Awudingi noma yikuphi ukusikisela kokuthandana, kodwa kuphela endaweni futhi ngesikhathi sokubonga lokho kungamenza abe yiqhawe elinamandla elinesizotha nangomusa. Kodwa kuphela ngenxa yokuthi amadoda ethu akakwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kokushayiswa kwethu, ukubonga kwethu.
Abesilisa bathanda kanjani ukuncoma, ngeshwa kuphela abesifazana abazi ngakho. Amancoma amadoda anika ithuba lokuzizwa ephakeme futhi ebaluleke ngaphezu kwamanye amadoda. Bahlukanisa nabo esixukwini futhi bangenza amadoda akhetheke. Ukwenza ukuncoma kuwubuciko, hhayi ukudideka nobuciko - ukucula izingoma kanye namazwi ahlabayo athathwa ngesikhathi sokubusa kwamakhosi nezicukuthwane. Vumela isikhathi sethu sokuncoma singabi namanzi amaningi okuzithoba, kodwa kudingeka kwenziwe ngokuhlakanipha.
Inani elikhulu lokuncoma yilo ithoni lapho kudunyiswa khona udumo. Empeleni, ukuncoma kuyisayensi yonke. Ngaphandle kwalokho ungabhekisela endodeni enezintambo, izintshisekelo zezingane, kungcono kakhulu uma ithoni yezwi lakho kunezwi eliphansi lokunciphisa.
Abathandi ukuncoma okungenalutho, kodwa futhi akufanelekile ukukhiqiza izimfanelo zabo ngokuncoma, kungcono ukugxila emininingwaneni. Uma ufunda ukwenza izincomo ngobuqotho, lokhu kuyinkimbinkimbi futhi indoda izohlala ifuna ukukubonga. Ngaphandle kwalokho akufanele sivumele ukucasuka esinakho, kwabesifazane kaningi ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Isibonelo: "Ukudumisa, futhi ngangingazi ukuthi uyiphunga kakhulu ungapheka isobho, futhi ipuleti iphelele futhi iminwe yakho isendaweni!" Mhlawumbe angizange ngijabule ngukubonga okunjalo, kodwa ngabe ngidangele isifiso sokupheka isobho kuze kube phakade. Indoda enobuhle, onomqondo wokuhlekisa, iyobuyisela imali efanayo.
Esinye iphutha esivamile, abesifazane abaningi baphawula ngokuncoma, bahlakaza ngakwesokudla nangakwesobunxele. Njengoba "awukwazi ukuyiphatha i-porridge ngamafutha" - lokhu kuyiqiniso, kodwa akusebenzi ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuncoma. Ukuncoma, njengamaswidi, kufanele kunikelwe kuphela ngenxa yobuningi bokuncoma okungalahlekelwa amandla abo futhi bavele bayeke ukukholelwa.
Ukuze ukuncoma okwenzile kumuntu, kusebenze kuyadingeka ukwazi imikhuba kanye nomlingiswa womuntu obhekiselwe kuye. Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuhlolisisa ukuthi yiziphi izimfanelo ezibalulekile kumuntu owakhiwayo wokubonga. Mhlawumbe kuyinto evamile ukuba afake isikhali, kepha mhlawumbe yilo ibhizinisi lakhe lonke: "Yeka ukuthi uhlakaniphile kangakanani nokuthi yiziphi izandla zakhe zegolide." Ngokuba noma yikuphi ukuhlola okubaluleke kakhulu kwezimfanelo zakhe zobuchwepheshe. Ngisho nommeleli wezobuchwepheshe obunamandla kakhulu udinga amazwi ukugcina ukubaluleka kwawo kanye negunya langaphakathi: "Uyazi kanjani kangako? Kungakanani ekhanda lakho! Yeka ukuthi uhlakaniphile kangakanani! "
Ukunconywa kuthandwa ngabantu futhi kungenziwa ngaphandle kwamagama, kwanele nje ukuthinta isandla sithandekayo ngesikhathi esifanele futhi ubheke amehlo akhe njengokungathi ngendlela ekhethekile, ukumomotheka, noma ukumanga ngothando esihlathini.
Ukuncoma kuhle kakhulu futhi kunikeza umphumela omuhle wokuxhumana kwakho. Khuluma njalo, kodwa kuze kube sekugcineni. Yena, owesifazane ozobonga indoda yakhe ngokuhlakanipha nokuhlala njalo uthola inzuzo phezu kwabanye besifazane, ngoba ngenxa yezwe elinamandla kunazo zonke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ube nomfazi obengcono kunazo zonke.
Uma umuntu ephambi kwakho, futhi uzizwa ukuthi uyamthanda - ungamondela ngokuphepha futhi umtshele ngakho. Hhayi, kuthiwani uma engeke abe yisikhulu sakho, kodwa kuyoba nomuntu oyedwa ojabulayo emhlabeni, ngisho nangomzuzu owodwa.