Ngokuvamile abesifazane bayazi imicabango: "Lapha, bonke abangane abaseduze kakashadile, futhi mina ngedwa." Futhi umcabango wesibili: "Ngenxa yalokho?". "Kungani lokhu kunjalo?". Ngeke singene emininingwaneni, njengabacwaningi bezinkohliso nabaphangi, basho ukuthi thina, uhlotshiswe ubukhohlakali. Lokhu kuyiqiniso wonke amanga kanye nesizathu sokuzala emalini alawo mantombazane angakatholi umlingani wabo womphefumulo. Kodwa, yiqiniso, ungagcizelela ezinye izizathu nezimpendulo zombuzo: "Kungani abesifazane bengakwazi ukushada?".
Ungumuntu osebenza ngokweqile futhi unake kakhulu umsebenzi.
Yiqiniso, cha, uma ungumchwepheshe omuhle ensimini yakho, futhi unike isikhathi sakho sonke ukusebenza - konke kuyamangalisa. Ngendlela, kusebenza ukuthi ungathola owakhethile. Uma ubheka ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukukhathazeka ngokweqile komsebenzi wakho, kuthatha isikhathi esiningi kuwe ukuthi awunawo ngisho nesikhathi sokusungula impilo yakho.
Ufuna kakhulu ukushada.
Lapha kusho ukuthi iphupho lakho lizibonakalisa kakhulu kangangokuthi wonke umuntu ozungezile, ikakhulukazi amadoda, izaziso. Uma ukhuluma ngekusasa elihlanganyelwe elizayo, ukuthuthela efulethini, ukuzalwa kwengane ... Konke lokhu kungesabisa umuntu oqale naye ubuhlobo ezinkathini zokuqala.
Ukudinga ngokweqile okhethiweyo wakhe.
Ngeshwa, lesi sici sincike kakhulu eminyakeni yobudala. Njengoba, lapho uneminyaka engu-18, uvale amehlo akho futhi ulalele imizwa nemizwelo yakho. Futhi awukwazi ukuzakhela ukukhetha okulungile kwezidingo kumuntu wakho.
Kodwa uma uneminyaka engama-30, unesethi sezimfanelo ezithile ozithandayo okufanele abe nazo. Futhi noma yiziphi izisusa ezisekelwe ku-logic yakho, akuzona ezokugcina ozikhethile. Endaweni ethile lokhu kungase kube kuhle, kodwa futhi kubi, ngoba wena ongaphansi komqondo uzoba nomqondo wokuthi udinga indoda enhle, futhi akekho abantu abanjalo kuleli zwe noma bambalwa kakhulu.
Akukho ndawo lapho ungahlangana khona.
Ngokwezibalo, imihlangano eminingi nomlingani ozayo uzokwenzeka ezindaweni lapho ufunda khona noma usebenza. Kodwa kwenzeka ukuthi sekuyisikhathi eside usuqedile izifundo zakho, futhi bonke abesemsebenzini bashada.
Abanye abantu bavame ukuhlangabezana nothando lwabo ngengozi. Kodwa akudingeki ukuba uthembele ekupheleni kwesikhathi kuphela. Udinga ukwenza umzamo wokuthola oshade naye ozayo. Isibonelo, abangani bakho bangakunikeza umuntu othakazelisayo.
Namuhla, ukuthandana kwe-intanethi kuthandwa kakhulu. Le ndlela yingozi, ngoba kukhona abantu abacindezela imali kulabo abangase bathandane nomlingani wokuphila wangempela. Kodwa kukhona amadoda avamile ngempela. Cishe abalingani abangamashumi amabili abaxoxwa nguwe, uzothola ukuthi esikhathini esizayo kuyoba yisiphetho sakho.
Ungaya eholidini noma uhambele imicimbi ehlukahlukene, futhi ngale ndlela akufanele inganakwa. Ngokuvamile, ungahlangabezana nomphefumulo wakho womngane nabangane bakho abedlule nabalandeli.
Into esemqoka yukuthi endleleni eya ephusheni lakho awuwenzi amaphutha: ushada ngoba ushada.
UJulia Sobolevskaya , ngokukhethekile isayithi