda amakati. Bayabalandeli bokuhlanzeka. Futhi kuyo yonke into: endlini kufanele ihlanganiswe, umshini - wageza, i-suit yabo noma i-jeans - igeze. Futhi yena ngokwakhe ukugeza konke lokhu, ukuhlanza nokupaka akanamahloni. Yiqiniso, nakuba ethanda ukuthi owesifazane akwenze. Phela, le-cat-mancane ithatha ukunakekelwa kumuntu wakhe. Ngakho-ke, kunzima ukuyibiza ngokuthi ayilungile. Uzogijimela umphikisana kakhulu ngenxa yokwesaba ukulahlekelwa othandekayo wakhe noma ukwesaba ukuthi awufaneleki kahle emehlweni omphakathi. Cha: okunye okucasuliwe ngethemba lokulahlekelwa ukunakekelwa okuphelele.
Okwesithathu, owesilisa uyinhloko.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi izinhlobo zamadoda zifani kangakanani uma ziqhathaniswa nezilwane, futhi lokhu akunakwenzeka ukuthi umuntu angakhubekisa ngempela. Yebo, ngubani ongafuni ukufana nalesi silwane esinomusa, esisebenzayo, esinamandla nesizimele? Ngisho nesilwane, kodwa uphawu lokuhlakanipha, ukuqonda, amandla kanye nesivinini sokuphendula. Ngempela ku-tigers esilisa iheha cishe wonke umuntu. Kodwa ngokuvamile bahlale bengenandaba nokukhathalela abesifazane. Ngokuqondile, abaqotho ngempela abakwazi ukubona ukuthi zingaki izinhliziyo ezanyanyiswayo ngokushesha uma zivela. Uma bengabonisi indima yabo "Elvis Presley yendawo". Futhi ngeke bakholwe ngokushesha. Imikhuba kaTiger ekuziphatheni nasekuziphatheni komuntu yinto engaphezu kwesikhashana. Ngokuvamile ziyanyamalala ngeminyaka, futhi indoda isuka ekilasini lama-tigers iya kwelinye iqembu. Kodwa kukhona futhi abameleli bobulili obuqinile abangashintshi imvelo yabo emilenze. Ukuze kube nobuhlobo obuhlala njalo, cishe cishe akushintshelwanga: kunzima kakhulu ukuba bajwayele iqiniso lokuthi enye inkosi manje izothinta izinto zabo ngaphandle kokufuna. Ngokuqondile, umninikhaya. Kodwa ngeke balahlekelwe ukuhlangana kwabo ne-tiger: lapha, ngobuningi, kunezikhwama ezivunguvungu kanye nesisa sonke, izipho eziphanayo nokuhluleka ukwamukela isipho esivumelanayo, nokuhlukana okuqhubekayo kwezinhlamvu, kanye nokuphazamiseka kwesifiso ngesikhathi sokubuyisana. Ngokumane nje, i-cocktail egcwele yemizwelo eqhakazile ilindelwe owesifazane owakhetha i-tiger.
Okwesine, indlovu yesilisa.
Oqine kakhulu, engathandi ukumisa, engavumi ngaphambi kwezinkinga - lo yindoda owesifazane obukeka ngayo ngemuva kwodonga lwamatshe. Mayelana naye, singasho ngokuqiniseka ukuthi uyindlela yokuphila ephumelelayo yokusebenzisa isu "Ngibona umgomo, angiboni izithiyo." Indoda enjalo nomuntu onokondla, nomyeni othembekile, nobaba ohlakaniphile onothando, nomyeni weqiniso. Yiqiniso, kumfazi othanda inkululeko, ukusebenzisana naye ngeke kube lula: uvele wadala ukuvikela abathandekayo, ukuvikela izithakazelo zakhe nokumnika konke ngaphandle kokuzikhandla, okwenza ngezinye izikhathi amshiye ukuthi ungubani.