Kuthiwani uma uthando seludlulile?


Usuku lokuqala, ukuzwelana, isithando, uthando, lolu chungechunge lobuhlotsheni obonakala ngomzuzwana, noma luhlala isikhathi eside. Uhamba phezu kwamaphiko othando, uphazamiseka ngothando lwakhe, unikeza izimbali, kuholela enkundleni yaseshashalazini, i-cinema. Uqala ukwenza izinhlelo ngekusasa. Umshado uzoba nini? Kuzoba njani? Zingaki izingane ozothola zona? Uzohlala kanjani? Futhi ngolunye usuku, uqala ukungabaza imizwa yakho. Akukho okubi kakhulu kunokungabaza, kodwa ngabe ngabe uthando noma nje ukuthakazelisa. Uqala ukufuna izimpendulo zemibuzo yakho.


Ukuphenya kuzo zonke izinsuku zakho esichithe ndawonye, ​​uyaqaphela ukuthi akayena iqhawe leveliveli yakho, akasizi ngalutho, akahlali njalo. Futhi noma kunjalo, awukwazi ukucabanga ukuhlala naye endlini efanayo.

Futhi umbuzo olandelayo uphakama: uma uthando seludlulile, yini okufanele uyenze? Lokhu kufana nangoloku konke okwenzekile, uqhubekile emaphikweni othando, awukwazi ukulinda ucingo lwakhe, kusuka kwelinye lamaso akhe ujabule. Futhi manje, kwenzekani ngemva kwakho konke? Yiqiniso, ungakwazi ukuphendula yonke imibuzo ngokwakho, ulalele inhliziyo yakho futhi uthole kulokho ofuna ukwazi. Ngaphambi nje kokuba udwebe noma yiziphi iziphetho, cabanga ngakho kahle, mhlawumbe kungokwesaba nje. Mhlawumbe usaba ukwesaba ukuthi impilo yakho iyashintsha, ukuthi uzothathwa inkululeko yakho. Ungaphula yonke into ngokushesha, kodwa kunzima kakhulu ukwakha ubuhlobo. Cishe lokhu kungenye indlela, cabanga ngomzuzwana ukuthi uzoyishiya. Uzohlangana nomunye futhi amnike ukufudumala nokuthandana kwakhe, futhi ungakwazi ukuhlangana nomunye ngokungafani ngokuphelele nesoka lakho langaphambili. Futhi isoka elisha ngeke likunike injabulo yokuphila okwakunikezwa ngaphambili. Ukushintsha kuhlale kusabisa, njalo besaba ukwenza iphutha ekukhetheni.

Kodwa, uma, lokhu akuyona enye i-whim, futhi uthando luphelile ngempela. Uma uthando seludlulile, yini okufanele uyenze? Ngesikhathi esilandelayo ukuphindaphinda amaphutha obudlelwane obudlule. Kumelwe sihlaziye ngokuphelele kusukela ekuqaleni kuze kube usuku lokugcina, kwenzekani, kungani uthando seludlulile. Mhlawumbe insizwa, ikukhathalela ngokungalungile. Noma awunalo ukuthandana, ngaphandle kombhede. Futhi mhlawumbe embhedeni, wayengekho okuhle njengoba kubonakala ekuqaleni. Ubuhlobo obunamandla bwakhiwa ngokuhloniphana nokuthembela. Uma insizwa yakho iqala ukuqamba amanga kusukela ekuqaleni, ngisho namanga amancane, isivele isinika isibonakaliso, ukuze ucabange, nokuthi ngabe kufanele uhlale nomuntu oqamba amanga. Ubulili budlala esinye sezici ezibalulekile ebuhlotsheni, uma kusukela ekuqaleni usuke unesithakazelo, khona-ke ubulili obuzayo bungaba yisimanga. Yiqiniso, ungakwazi njalo ukwenza izinto ezintsha ebuhlotsheni bakho obuseduze, kodwa uzokhathala ngokudlala ama-solos ngaso sonke isikhathi. Esinye isici ebuhlotsheni, kuyinto yokuzilibazisa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yini, into esemqoka ukuthi nonke nithanda. Uma okungenani okukodwa kwezinto ezingenhla ongenazo, kufanele ucabange ukuthi kufanele yini ukuqhubeka lobudlelwane. Futhi into ebaluleke kakhulu ukucabanga ngayo lapho ukhetha isoka elilandelayo, ukuze ungaphindi amaphutha odlule.

Unqume ukuthi uthando lusephelile. Indlela yokutshela lokhu kumthandi wakho wangaphambili? Into esemqoka, kulokhu, hhayi ukucasula umuntu, akenzanga lutho olubi. Ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza, ngaphandle kokuphikisana, vele ushayele ingxoxo enzima futhi uthi ngokucophelela ukuthi phakathi kwakho konke sekuphelile. Ungaqali ingxoxo ngeqiniso lokuthi ungumuntu omuhle, omuhle, futhi kungcono uhlale ubungani. Konke lokhu kunjalo futhi ngeke kumsize noma yini. Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ingxoxo, lungiselela ngokwengqondo, thatha amagama afanele, wazi kahle. Kuhlale kudingekile ukuba usakaze kahle, ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza nokuhlambalaza, empilweni noma yini engenzeka, mhlawumbe uzohlala ndawonye futhi ujabulele ukuphila.