Yini umuntu ayifunayo kowesifazane

Uyomangala, kodwa kukhona umehluko omkhulu phakathi kwalokho ocansi ngamunye ocabanga ngakho ngokuphambene nalokho akufunayo ngempela kuye. Abesilisa nabesifazane kaningi abaqondi, baphendule ngokuqondile amagama nokuzibonakalisa, ukwakha ubuhlobo babo ngephethini eyodwa eyaziwayo. Konke lokhu ekugcineni kuholela ekudumazekeni kokubili. I-Harmony ayenzeki. Ubudlelwane buwa, akukaze kuqalile. Abesifazane bacabanga ukuthi amadoda afuna eyodwa kuphela kubo. Lokhu kuvame ukuveza intukuthelo kubo bonke ubulili besilisa, futhi kwenza ukuthuthukiswa kobudlelwane obufudumele, obuhle, ukubambisana okuthandana nomuntu. Lokhu kudabukisayo, akufanele kube njalo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi yini indoda efuna ngempela owesifazane? Mayelana nalokhu futhi ukhulume.

Amadoda nabesifazane abaningi babambe iqhaza kulolu cwaningo. Kwakukhona ukuthi empeleni abantu abaningi abaqondi kahle izifiso zomunye nomunye. Amadoda avuma ukuthi ayifunayo kwabesifazane hhayi nakancane lokho abakusho ngokungalungile. Imiphumela ayilindelekile. Sizocabangela amaphuzu amakhulu, futhi sinikeze izincomo kubesifazane. Bayobasiza baqonde ukuthi bayakwazi ngempela ukunikeza amadoda ukuthi bangawaheha kanjani nokuthi bangawagcina kanjani eceleni kwabo.

1. Amadoda afuna ukukhulumisana okuqotho kakhulu.

Kuyathembekile ebuhlotsheni - okubaluleke kakhulu kubantu. Bafuna owesifazane akhulume ngezifiso zakhe ngqo, ngaphandle kwemishwana efihliwe kanye nama-clicks. Amadoda kukhona abalandeli bezimpawu ezithile. Abafuni ukuchitha ingxenye yezimpilo zabo ekudaluleni izimfihlo zakho, ukuvula izifiso ezingenakuqondakala, ukufuna incazelo efihliwe. Ngokuvamile, abesifazane bacasulwa ukuthi indoda yabo "ayiqondi", nakuba bona ngokwabo abaceli lutho, musa ukuchaza noma yini. Umuntu angakwazi nje ukuthi azikho inkinga, ukuthi umngane wakhe akayithandi into ethile. Khuluma nendoda. Yiba neqiniso naye.

Izizathu zokuthi kungani abesifazane bengathandi ukuxoxa ngezinkinga nendoda bahlukile. Abanye babo besaba ukuthukuthela, ukulahla, ukucasula umuntu. Abanye bacabanga ukuthi "akaqondi." Ukulahla imibuzo ebuhlungu, owesifazane, ngaphandle kokuqonda, uhlazisa umuntu. Ubheka ukuthi akakwazi ukuqonda, ukuxazulula isimo esinzima, ukwenza isinqumo. Amadoda ayengacindezeli kakhulu kunabesifazane. Bakudinga ukutshela iqiniso ngokuqondile nangokuthembeka ngale nkinga, uma kukhona. Uzobonga iqiniso futhi uzokuhlonipha ngesibindi nangokuthembeka.

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Amadoda adinga kakhulu ukuxhumana okuyisisekelo, ukuhlonipha abantu ngaphandle kwamahlaya nokugxeka okuqhubekayo. Enye yezindlela zokuyiheha ukukwakha ubuhlobo bokuthembeka.

2. Amadoda afuna ukubona owesifazane ozithandayo, othembekile oseduze.

Abamele besilisa abafuni owesifazane abe nabo ekuphelelwe ithemba - kungaba impahla noma ngokomzwelo. Amadoda adinga umlingani olinganayo, owesifazane-ubuntu. Ungambulali lowo muntu, ungahlanganisi nesixuku. Amadoda afuna owesifazane ukuba asebenze futhi azimele, abe nabangani bakhe kanye nezithakazelo zabo. Abesifazane bacabanga: "Ufuna ngidinga." Lokhu akulona iqiniso ngempela. Abesifazane bacabanga ukuthi amadoda ayakwazisi isikhathi esichitha nawe. Njengoba ejwayele ukukhuluma ngokuthi "ubulili obuthakathaka", abesifazane bakholelwa ukuthi ukuzimela kwabo nokuzethemba kuyomethusa umuntu, bamphonsa endizeni. Lokhu nakho akulungile.

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Amadoda afuna into efanayo nabesifazane - ukubambisana, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungalindelekile kanjani. Enye indlela ephumelelayo yokugcina indoda nokwakha ubudlelwane obuphilayo naye ukuzwanela, ukuzethemba, ungesabi ukuba ngumuntu.

