Kulimaza futhi kuzuze ukushaya indlwabu - imithi

Eminyakeni yamuva, ngemizamo yabalingani bezocansi kanye nezengqondo, ukuzithokozisa okuncane kuye kwaxoshwa ekuvinjweni. Manje asisabhekwa njengesihlamba ukuzwa i-orgasm "ngokuthula nawe", njengoba kwakunamashumi eminyaka edlule. Yiqiniso, umbono womphakathi awuzange uthuthuke kuze kube manje ukubeka umsebenzi onjalo ngokuhambisana nokuphuza itiye nsuku zonke. Kodwa, noma kunjalo, kubantu abangashadile ukushaya indlwabu kubonakala njengendlela enhle yokuphuma kweso simo. Kodwa kumuntu oboshwe ngomshado, lokhu kusabhekwa njengento ehlazozayo. Yiziphi izinkinga nezinzuzo zokushaya indlwabu - imithi inikeza izimpendulo eziphelele kule mibuzo.

Ingabe kukhona ukulimala ngokushaya indlwabu kwabesifazane

Ama-sexopathologists ayazi ukuthi abantu bayakwazi ukuzwa i-orgasm hhayi kuphela ngesikhathi sokulala ngokocansi. Abantu abaningi bavuma ukuthi lokhu kwenzeka kubo ebuntwaneni, isibonelo, ngezifundo zempilo ngesikhathi sokukhuphuka ngentambo noma ukuzivocavoca ngemigoqo engalingani. Lokhu kungukuthi, kumuntu, imvelo ngokwayo isethwe, ukuthi lo mzwelo ungavela kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ufisa yini. Uma engacabangi ngisho nanoma yini enjalo. Futhi uma kunjalo, kungani kufanele sibheke ukushaya indlwabu ehlazolayo - izenzo ezihlose ukufeza le-orgasm ngaphandle kocansi? Ochwepheshe bezokwelapha baqinisekisa ukuthi, ukwenza ukwaneliseka (uma kunesifiso esinjalo), abaphikisana nemvelo yabo yemvelo.

Inani elikhulu labesifazane liye lavimbela ukuvinjelwa kokushaya indlwabu ngisho nasebusaneni. Futhi, njengoba sebekhulile, abesifazane abanjalo bavuselela into efanayo kakade emadodakazini abo, njalo njalo ku-ad infinitum. Futhi mayelana nabafana, umbono wale nkinga uhlukile kakhulu. Uma umama ebona izibonakaliso zokuqala zokumiswa futhi anentshisekelo yakhe kulokhu okwenzeka emntombazaneni, yena, njengomthetho, uthinta kuphela ukuziphatha kwengane yakhe. Kodwa uma umama ethola indodakazi encane efunda izitho zakhe zobulili, kungenzeka ukuthi uyothuswa.

Ngokusho kobulili, ngezindlela eziningi lokhu ukusabela kwabantu abadala kubangelwa umehluko endaweni yezitho eziseduze kubafana namantombazane. Esigabeni sokuqala socansi singaphandle, kufanele sithathwe njalo lapho sithumela "isidingo esincane". Ngakho-ke, ukuze amadoda athinte indawo yabo yokucabangela ibhekwa njengokwemvelo ngakho-ke akuyona imisebenzi eyingozi. Kodwa kubantu besifazane, ngenxa yesakhiwo sabo sezintambo, izitho zocansi, ngakolunye uhlangothi, zifihliwe ngaphakathi ngaphakathi. Futhi ngakolunye uhlangothi - basengozini kakhulu kuzo zonke izinhlobo zezifo. Yingakho abamaMama beqiniseka ukuthi kusukela endaweni yokuhlola yokulimala ukulimala ngokushaya indlwabu kuyabonakala: kungenzeka ukuthi indodakazi izothinteka, ingenalo ithuba lokuthola ukuvuvukala kwesisu. Ngokombono wokuhlanzeka, ukulimala ngokushaya indlwabu kunokwenzeka kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, obani engqondweni yabo efanele "bayokwenza" ngezandla ezingcolile nezinto ezinothuli embhedeni?

Ingabe kukhona inzuzo yokushaya indlwabu kwabesifazane?

