Izinto ezibangela ukuba uhlale ungezwani njalo enkonzweni, ochwepheshe bayabiza i-psychotraumatic futhi bayeluleka ukuba bazivumelanise. Ngenxa yalokho, ungakwazi ukuqeda ngokuphelele abanye, abanye bazofunda ukunganaki, futhi okwesithathu uzokwazi ngisho nokuthola izikhathi ezinhle. Ukwehlisa isimo esibucayi kwengqondo, uzozizwa ulula ngokushesha ebuhlotsheni bakho nabalingani bakho, uphakamise umoya wakho wenkampani, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo izifiso zakho zobuchwepheshe. Ngamafuphi, yakha izimo ezidingekayo zokwakha umsebenzi noma okungenani ukuhlala ukhululekile emsebenzini. Yini evame ukusikhathaza emsebenzini?
Isilinganiso esinganeliseki
Inkinga yenombolo 1 . "Angikwazi ukunqoba umphathi" onzima ".
Ngokuvamile izinkinga ezihlala njalo emsebenzini zikhononda ngabaholi abaziphethe ngendlela ehamba phambili: bayamemeza, badonsa amathanga etafuleni, bavumele izitatimende zokuthuka. Kodwa lokhu kungenye yezinketho (okuyinto, ngendlela, elula ukuphatha). Umqashi angase athole ukuthi uyazibandakanya, ukuthungatha, ukucabangela abaphathi bakhe nokungazinaki abasebenzi. Futhi uma engumuntu-umphefumulo, kodwa akakwazi ukwenza ngokucacile futhi ngokucacile imisebenzi yokukhiqiza, ukushintsha imiyalo yakhe izikhathi ezinhlanu ngosuku? Noma ingabe iye yaqeda ngokucacile izimangalo zesikhathi kanye nekhwalithi yomsebenzi owenziwe? Kunzima kakhulu ukuthola ulimi oluvamile nomholi osizi.
Sifuna umzuzu omuhle. Muva nje, ezimakethe zomsebenzi, abaqashi baye babonisa isifiso esengeziwe - ukumelana nokucindezeleka. Futhi yikuphi okungcono okugqugquzela ukuziphatha nokukwazi ukumelana nokumangala okungavamile kunomsebenzi ngaphansi kokuqondiswa kwe-boss engenamsebenzi?
Ukulungisa isimo
Enxantathu "wena-oyisikhulu somsebenzi" iqembu elikhulu kufanele liqhubeke nomsebenzi. Induna "yokulumala" iqala ngokubheka ukuthi ngokushesha ukuphazamiseka kwakhe kuthinta imiphumela yomsebenzi wakho kanye nesimo sezinkinga ezihlala njalo emsebenzini. Unganqikazi ukubuza imibuzo nokucacisa izabelo, cela umphathi ongenakuziphendulela ukunikeza iCC ngokubhaliwe, futhi okunamandla kakhulu kuzokunika izindlela ezicacile zokuhlola umsebenzi. Awu, ungakhohlwa: noma yiliphi i-boss ingaba nezizathu eziningi zokuziphatha okungavamile - kusukela esimweni esiyingozi sezinkampani ezinkingeni kuya ezinkingeni zempilo. Wena ngokwakho awunalo ubuhlobo kula "ukuduma nokukhanyisa"! Funda ukuqonda ukuthi "umphathi wezokuxhaphaza" njengenhlekelele engavimbeleki yemvelo, hhayi isiqalekiso somuntu siqu, futhi uzothola kulula ukubekezelela ubukhona bakhe nokusebenza ngendlela evamile ngaphansi komyalo wakhe. Esikhundleni sokuwa nesifiso, ukukhala noma ukuthukuthela, nje ukungazibali ukuhlaselwa kwakhe noma ngokuzithoba, kodwa ngokuqinile umcele ukuthi ahlale ezandleni zakhe, ethi angasetshenziselwa ukuxoxa ngezikhathi zokusebenza kule ithoni.
Inkinga yenombolo 2 . "Angitholi ulimi oluvamile nabasebenza nabo."
Ngokombiko, owesifazane wesithupha uyamzonda umsebenzi wakhe, ngoba wayengeke angene embuthanweni noma angenele "terrarium" ekulungele.
Ngifuna umzuzu omuhle
Cabanga ukuthi uqeqesha "izifundo zabantu" futhi ukhokhelwa lokhu (umholo)! Nsuku zonke thola indlela efanele kulunga ngalinye lethimba, uhlakulele izixazululo zokwehlisa isinqumo, uxazulule izimo eziphikisanayo, ugcine ukuzivikela kwengqondo futhi usebenze eqenjini elibi yisikole esihle kakhulu. Amandla omlingiswa namakhono okuxhumana akhiwe kuye ayokwenza ube nobuntu obuqinile futhi ngokuqinisekile uzosiza esikhathini esizayo. Isibonelo, uma wena ngokwakho uba umholi.
