Akakwazi ukukhohlwa intombi yakhe yangaphambili
Ungachaza kanjani ngempela ukulahla komuntu ebuhlotsheni? Futhi kunokuba abamele ubulili obunamandla bachaza ukungabaza kwabo ukubopha inamba enzima?
Okokuqala futhi cishe izizathu eziyisisekelo - akakwazi ukushiya intombi yakhe yangaphambili ekhanda lakhe, obengumngane wakhe omkhulu. Ngisho nokubonakala kowesifazane omusha empilweni, naphezu kwesimo sakhe esingokwemvelo, angathola amacebo ahlukahlukene ku-intombi yakhe yangaphambili: u-nostalgia, ukuzisola ukuthi konke kwenzeka, isifiso sokuphenduka, ukwesaba ukuphindaphinda le ndaba. Njengomthetho, kungaba khona izimbangela eziningi futhi esimweni ngasinye ngabanye bodwa futhi bancike ngokuqondile kulokho okubangele ukuqhuma. Yilokho ngenxa yalesi ndoda yonke imizamo yabesifazane yokusondela kuye ayizinaki. Phela, enhliziyweni yakhe nasengqondweni yakhe wayehlala engaphambili, okungenzeka ukuthi wayephupha ngekusasa elihlangene. Kuzosiza ngesikhathi esifanele, noma okungenani, usizo lwesazi sengqondo. Kufanele nje ube nesineke futhi ulinde, uzama ngazo zonke izindlela ukuze ubonise ukuthi okhethile ozobe eseduze nawe uyoba ngcono kunokuba naye.
Abesifazane abahlukumezayo muzhchinam ukungatholi
Abamele ubulili obuqinile balungele ukunganaki isinyathelo sokuqala esivela kowesifazane kanye nemizamo yakhe yokubopha inoveli uma le ndoda, kusukela ekubukeni kwayo, isebenzisa izindlela ezingavunyelwe. Ingasetshenziswa ngokuphepha: imihlangano ejwayelekile futhi "engajwayelekile" emgwaqweni (e-cafe, ibha) Ukuziphatha okungenakuqhathaniswa nakho kuyaphendula ukuqonda okunamandla kwe-romantics enzima. Futhi into yukuthi wonke umuntu uthanda inkululeko futhi lapho ebona ukucindezelwa ohlangothini lomfazi, lokhu kuyamethusa ngokucacile, uma lona wesifazane ofanayo okwamanje engekho kuye. Lapha umbuzo ngokwawo uphakamisa: "Futhi kuzokwenzekani uma siqala ukuhlangana noma sizoqinisa ubudlelwano bethu ngomshado?".
Futhi, i-postulates ye-okuthiwa "ikhodi yalowo muntu" idlala indima enkulu, okulandelayo lapho isinyathelo sokuqala kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi sivela kumuntu. Ukukhuthazela nokuqinisa kuyinto yinto yayo. Kodwa owesifazane kufanele avezwe yizici ezinjenge-complaisance, ubumnene, kodwa hhayi ngaso sonke isimo sengqondo sesilwane, esilungele ukulimaza kumfana, njengokungathi emhlatshelweni futhi ngazo zonke izindlela amenze abe ngumgcini wakhe, futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi nomyeni wakhe.
Kodwa-ke, lokhu, akusho ukuthi kufanele uhlale ngaphandle kokwenza okuthile futhi ulinde "isimo sezulu olwandle", lapho umuntu ngokwakhe eyokwenza isinqumo (ngesizathu esingaziwa) ukuya esigabeni sobuhlobo obukhulu. Amadoda ayinhle kakhulu, ayenesimanga kakhulu futhi atholakala kancane kancane. Ukwazi kancane kancane "ukujwayela" umuntu ngokwakho, bese ungenaso isikhathi sokubheka ngeso, njengoba uzothatha isinyathelo sokuqala futhi akubize ngokusemthethweni intombazane yakhe ethandekayo.
Amadoda ayesaba ukwenqaba
Ngokusemthethweni, amadoda ayenamathuba okubamba ngisho namamaki abaluleke kunazo zonke okubhekwa kowesifazane futhi azihlukanise ngokuphelele, abhekiselwa kubani, kodwa inhlanganisela eyinkimbinkimbi yezinkomba kanye nezibonakaliso zokunakekelwa ngokuqinisekile kuyobaholela ekuphambukeni. Ukukhathazeka ngokukhethekile ukuqonda wonke la maqhinga namasu wezinsikazi ngisho nokuya kumculi wezengqondo umbuzo: "Akasho yini ukuthi uyangithanda?" Cishe ube nomuzwa ongajabulisi lapho uhlezi ekhaya efonini ngethemba lokuthi lizothatha (ikakhulukazi uma le kholi ibaluleke kakhulu kuwe). Kuyinto engaphephile ukuthi yenza enye i-trophy, uhlole amakhono akhe okukhanya kwangempela - isimo esimiso esihambisana naso sokuqala (hhayi njalo okokuqala) usuku. Iqiniso elidinga ukwazi ukuthi amadoda, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi angazwakala kanjani, angazwa umuzwa ohlukile. Futhi lo mzwa ungavela ngisho nangemva kokuxhumana kocansi. Futhi kungazelelwe kungenzeke ukuthi akakwazi ukuqonda ngokugcwele zonke izinkolelo namaphupho owesifazane obeka phezu kwakhe, ebona naye endimeni yesoka lakhe, noma kungenzeka ukuthi owesifazane uzama ukumnqoba, efuna ukufaka olunye uphawu kumkhawulo wakhe "Inhliziyo Ephukile"! Ngakho ukwenqaba komuntu kusengabonakali ukuthi akafuni ubuhlobo nawe. Mhlawumbe lokhu kungokwesaba nje lokho okulindelekile kulezi zihlobo, amathuba okuphela kwawo, njll. Nansi indlela kuphela yokulungisa isimo ukufakazela ukuthi ubuqotho bezinhloso zakhe mayelana nekusasa lakho elihlangene.
Akukaze kuzuze imimoya
Indoda, njengowesifazane, inezizathu eziningi zokwenqaba ubudlelwane (ngisho nangemva kokusebenzisa kahle ekhaya). Sinikeze ezimbalwa kuphela eziphakathi kwezivame kakhulu. Kodwa kufanele kukhunjulwe ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi nganoma yisiphi isizathu indoda enqaba ngokuphindaphindiwe, akufanele neze uvumele ukulahlekelwa yinhliziyo. Linganisa isimo ngokuphelele ngakolunye uhlangothi: mhlawumbe lo muntu akahambisani nawe futhi unelungelo elifanayo lokulahla, njengoba usesimweni esifanayo. Khumbula ukuthi kunabantu abaningi abakhangayo, abathandekayo nabakhululekile abakuzungezayo, ngaphandle kokuphoqelela ukuba balinde isikhathi eside, bona ngokwabo bazonikeza ubuhlobo obungathí sina futhi mhlawumbe esikhathini esizayo esiseduze isandla sakho nenhliziyo yakho.