Ochwepheshe bebhekene nenye inkinga. Lapho bemenywa ukunikeza izinkulumo phakathi kwentsha kanye nabantu abasha, othile ovela ekuphathweni kwesikole uzobacela ukuba bangakhulumi ngocansi ngomlomo nokushaya indlwabu. Ngokusobala, lezi zenzo ziphikisana nomqondo wokuziphatha. Abacansi be-sexologists bayavumelana nalokhu ngokunciphisa okukhulu. Ngoba ukuphakamisa umbuzo akuyona indlela engcono kakhulu yokuyixazulula. Ngempela, ngale ndlela ungaqinisa kuphela isimo sengqondo esingalungile mayelana nezenzo ezinjalo ekuqaphelweni kwesizukulwane esincane. Nakuba ucwaningo oluqhutshwa ochwepheshe lubonisa ukuthi uma intombazane eneminyaka engu-12 kuya kwengu-16 inesipiliyoni sokushaya indlwabu, ingaba nezinkinga ezimbalwa kwisigaba socansi ekuphileni komuntu omdala, kunokuba "zizithobe", ezigwema izenzo ezinjalo. Njengoba ubona, kusekhona inzuzo ekubhubheni.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokumelene nokwehluleka kokusakaza amagciwane, ngezinye izikhathi ezibulalayo, njenge-HIV noma i-hepatitis C, lezi zinguqulo ezididekile zokwaneliseka ngokocansi zibukeka ziphephe kakhulu kunokwesilisa ngokobulili. Kodwa-ke omunye ubandlululo luqala ukusebenza ngokushesha. Abalingiswa bavumelana ne-squeak ukuthi ayikho enye indlela yokuphuma kumuntu oyedwa. Kodwa kungani umuntu womndeni kufanele azikhonze yena uma kukhona umlingani othembekile nonokwethenjelwa kulokhu? Ngokombono wabo, ekukhuliseni ukushaya indlwabu kungcolile, ngoba ngaphandle kwalokhu kunzima kakhulu ukukwenza. Kodwa kunjalo?

Ukushaya indlwabu emndenini

I-sexopathologists inezibonelo eziningi zendlela abesifazane abahlala ngokujabula ngayo nabayeni babo noma kunjalo bazinikela ekuzijabuliseni ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene. Isibonelo, omunye umculi osemusha futhi othanda kakhulu, esebenza ntambama ku-studio, ngaleyo ndlela wabangela ukuphefumula okwengeziwe. Ngendlela, ukuzwa ukuthi lo wesifazane njengomphumela waba, wahlukana, ngokusho kwakhe, kulabo abathandana nabo embhedeni nomyeni wakhe othandekayo.

Ngendlela, lokhu yisibonelo esivamile kakhulu. Kubonisa ukuthi abesifazane abashadile bahlanganyela ekushaya indlwabu, hhayi nakancane ngoba banokunganeliseki ngokocansi. Cha nakancane. Kubo, i-orgasm, ebangelwa ngesandla somuntu, akuyona yonke imibala abayitholayo ngezocansi ezigcwele. Iziguli ekwamukelweni kwezifo zocansi zenza ukuvuma okungalindelekile esihlokweni esifanayo. Ngokwesibonelo, owesifazane oyedwa wabhekana nokulala nokulala futhi wangena ngephutha ukuthi ulele ngokuqinile ngemva kokuzethemba. Enye ingumfazi wezamabhizinisi ophumelelayo futhi onamandla, yileyo ndlela ayekhipha ngayo ukucindezeleka ngemva kosuku olumatasa. Owesithathu - ngokuphambene nalokho, wahlela isonto lokushaya indlwabu ngaphambi kokuthatha isinqumo esibalulekile: ngokusho kwakhe, lokhu kwamnika amandla engeziwe.

Bonke babedinga kakhulu ukudala isimo sengqondo esikhethekile, sokuguquka kusuka kwesinye isimo ukuya kwesinye. Kodwa lokhu kuzokwenzeka kuphela uma ukuzineliseka kungabonakali kowesifazane into ehlazozayo, ngisho nangokwesiphambeko ngokujwayelekile. Kodwa ngeshwa, i-rumor ethandwa ayikusizi.

Ucwaningo lwezobuchwepheshe lubonisa ukuthi abesifazane abahlanganyela ekuzivuseleleni ngaphambi komshado, isibonelo, kanye kanye ngesonto, futhi emshadweni balungele ukwenza lokhu ngemvamisa efanayo. Kodwa-ke, ochwepheshe kufanele babhekane nabesifazane abanjalo abazithokozisa ubusha babo futhi ngubani, lapho eseshade, akaqapheli ukuqhubeka nokuhlolwa okunjalo. Bacabanga ukuthi lokhu kuyinto engafanele - ngoba manje banomlingani ohlala njalo. Kodwa abakwa-sexist akuvimbeli kuphela ukushaya indlwabu emshadweni. Baze bafundise iziguli zabo ukuthi zizozivuselela kanjani ukuze zifeze umphumela omkhulu. Ngokombono wabo, lokhu kusiza abesifazane ukuba bazizwe ubulili babo kangcono, ukuqonda okuyiqiniso kobubele babo. Futhi lesi yisinyathelo sokuqala ekuphileni okugcwele nomlingani wakho othandekayo nothando. Okungukuthi, ngaphezu kokukhishwa komzimba (noma "ukushaja"), izinzuzo ezingokwengqondo zokushaya indlwabu zisobala, imithi iqinisekisa lokhu ngeminyaka eminingi yokubheka.