Silungisa lesi simo. Ukuzama ukufundisa kabusha ukuhleba, ukuxubha, ukungenangqondo, ukuvilapha kanye ne-nahalok akusho lutho. Kungcono ukuzama ukuhlala niche yakho ekhululekile kwengqondo yakho eqenjini, okuzokuvumela ukuthi usebenze ngokuthula, ungenayo izinkinga unomphela emsebenzini, ungahlanganyeli kunoma yikuphi ukungqubuzana phakathi kwempi futhi ungaxabani njalo ngomzuzu ekuhlaselweni komunye umuntu. Okokuqala, ube nekhono ukuze ungaphutha, okwesibili, uqaphele izinkinga zabanye abantu, unikeze usizo lwakho nokusekela. Cishe, isimo esisehhovisi ngeke sithuthuke, kodwa, okungenani, akekho omunye oyokuthinta. Futhi cabanga ngenye into. Ingabe uqinisekile ukuthi ozakwabo babimbi kakhulu, kodwa ingabe uyazi ukuthi kuhle kanjani (okuhle, okukhuthele, ochwepheshe ...)? Mhlawumbe nawe ungathanda ukusebenza wena ngokwakho?
Inkinga yenombolo 3 . "Angiqondi ukuthi yini engikwenzayo nokuthi ubani oyidinga."
Umsebenzi awuhambeli nhlobo. Okubi nakakhulu, awunabo obhekene nanoma yini, futhi umbono wakho umane unganakwa. Ungenza okungcono nakakhulu kunokuthembela kwakho, kodwa awunayo ithuba lokuzibonakalisa futhi uqinisekise ubuchwepheshe bakho ekusebenzeni. Futhi kancane kancane unomuzwa wokungaqondi okwenzekayo ehhovisi ... Sifuna umzuzu omuhle. Kulowo ongaphenduli ngalutho, akafaki umthwalo wemfanelo. Ungakwazi ukuphumula, wenze ngokuzenzekelayo ubuncane bokusebenza futhi uxazulule izinkinga zakho ngokufana: funa izinketho zokuthenga (ukuthengisa) izindlu (izimoto, izingubo zezimvu) kwi-intanethi, uhlele iholidi lakho elizayo, uzifundele ... Uma ubona le nkathi njengenguquko, lo msebenzi ngeke ubangele ukwenqaba okuningi. Umsebenzi ongenangqondo awudingi ukufakwa komphefumulo kuwo kanye nokwehliswa kwamangqamuzana ezinzwa. Yiqiniso, isikhathi eside ukuhlala ezindaweni ezinjalo zengqondo aziphakamisi - ungakwazi ukulahlekelwa ngokuphelele ubuchwepheshe, ukusebenza kahle nokuqonda.
Silungisa lesi simo. Ukulahlekelwa isithakazelo kulokho okwenzeka emsebenzini kuyisilingo esabekayo. Njengomthetho, ukungazwakali okunjalo kungapheli ngokuphelelwa yisikhathi, ukukhala nokukhalaza kwabanye. Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Hamba ukusebenza nekhanda emuva. Bheka yonke imininingwane, funda imininingwane yemisebenzi yakho ngosizo lwezincwadi ezikhethekile, cela abaphathi ngencazelo ecacile yomsebenzi. Yiba uphawu lobuchwepheshe nokuzinikela ehhovisi lakho. Thatha isinyathelo kuqala: ucabange ukuthi yiziphi izinto ongayithatha wena, yikuphi ukuzuzisa wena nesizathu ukuthi ufunde kuso. Cabanga ngesiteleka esithile sokusebenza kanye nenhloko yabo. Futhi, chaza ngokucacile isikhathi sesikhathi lapho inqubekelaphambili yakho yobuchwepheshe kufanele iqaphelwe khona. Ekupheleni kwalo, faka imiphumela yemizamo yakho bese ucela isikhundla esisha noma okungenani ukwanda kweholo lakho. Yebo, uma wenqaba, qala ukufuna omunye umsebenzi.
Inkinga yenombolo 4 . "Angithandi inhlangano yomsebenzi."
Sinezinkinga ezimbili ezinkulu: umsebenzi ongapheli kanye nesimiso esingapheli. Ugcizelela kokubili lokho nakwezinye. Sifuna umzuzu omuhle. Lapho ehhovisi kulula ukuhlanganisa futhi wenze umsebenzi ngendlela eyodwa. Kukhona ukungabi nesikhathi, kanti ozakwabo baphefumulela emuva kwekhanda. Ukuhamba njalo kuhle ngoba banikeza ithuba lokuletha umsebenzi wabo wokuzenzekelayo. Futhi ukwenza umsebenzi nge-inertia, ungakwazi ukugxila engqondweni kumuntu ongaphandle, kodwa wena uqobo. I-hero yefilimu ethi "In Love at Will", amahora angu-8 ngelanga elibukhali emathuluzi omshini, engqondweni ekuziqeqesheni ngokuzenzakalela futhi kusukela kwenye indawo yaqala ukuphumelela kule ndaba. Yini, ekugcineni, yashintsha ukuphila kwakhe komuntu siqu kanye nobuchwepheshe ukuze kube ngcono. Silungisa lesi simo. Ukuze ugweme ukuhlukunyezwa, ngokulinganayo usakaze leli cala kungakapheli isonto (inyanga). Cela izifundo zokuphatha isikhathi, lapho uzofundiswa khona ukubeka phambili kuqala. Uma lokhu kuyinqubomgomo yobuholi bakho, buza i- "unit unit" ukusiza kanye / noma ukukhokha okunye isikhathi esengeziwe.
