Eqinisweni, uma kwenzeka: Ngithanda kokubili okumele ngikhethe, angazi, awukwazi ukulungisa noma yini kuhlaka olulodwa olujwayelekile. Ngayinye "Ngiyakuthanda" kunezici ezithile ezidingeka ukuthi zicatshangelwe ukuxazulula inkinga. Ngakho-ke, sidinga ukulingisa isimo lapho lokhu "ukuthanda khona kokubili" kusukuma khona, bese ukubhekana nayo.
Ngakho-ke, kungani ngingakwazi ukukhetha? Ake sithi intombazane ithi "Angazi", ngoba isimo esilandelayo sesithuthukile. I-heroine yethu iyinkosikazi encane. Akuyona umbuzo wokukhetha othile ozongena naye ukuthi ashade esikhathini esizayo esiseduze. Unomfana osemusha. Lona uthando lwakhe lokuqala, oludala lwangempela, olwalulindela futhi olude lufuna. Kuzo, ekuboneni kokuqala, konke kuhle kakhulu. Kodwa, eqinisweni, kukhona abaningi "Angazi" nokuthi "Angikuqondi." Le nkosikazi ibona amaminithi akhe kuye, icasuliwe futhi iyakhathazeka, kodwa iyaqhubeka ikholelwa emicabangweni yakhe nasekusasa labo eliqhakazile.
Kwabe sekuvela enye insizwa. Izici zangaphandle nezici, uhluke ngokuphelele nesoka lakhe. Futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, okokuqala akazenzisi ukuthatha indawo yakhe. Ungumngane omuhle, mhlawumbe umzalwane, onokungahlali kahle ngaye ngokomoya nangengqondo. Kodwa-ke, lapho isikhathi sidlula, kuvela ukuthi imizwa ngaye ayifuni nhlobo ubuzalwane. Ubona kule nsizwa indoda futhi iyaqonda ukuthi ayikhathaleli. Futhi, okuthakazelisayo kakhulu, emehlweni akhe kuye afundwa imizwa enobungane. Lapha yilapho isiqalo siqala khona. Indlela yokwenza futhi obani okufanele abe khona? Phela, kubonakala sengathi intombazane iyayithanda kokubili, ngezindlela ezahlukene.
Eqinisweni, kubalulekile, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuqonda ukuthi intombazane iyakwazi ukwenqaba. Futhi kusuka kumuntu osadingeka ayeke. Ngisho nangabe omunye wabafana ababili unikezela ubungane, futhi uyavuma, lobu buhlobo buyoba nzima kuye nakwaye. Ikakhulukazi uma yena engumama nomama angeke adlule ngonyaka, hhayi emibili.
Kulesi simo, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ubani wesaba ukulahlekelwa kakhulu. Futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, okubaluleke kakhulu kuye kubungani balo muntu noma ukuba khona kwakhe empilweni, njengomlingiswa obaluleke kakhulu. Noma kunjalo, umngane omuhle angatholakala, nakuba kuyoba nzima. Kodwa uma kuvela ukuthi lo mfana wayengumthanda wakhe empeleni, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzomane eqale "ukushaya izintambo zakhe." Yingakho udinga ukuqonda ukuthi ubani omthandayo. Ngezinye izikhathi imizwa yethu ixuba futhi ididekile, kodwa uma uzilalela futhi uphendule yonke imibuzo ngobuqotho, khona-ke ungaziqonda wena. Abanye besifazane baphendukela kwisazi sokusebenza kwengqondo ukuze bahlele okuhlangenwe nakho kwabo futhi benze okulungile. Yiqiniso, lokhu kuyindlela, kodwa ungayithola wena.
Okokuqala udinga ukuqonda ukuthi kungani uhamba nomfana osemusha, futhi kungani usondelene kakhulu kwesibili. Mhlawumbe intombazane ayifuni ukuyeka iphupho lakhe noma isaba izinguquko ezinkulu. Ufuna bobabili abasha ukuba basondele ngesikhathi lapho ekugcineni ekhetha ukwenza ukhetho. Kodwa, othile ngeke akwazi ukulinda kuze kube phakade. Lokhu kuzobangela izingxabano nokungavumelani okuzoqala ukubangela ubuhlungu. Ngakho-ke, sidinga okungenani ukucabanga ukuthi isinqumo kufanele sithathwe lapha futhi manje uphendule ngokwakho, ngubani osadingeka ukuthi akhethe uma umbuzo "uba umkhawulo." Uma sifakwa esimweni semingcele, siphendula kuphela ngokwethembeka nangeqiniso. Ukuze ungahlukumezi omunye wabantu abasha ngeze, kubalulekile ukuzwa lesi simo uphendule ngokwakho, yikuphi okudingekayo futhi okubiza kakhulu. Kufana nendoda, hhayi njengomngane.
Futhi, noma ngabe intombazane ingacabangi ngisho nangomshado, kusadingeka ucabange ukuthi ubani obona ikusasa lakhe. Yikuphi kulaba bantu abafuna ukwakha ukuphila nabo. Ubani oyomkhathaza eminyakeni embalwa, futhi angeke akwazi ukuyikhulula kuze kube sekugcineni. Uma owesifazane ephendula ngokuqotho le mibuzo, ngokushesha uyaqonda ukuthi yimuphi wabesilisa okwesikhashana nokuthi ngubani ongunaphakade. Yiqiniso, konke kuhlukile empilweni, futhi ekugcineni amantombazane ashintsha, imibono yabo kanye nezinto eziza kuqala kuzoshintsha. Kodwa, noma kunjalo, uma umuntu efanelwe ngempela yonke imingcele ngamunye wethu ebekayo, ke iphesenti elincane kakhulu kulokho engamthandi ngempela umuntu okhululekile futhi okhululekile manje. Abanye besifazane bayesaba kakhulu ukwenza izinhlelo ngekusasa futhi bacabange ukuphila kwabo eminyakeni embalwa. Ngokuvamile ziqinisile, kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma kungenakwenzeka ukwenza isinqumo, udinga ukubuka ikusasa futhi ucabange impilo yakho ngalunye. Ngemuva kokubona ukuthi ubani ovela ngempela olandelayo futhi eminyakeni eyishumi, ungenza ukukhetha kokugcina.
Yiqiniso, mhlawumbe intombazane, ekugcineni, yeka ukuthanda omunye nomunye. Ekuphileni, kukhona ngempela konke. Kodwa-ke, uma umuntu ecabanga ngokukhetha phakathi kwabantu ababili abathandekayo kakhulu, manje okwamanje, le mizwa ingokoqobo futhi inkinga kufanele ixazululwe lapha futhi manje. Uma kungenjalo, kuzoba i-snowball, lapho abaningi abangase bahlupheke khona.
Sonke, sizama ukwakha ubuhlobo, ngezikhathi ezithile, sibhekene nenkinga yokuzikhethela. Omunye uxazulula ngokushesha, othile kancane, othile ulungile, futhi othile ulungile. Yiqiniso, kufanele uzame njalo ukukhipha ukhetho lokugcina. Ngakho-ke, kufanele uhlale ucabanga ngalokho okuzokwenza kube ngcono kuwe. Futhi akukhona ngobugovu. Kalula, uma kuziwa ekuthandeni, akudingeki uzame ukwenza wonke umuntu azizwe enhle. Enxantathu yothando, othile uzohlala egula. Kodwa, uma ubona ukuthi othile ulinde futhi aziphathe kahle, kodwa omunye umkhuba ongadinga ukuwuqeda, khona-ke kudingeka uzame ukuyeka eceleni ukungabaza futhi wenze lokho inhliziyo ikutshela khona ngempela.