Imibhangqwana eshadile, lapho kungenjalo ngokumelene nokwaneliseka emshadweni, kufanele ukhumbule lokhu: akukho lutho olujabulisa umuntu njengowesifazane onokuzibangela ukuba abe ngumzimba. Kodwa kuphela esimweni esisodwa. Lokhu kufanele kube yingxenye yomdlalo wakho wezocansi ohlanganyelwe, umsizi oqinisa ukuzwa. Uma wenza lokhu yedwa, zama ukungawagoni emehlweni omyeni wakho. Phela, angase acasuke noma athukuthele: "Unayo ngokwanele, mina? Ngabe ngibi kakhulu? "Ngenxa yalokho, ubudlelwane obuqinile bomshado buzoba yingozi. Lesi yisibonelo esisodwa sokulimala kokushaya indlwabu, kodwa hhayi ngesimo somzimba, emndenini. Ochwepheshe bayazi ukuthi izibonelo eziningi.

Ukushaya indlwabu kumadoda

Emadodeni, izinto zihlukile: emva komshado, inani "imihlangano" yokwaneliseka ngokweqile linciphisa ize. Kodwa kuphela uma benesenzo esanele sokuhlanganyela ngokocansi nomkakhe. Uma becabanga ukuthi oxhumana nabo ngokocansi bevela kancane kancane kunokuba umzimba wabo udinga, bangasebenzisa ukushaya indlwabu. Nakuba abakwa-sexologists behluleka ukukhipha inkolelo yokuthi ingubo egciniwe engqondweni yabantu iwukuthi i-prostate gland ingakwazi ukuhlupheka ngaphandle kokujula njalo. Muva nje, odokotela baqhubeka befuna ukuthi inani le-ejaculations kumuntu lizalwa kusukela ekuzalweni. Ngokushesha bafeza "umkhuba" wabo, i ... Ngamafuphi, kungcono ukusindisa - ukugcina ukuguga.

Eqinisweni, isidingo sokuba "ubulili be-solo" samadoda ahlala emshadweni ogcwele ngokuphelele. Isimo kuphela lapho ukwaneliseka okudingwa khona yilowo oshade naye uma ehlupheka nge-ejaculation ngaphambi kwesikhathi. Lesi seluleko sichazwa ukuthi ummeli womuntu ocansini onamandla ongenakho ukushaya indlwabu ngezikhathi ezithile, ngesikhathi sesenzo socansi, "ukukhishwa" kuyashesha kunokomlingani ozinikela okwesikhashana. Okungukuthi, kungase kube usizo ukushaya indlwabu esikhathini esizayo ukwandisa ubulili nomuntu wesifazane.

Ukukhulisa lesi sihloko esibucayi, yiqiniso, asikwazi ukukhuluma ngamacala okuthiwa i-masturbation engapheli. Lokhu kuyisifo sokugula, futhi abakwa-sexopathologists abazicabangi lapho bekhuluma ngabantu abavamile, abanempilo. Isidingo esingenakunqotshwa sokuphumula singokomqondo njalo lapho umuntu ezwa ukulungiswa, futhi owesifazane - ukuvuvukala ngokocansi, kumele aphathwe ngososayensi. Njenganoma yikuphi ukuphambuka emsebenzini womzimba wethu. Lesi simo sibangele ukukhathazeka okuningi kubantu ngakho-ke kufanele kulungiswe - ngaphambili, kungcono.

Ukulimala nokuhlomula kwemithi yokushaya indlwabu kubhalwe yonke imibhalo. Kodwa konke kunganciphisa amathiphu ambalwa. Uma ungadingi ukwaneliseka ngokwabo, uma unelisekile ngokuziphatha okuthakazelisayo nokuhlakaniphile komlingani wakho, bese uyiphonsa ekhanda lakho. Kodwa uma ube nakho okujabulisayo kokushaya indlwabu, futhi wanezela imizwa emisha, ecacile empilweni yakho yomndeni kanye nomyeni wakho, ungazibheki njengesigebengu futhi ungayishiyi. Awenzi lutho olubi. Uthola ithuba elilodwa lokuzivumelanisa ngokuvumelana neqiniso. Futhi uphakamise ubulili bakho ehlukile, ezingeni elingaziwa ngaphambilini.