Izizathu zokuzalwa kwengane eseneminyaka eyishumi nantathu eneminyaka engama-40 ziningi. Ukuvela komntwana osondelene neminyaka engamashumi amane kuvame ukuba ngumphumela wesimo sengqondo somfazi ekuphileni. Uqala ukuthola imfundo, bese enza umsebenzi, athole ukuzimela ngokwezimali, athole indlu yakhe, njll. Futhi ngemva kokufeza imigomo ebekiwe, ucabanga ngomntwana, ikakhulukazi kusukela umuthi wesimanje uwuvumela. Ngakho-ke, eminyakeni yamuva, inani labomama abaye banquma ingane eminyakeni engama-40, landa emazweni aseYurophu kuphela, kodwa nasezweni lethu.
Ingane encane - ayikho embi kunezinye izingane. Ngaphambili, lapho abantwana abaningi bebeletha (ukuthi uNkulunkulu uzonikeza kangakanani), kamuva abantwana bebuthakathaka, njengoba umzimba womama wawuphelile amandla ayo ngesikhathi sokuzalwa kwawo. Kodwa okwamanje akunjalo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kukholelwa ukuthi izingane ezikhulwini abavuthiwe zihlakaniphile futhi zinamakhono kunabantwana abancane. Kodwa iphuzu lapha alikho kwizipho ezizelwe, kodwa eqinisweni lokuthi ingane ephuzile iyakunakekelwa nokukhathazeka okwengeziwe.
Akufanele sikhohlwe - ngokukhula, ikhono lokukhulelwa kwengane linciphile kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, inani lezifo ezahlukene ezineminyaka yobudala kuphela. Ngakho-ke, uma unqume ukubeletha lapho uneminyaka engaphezu kwengu-40 nangemva kwalokho, kufanele uhlole ngokucophelela impilo yakho. Kubalulekile ukuba uhlole ngokugcwele. Phela, ngalesi sikhathi, izinkinga ezitholwa ngomzimba wethu zingathinta indlela ejwayelekile yokukhulelwa. Odokotela bathi omdala lo mbhangqwana, izinkinga eziningi, namathuba okukhulelwa nokubeletha ingane enempilo kuncishisiwe.
Kodwa nokho, uma owesifazane oneminyaka engamashumi amane enempilo enhle futhi engeyona eyinyumba - khona-ke angakwazi ukubeletha umntwana onamandla futhi onempilo. Yiqiniso, eneminyaka engu-40 ukukhulelwa ngeke kuphephe ngokuphelele. Kuzohlale kunengozi ethile. Kumele sicabange ngokucophelela impilo yethu futhi sibe ngaphansi kokuqondiswa njalo udokotela.
Ekukhulelweni kwesikhathi eside kukhona izinzuzo. Lapho esekhulile, abesifazane bazimisele kakhulu ukuzala, ukubeletha kanye nokukhuliswa kwengane. Abomama abanjalo cishe banomthelela emoyeni, ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. I-psyche yabesifazane abanjalo inzile futhi iyalwa, futhi impilo ihlelekile. Abesifazane abakhulelwe abanjalo banakekele ukuqokwa kukadokotela. Bambelela ekudleni okunempilo kanye nombuso wokuphila.
Yebo, eminyakeni engama-40 sekuyisikhathi sokuba ugogo, kodwa mhlawumbe okokuqala ukuba ngumama. Kwakuvame ukuthi leyo minyaka engamashumi amane ingumhlalaphansi futhi uchungechunge lwezimpikiswano. Kodwa impilo yethu yanamuhla ishintshile kakhulu lokhu kuqonda kwalesi simo. Ikhwalithi yempilo yethu ishintshile kakhulu, abesifazane bayagcina ubusha babo kanye nempilo ende. Ngako-ke, bantfu labanyenti bacabanga ngemntfwana ngesikhatsi sekucala hhayi ngeminyaka lengema-40 futsi inombolo yabo ikhula kancane ngekhatsi.
Ngokusho odokotela, kubalulekile ukunquma ingane bese bebeletha kuze kube seminyaka engamashumi amathathu. Kodwa empilweni kunezimo ezahlukahlukene futhi ngakho-ke kuphakanyiswa ukuba uhlole ukuhlolwa okukhethekile ukuze kutholakale i-chromosomal pathologies ehambisana nesikhathi sowesifazane. Kungukuzalwa kwesikhathi eside ukuthi kukhona ingozi yengane enezifo ezihlukahlukene.
Bathi ukubeletha kokubeletha kuvuselela owesifazane. Futhi empeleni, impilo yakho igcwele incazelo entsha, awunaso isikhathi sokuphumula nokuphumula, faka zonke izinsiza zomzimba wakho. Phela, kuleso sikhathi, eminyakeni engamashumi amane, ungumama osemncane.
Isikhathi sokubeletha izibulo? Ngamashumi amabili, amashumi amathathu noma emva kweminyaka engamashumi amane - lokhu kunqunywa owesifazane ngamunye. Futhi kuphela wenza isinqumo. Ukubeletha kuyinjabulo nencazelo yobomi besifazane nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Enye into ecacile: labo besifazane abaye banquma ingane ngemuva kweminyaka engamashumi amane banamakhono aqinile futhi anempilo. Ngokuvamile bahlala isikhathi eside kunabanye, ngoba badinga ukukhulisa ingane futhi bambeke ngezinyawo.
Izibalo zeminyaka yamuva ziqinisekisa ukuthi ukukhulelwa empilweni yangaphambili kungazuza impilo yabesifazane, ngisho noma kukhona ukuwohloka okuncane empilweni. Ukubelethwa kwesikhathi esilandelayo kufaka emzimbeni wesifazane zonke izindawo zokugcina ezifihliwe lapho, ezandisa impilo. Omama abavuthiwe bathola ithuba lokuphila kuze kube yiminyaka eyikhulu.
Ukuphila kwanamuhla ukuthi imibono ngokuphila komndeni ishintshile ngokujulile. Ngakho-ke, abesifazane abasha bezamabhizinisi akasheshi ukuba nabantwana, ikakhulukazi kusukela lesi sinyathelo sinomthwalo wemfanelo. Kodwa abesifazane abanjalo kufanele bakhumbule ukuthi uma ubambezela isikhathi eside, izinkinga ezingaphezu kokuthola futhi ngisho nemithi yesimanje ngeke zikwazi ukukusiza ukuthola injabulo yobubele. Konke kuhle ngesikhathi. Manje uyazi ukuthi unganquma kanjani ingane engama-40 futhi uhlangabezana nenjabulo yobazali, kungakhathaliseki ubudala.