3. Amadoda afuna ubudlelwane mahhala ngaphandle kwesithunzi sokuxhaphazwa.

Abantu ngokuvamile ababekezeleli ukuxhaphazwa kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo. Amadoda akhangwa nethuba lokuzama ukuqagela imicabango yomlingani wabo, zama ukuhumusha izimpawu zabanye abantu. Abafuni ukuphoqeleka ukuba bathuthuke ngokushesha ebuhlotsheni kunokuba bazimisele ukwenza. Abafuni ukukhohliswa ngokukhwabanisa ukuzitshela icala. Abafuni ukudlala. Abesifazane bacabanga ukuthi bangakwazi ukwanelisa izidingo zabo ngomuntu kuphela ngokusebenzisa ukuxhaphazwa. Babona kubalulekile ukukhumbuza njalo ukuthi ubudlelwane kufanele buqhubekele phambili. Abesifazane bacabanga ukuthi amadoda akafuni ukudunyiswa noma ukuqashelwa, ngakho-ke, njengomthetho, ukuveza ukugxeka kuphela.

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Amadoda ngeke 'aguqe' ekusetshenzisweni kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo isikhathi eside. Ukuze "uhambise" umuntu futhi wakhe ubuhlobo besikhathi eside esikhathini esizayo, udinga ukufunda ukuthi ungacela kanjani ngokuqondile lokho okufunayo. Chaza izidingo zakho kuzo zonke izindawo zokuphila kwakho. Funda ukudumisa, hhayi nje ukugxeka. Ungamcindezeli lo muntu ngokusheshisa ukuthuthukiswa kobudlelwano.

4. Abantu bafuna ukukhula, umthwalo wabo siqu kanye nokuzibandakanya.

Amadoda abalulekile ukuba abe nomlingani owazi ukuzihleka yena futhi onamandla okungaphakathi. Bafuna ukuba nomuntu ngokomzwelo, uma kungenzeka, uzinzile. Owesifazane ozikhulisa yena ngokwakhe. Okubangela ukuzwa kwakho ngokomzwelo. Abesifazane bacabanga ukuthi amadoda adinga nje ukuzijabulisa, isikhathi esihle. Bacabanga ukuthi abesilisa abanesithakazelo ekufaniseni kanye nokuthuthukisa ubudlelwane. Abesifazane bacabanga ukuthi amadoda afuna ama-supermodels kuphela. Empeleni, bafuna abesifazane abavuthiwe ngokomzwelo, abanomusa, babesekela othandweni.

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Ukuvuthwa ngokomzwelo akusho ukuthi akukho mzwelo. Lona ikhono lokulawula imizwelo yakho. Ukuheha umuntu nokwakha ubuhlobo besikhathi eside naye, umuntu akumelwe agweme ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo ngezinhloso zakhe nezinkulumo.

5. Amadoda afuna ukwethembeka nokuzibophezela.

Ukuthembeka kuyisidingo esikhulu samadoda. Eqinisweni, amadoda afuna abesifazane abangahlala bethembekile ngenxa yokugcina ubuhlobo. Abesifazane bacabanga ukuthi bonke abantu bafuna ucansi, nokuthi bazophula ubuhlobo babo nabo ngokuhlangana nomunye "ubuso obuhle". Abesifazane bacabanga ukuthi amadoda akakwazi ukwethembeka. Bacabanga ukuthi abantu abafuni ukusebenzela ubudlelwano. Lokhu kungukukhohlisa.

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Nansi izindaba kulabo abesilisa ocansini obuhle abavumelene nalokho okushiwo ukuthi bonke abantu baqamba amanga: ukungathembeki akujabulisi kokubili amadoda nabesifazane. Ukwakha ubuhlobo obuhle kakhulu, udinga ukwazi ukuthi ukwethembeka kuyisithako esiyinhloko.

6. Amadoda afuna abesifazane abakwazi ukuzwelana nokuqonda.

Abesifazane abaningi bakubheka njengesibopho sabo ukunciphisa i-ego yomuntu, bayaphika ukuzwelana. Lokhu kuyize neze. Phela, lokhu akuhlaziyi owesifazane, akwenzi kube buthakathaka noma kube yisiphukuphuku. Indoda ingathanda amagama amaningi adunyiswayo, ukuqaphela ukuthi bayalungile. Bafuna ukwazi ukuthi bayathandwa futhi bayakwaziswa. Abesifazane bacabanga ukuthi indoda ayinandaba nombono wabo. Bazama ukufihla ukusekelwa kwabo, ukubambelela indumiso. Abesifazane bacabanga ukuthi amadoda akhathaleli ngezinto eziningi ezibaluleke kakhulu kwabesifazane. Ngakho-ke, bayabagxeka. Ukugxekwa kuveza ukufutheka kuphela.

Iseluleko sabesifazane
Amadoda amaningi alindele ukuqashelwa nokubonga kwabesifazane. Ukuqashelwa, esikhundleni sokugxekwa, ukuzwelana nokuqonda - elinye lamathuluzi aphumelelayo kakhulu ekwakheni ubuhlobo nendoda etholakalayo kuwe.