Isimiso esiyisisekelo sokwakha ubudlelwane obuphumelelayo phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane akuzami ukugwema izinqumo ezingalungile noma izimo eziyinkinga, kodwa ukuze ufunde emaphutheni ukuze uthuthukise futhi uthuthele emazingeni amasha okuthuthukiswa komuntu nobungane nabanye.
Kunzima ukukhomba amaphutha amakhulu owesifazane owenza ngokumelene nendoda yakhe. Noma yimuphi umbhangqwana ukwakha ubuhlobo esimweni esizimele nesinye. Ngomunye umuntu, ukungathembeki kuyiphutha, futhi kumuntu akuyona ukuzijabulisa okungathí sina. Umuntu uyakwazi ukuthethelela oshade naye ukungqubuzana nabazali bakhe, futhi kumuntu lokhu kuyisikhathi sokuhlukanisa.
Bheka isholide segolide
Mhlawumbe, ezindabeni eziningi, amaphutha amakhulu owesifazane angayenza ahlobene nokuhluleka ukuthola incazelo yegolide. Isibonelo, ukuzihlukanisa ekukhulumeni kubi kakhulu ebuhlotsheni nomyeni wakhe. Uma umfazi engakwazi ukuxoxa ngezinkinga lapho ephakama, uqoqa imizwelo emibi nokucasuka. Ngokushesha lokhu kuthukuthela, okwanele, kuthululela indlu, futhi ngokuvamile amandla entukuthelo awahambisani nesimo. Le ndoda ididekile, futhi ukulahlekelwa ukulawula amagama akhe nokuziphatha ngenxa yamandla emizwelo kungaholela emiphumeleni engapheli ngokuphelele ebuhlotsheni.
Ungakhulumi kakhulu
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuzithoba ngokugcwele kumuntu wakho kubuye kuqhathaniswa nomndeni onempilo. Isibonelo, izazi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi owesifazane wenza iphutha uma etshela umyeni wakhe noma umthandi ngamanveli akhe adlule. Ngokuvamile amadoda ayacelwa ukuba atshele ukuthi konke kwakunjani. Ungazitholi kulezi zithukuthelo, ngoba umuntu ofuna izindaba ezinjalo akusikho okucabangayo. Ubheka noma yikuphi umthombo wezinkinga ebuhlotsheni bamanje, okubona, ngokubona kwakhe, kuvela emanvelweni adlule. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uvuselela umhawu wakhe noma uyayithanda lezi zinkimbinkimbi, uzama ukuziqhathanisa nomncintiswano.
Thatha imikhuba emibi
Amaphutha asemqoka owesifazane owenzayo ngokumelene nendoda yakhe nayo ingabhekwa njengokungafuni ukulawula izinhlangothi ezimnyama zomlingiswa wakhe. Ungapheli-uphumule futhi uphumele kuzo zonke izinto zakho ezimbi. Ngezinye izikhathi, njengoba benqobe izinyanga zokuqala zokugaya izinhlamvu, abesifazane bazizwa ukuthi ubuhlobo buzinzile, futhi baqala ukuzibonakalisa "kuyo yonke inkazimulo yayo." Bazivumela ukuba bakhulume kabi ngendoda nomndeni wakhe, baye emikhondweni engenasici esikhundleni sezintambo zasendlini ezihlelekile noma, isibonelo, babonise konke isimo sengqondo sabo. Kufanele uziqonde ukuthi wonke umuntu ofuna uthando nokufudumala unenani elilinganiselwe lokubekezela. Amadoda awakulungele ukubona ngokushesha ukugeleza kwakho konke kwezinkinga nezinkinga zokuphila. Thola izindlela zokunciphisa umusi, okwenziwe ngenxa yezifiso ezingagcwaliseki noma ukungqubuzana nabanye, ohlangothini. Yiya emibuthanweni nabangani, nikhulume emaforamu, vakashela i-gym. Ungayigxili yonke imibono emibi kumlingani wakho. Ekuqaleni angakuzwela, kepha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi angaphumelela ekuthokozeleni futhi elula umuntu obona impilo.
Gwema ukugxeka
Ukugxeka ngokuvamile akuyona ithuluzi eliwusizo lokuxhumana. Kumele kukhishwe futhi ngokucophelela. Ngokuqondene nokugxekwa komuntu, khona-ke, wena-ke uyahamba emaphethelweni olasha njalo lapho uzama ukuphinde ufundise noma uthuthukise. Abesifazane abahlakaniphile bayazi ukuthi umuntu omdala akakwazi ukuguqulwa. Ngakho-ke uma kukhona okungahambisani nawe kumuntu, kufanele uyenze futhi ukwenze kube lula, noma, uma lokhu kuyimfanelo engaxoliseki kuwe, cabanga ngokushintsha umlingani wakho ngesikhathi sokuqala kobudlelwane.
Uma umgxeka umuntu okufanayo okudingayo, yenzeni ngokucophelela futhi ucabange ngengqondo yomuntu. Isibonelo, okugqugquzela kakhulu ukuguqula umgxeki ngumuntu ogxeka isenzo esithile, hhayi umuntu wonke. Ungayifani nanoma yikuphi okunye. Kungcono ukuthi uthi: "Ngangikhathazekile izolo, lapho uhlale utshele ngemuva kwesondo" kunokuthi: "Uzophuza njalo uhambe egaraji, hhayi njengoVasya." Kungcono nakakhulu, amadoda angagwetshiwe ngokuthi "isijeziso" sokungaziphathi kahle, kodwa ukungabi nokudumisa. Uma umuntu ejwayele ukwamukela kusuka ekubongeni kwakho kanye nempendulo ehlala njalo, ngokungabikho kwayo, uzobona ukuthi wenze okuthile okungalungile, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi ulungele ukuqondisa, noma uqhubeke nengxoxo enengqondo nawe.
Uma uzama ukuhlaziya amaphutha angaba yingozi ekuthandeni kwakho nobuhlobo bakho nabesilisa, ungabheka izindlela zokupheka zomhlaba jikelele. Thina, eqinisweni, sikutshele ngamaphutha ajwayelekile wesifazane, kodwa khumbula ukuthi akukho lutho olungcono kunokukhulumisana okucacile kanye nolwazi lwalokho umuntu wakho acabanga ukuthi kuyiphutha, futhi yini engayinaki ngisho nokuyilalela.