Uhlukumeza isimiso? Kungenxa yokuthi wenza okuthile "okungathandeki kuwe ngokuphelele? Khona-ke kufanele ushintshe umsebenzi. Uma isimiso sesibe into eyintandokazi, kuyisibonakaliso sokukhula - usufinyelele kulelo dolobha lakho lochwepheshe futhi nje udinga ukuqhubeka. Futhi hhayi nje ngaphandle kwesango lehhovisi lasekhaya. Uma uzama, cishe ungathola cishe izinketho zokuziqhenya kwenkampani yakho.
Inkinga yenombolo engu-5 . "Nginomholo omncane kakhulu."
Kuhle ukuthi umsebenzi ujabulise, futhi ngobudlelwane obuhle kakhulu ubudlelwane, futhi umphathi uqotho kakhulu - ngaphansi kwezimo ezinjalo kungenzeka ukuvula izintaba. Kodwa umdlandla uzokunciphisa kakhulu, uma ungatholi "lutho" ngosuku othola ngalo umholo wakho. Sifuna umzuzu omuhle. Uma ubala izinzuzo zakho ngokusuka ngemuva kwemali engenayo, yisho, i-Paris Hilton, empeleni, hhayi isikhathi eside futhi uhamba ngobuhlungu ngokudabuka. Kodwa uma ubhekene nesibindi ngeso lengqondo futhi uqhathanise umholo wakho nomholo womngane ofanayo ubudala, kungase kube sobala ukuthi uthola kabili ngenyanga ngaphezu kwalokho akwenzayo. Ukuqapha imakethe yezabasebenzi: uma imali yakho ingalinganiswa nemali ejwayelekile embonini yakho, ukuzonda inkonzo ngezizathu zezezimali kuyinto engalungile.
Silungisa lesi simo. Ngaphambi kokuthuthela engxenyeni yeprofeshini enenzuzo kakhulu, cabanga ngalokho ongakwazi ukuphuma emsebenzini wanamuhla ngomqondo wezinto ezibonakalayo. Mhlawumbe, ungathatha imithwalo yemfanelo eyengeziwe futhi uthole ngokuzenzakalelayo ngaphezulu? Noma kufanele uhambe kumphathi futhi ukhulume ngokungathí sina ngokunyuka kweholo noma okungenani i-premium, uma uyifanele ngempela? Phela, lokhu ngokuvamile kuyinkinga yengqondo. Ungathanda ukuthola okuningi, kodwa awuzibheki kahle. Kungani?
"Ngenxa yokwesaba izigwegwe: ukulahlekelwa indawo yeziphathimandla, ukuxoshwa," kusho ilungu leParis Psychoanalytical Association u-Ilana Reis-Schimmel, "Uma umuntu ezwa umuzwa wecala lapho ecela ukuphakama emholweni wakhe, khona-ke isizathu kufanele sifunwe ngokuxuba izithombe zomphathi nobaba: umzali uzizwa njengengozi. " Kulesi simo, kudingeka uphinde ucabangele isimo sakho sengqondo kumphathi, ngokwakho nangalesi simo-kuya kubukhulu bomholo. Ukuzethemba okuphansi kuphelisa ukufisa. Uma ungakakulungeli ukubiza isibalo-kungakanani ongathanda ukuthola inyanga ngesibindi, ngokuzwakalayo nangokucacile, ubheke amehlo omphathi, ngeke uzuze okungaphezulu manje. Akukho kulo msebenzi, noma kwenye. Isifiso semali emihle njalo siqala ngokukhula kokuzihlonipha - gcina lokhu engqondweni.
Ingabe awuwuthandi kakhulu umsebenzi futhi ngokusobala awuhlangabezani nezidingo zakho? Hlola, bheka entsha! Phakathi naleso sikhathi, zama ukuvumelanisa nomanje bese uzama ukuthola okuningi kuwo. Isibonelo:
- ukuhlomisa indawo yakho yokusebenza ngokunethezeka okukhulu, ngoba ukuhlala kwakho lapha kungadonsela phambili;
- thetha othintana nabo bebhizinisi, thola othintana nabo abasebenzayo, izincomo ze-stock up nempendulo emihle;
- ukwandisa iziqu zakho: ukuya emihlanganweni, izifundo, izinkulumo - ulwazi oluzuziwe luyoba usizo kuwe esikhathini esizayo;
- ungasebenzi ngemuva kwemikhono, uzothathwa, futhi esikhathini esizayo ngeke ukwazi ukusebenza ngenye indlela, ngisho nasendaweni entsha;
- Ungaphuthelwa ithuba lokuhlela noma ukulungisa impilo yakho yomndeni, lapho ukhona khona, umsebenzi othakazelisayo, isikhathi nomzamo wokwakha ubudlelwano namadoda nezingane ozothola kakhulu.