Futhi omunye ukholelwa ukuthi leli liyithuba lokuphishekela umsebenzi, gwema izinkinga zansuku zonke, ungesabi ukulahlekelwa ukukhanya kobulili. Ngelinye igama, yilowo nalowo uqobo lwakhe. Ake sizame ukuqonda zonke izinzuzo nezingozi zomshado wezivakashi.
Ngakho-ke yini ngempela, umshado wesimenywa? Uma indoda nowesifazane bathandana futhi befuna ukuba ndawonye, bangena emshadweni womthetho, ngezinye izikhathi baqala ukuhlala ndawonye, emshadweni womphakathi. Kodwa ukuthi bachitha kanjani ukuphila kwabo ndawonye yikukhethwa komuntu ngamunye. Futhi lokhu kungathinta indawo yokuhlala, futhi ukusebenza, ngisho nempilo.
Omunye wabangane bami uhlala eSt. Petersburg, eminyakeni embalwa edlule washada noFinn. E-Russia, ugijima inkampani encane, unobungane obude bebhizinisi, amakhasimende avamile, indlu yakhe, indodakazi endala. Yini okufanele ayenze eFinland? "Umsebenzi" womthengisi, kanye nomama wendlu, akamboni. Owesifazane osebenzayo olahlekelwe isikhundla sakhe sezenhlalakahle ngokuqinisekile uyophenduka igundane elimpunga eliphelelwe izinkinga zasemakhaya, okwenza kube mnandi ngisho nakwabo. Umshado wesitokisi wawuyisixazululo esiphelele salesi sibhangqwana. Iviki ezweni ngalinye. Unethuba lokuziqhenya ngomfazi othembekile, futhi uyakuthanda futhi uyathandwa, futhi akukho ukuphazamiseka okusemakhaya okuyinkimbinkimbi ebuhlotsheni babo. Futhi, naphezu kweminyaka yobudala (ngoba zombili lo mshado awusiwo owokuqala), ubudlelwane babo bobulili bungaba nomona ngemibhangqwana emisha.
Kwenzeka ukuthi imibhangqwana ingasebenzisa iholide ndawonye noma nje ngempelasonto. Esikhathini sethu esibucayi, lapho i-intanethi ingavumeli nje ukujwayele kuphela, kodwa ngisho nokuthanda kakhudlwana, izinzuzo zomshado onjalo ziyabonakala. Abantu abaningi abakwazi ukushiya ukuphila kwabo emisebenzini noma ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Kodwa ngezikhathi ezithile, wonke umuntu angashintsha indlela evamile yokuphila.
Futhi uyini umshado wesimenywa, ngokusho, abesifazane abadala? Phakathi kwabesifazane abaneminyaka emine ubudala, abaningi bangashadile: ubufelokazi, isehlukaniso, umsebenzi ... Owesifazane usuvele esekhona, izingane zikhulile, zihlala ngokuzimela, kodwa zivulekile ebuhlotsheni bomuntu siqu, futhi zisebenza ngokocansi. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, bayakwazi ukuthola isiqhema semikhuba, imithetho ethile yokuphila. Futhi lapho indoda enezinkolelo zakhe ihlasela lolu philo, kuvele ukungqubuzana. Ngaphandle kokuba ushintshe imikhuba yakho, kahle, noma yakhe ... Inkathazo kuphela ukuthi ngalesi sikhathi akekho ofuna ukuwashintsha. Futhi indebe engcolile ayishiya eduze komshini, kanye namasokisi ngaphansi kombhede, futhi i-tube ene-paste ayivali. Futhi izinsuku eziningana ngeviki, uhle kakhulu futhi uthandana! Ngaphezu kwalokho, izinkinga ezincane ezinjengotshwala zingakwazi noma umpompi wamanje uye wafunda ukuzixazulula ngokwabo.
Indoda emshadweni wesithameli ithola ithuba lokudinga, ukuzwa ukufudumala komfazi nokuthandana, kodwa nokho ingalahlekelwa inkululeko ehambisanayo. Ungabhema ekhishini, hhayi ebhokisini, ubuke izindaba zomhlaba wonke kusihlwa, hhayi uchungechunge oluthandekayo, futhi ungaba nobulili ngesifiso esifanayo, hhayi ngesicelo somkakho.
Kukhona isici esibalulekile. Ukukhubazeka komshado okuhambisana nezinkinga "zobaba nabantwana." Izingane, njengoba wazi, kunoma yikuphi ubudala zivame ukuba nomhawu kakhulu ngabazali bazo. Endabeni yomshado wesimenywa, izingane ziza kubazali bazo ngesikhathi esifanele wonke umuntu, futhi akukho ngozi yokuhlangana ngengozi nomlingani wakho.
Ukuphila kwanamuhla kusinikeza izinhlobo ezahlukene zobuhlobo. Futhi ungakhetha uhlobo olulodwa lokuxhumana olulungele wena. Khona-ke impilo yakho izokhanya ngemibala ekhanyayo, emangalisayo!