Lesi yisikhathi esinzima kakhulu empilweni yomndeni, isiphetho sibonisa umndeni ngokuvivinya amandla eminyano, ukwethembeka, uthando. Futhi lapha okuningi kuxhomeke kuqala kulowo wesifazane, ngemuva kokuba konke kucatshangwa kusukela ezikhathini zokuqala - umgcini wendawo. Ngokuvamile, imindeni ihlukunyezwa, lapho owesifazane eziphatha ngokweqile noma enomlomo (ecasulwa, nganoma yisiphi isizathu, ukukhalaza i-alamu). Ubuhlobo obunjalo bomshado abuyikuba yilapho ingane ebelethwe khona, lokho kwenziwa ngaphambi kokuba azalwe. Emindenini lapho ubuhlobo obuhle buye kwavela kusukela ekuqaleni, lokhu kwenzeka ngokungajwayelekile. Eminye imibhangqwana ikholelwa ukuthi ukuzalwa kwengane egulayo kuqinisa iminyano yabo. Kodwa kaningi kunalokho akudabuki ngokuphambene nalokho.
Isibonelo esivela ekuphileni.
Ngizokwenza isibonelo, emkhayeni owodwa osemusha umfana wakhula (iminyaka emithathu), futhi umndeni wanquma ukuqala enye. Ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, ukukhubazeka kwenhliziyo kwafunyanwa ebusweni (nge-ultrasound). Umkakhe wayeqiniseka ukuthi bazokwazi ukuqhubeka nokuphila namathuba omuthi wanamuhla wokunqoba lokhu, ingane izokwelapha. Intombazane enhle enezinhliziyo ezintathu yazalwa. Wonke umuntu wayejabule, kokubili umama nobaba nomfana, ngoba manje unodadewabo. Odokotela batshele abazali ukuthi ingane ngeke iphile isikhathi eside, njengoba udonga lwenhliziyo lungenakulinganiswa, kungenzeka ukuthi usebenze, kodwa kubiza. Abazali abaphelelwa yithemba, baqala ukuqoqa imali, bafaka izicelo zezimali ezikhethekile. Imali yokusebenza ngenxa yabakhamuzi basezindaweni nasezifundazweni baqoqwa ngokushesha. Le ntombazane yanikezwa umsebenzi owodwa, kodwa lokhu kwasuswa kwesinye sezinsongo ezintathu empilweni yentombazane. Kuze kube yiminyaka emihlanu kwakudingeka ukuba kwenziwe inombolo yokusebenza. Umama wagxila kakhulu ekuhluphekeni nasekuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe ngokungafani noyise. Waqala ukuhambahamba (okwakwenzeke ngaphambili, okwakwenzeke ngaphambilini), eshiya zonke izinkathazo, emahlombe amancane wesifazane ... eminyakeni emibili noma emithathu yadlula. Futhi kwafika umzuzwana kangangokuthi kwakungenakwenzeka ukuba owesifazane futhi ahlangane nakho, alwe yedwa impilo yentombazane futhi akhuthazele ama-antics omyeni wakhe. Umshado waqhekeka, imbangela yangempela yokuhlukana kwalesi sinyunyana, ngikholelwa, kwakungeyona impilo yintombazane, kodwa isimilo sokuhamba sikayise. Mhlawumbe, mhlawumbe, ukwehlisa okungathí sina futhi wanikeza iqiniso lokuthi le ntombazane yazalwa ngeziphambeko. Izinkinga ezengeziwe, okuhlangenwe nakho okungahlehlisiwe futhi hhayi ubuhlobo obuzinzile. Futhi uyise wentombazane akazange ayeke ngisho nokuthi iqiniso lokuthi emahlombe amancane omkakhe azinakekela izingane ezimbili ezincane.
Esinye isibonelo sokuqhathanisa.
Emndenini owodwa onobungane obufudumele, obusondelene bomshado kwakukhona owokuqala onokuhlukana okukhulu. Abazali kunzima kakhulu ukuphila. Umyeni wavuma ukuthi uzobe eshaqile futhi efaka isahlukaniso, wafakaza ngokukhetha kwakhe. Umkakhe wayebonakala sengathi akahlakaniphile, omuhle, futhi kuphela iphutha lakhe lokuthi ingane yazalwa igula. Umkakhe, ngokuphambene nalokho, wayeziphatha ngokuhlakanipha, engahlali entabeni, futhi akazange anakekele kuphela ingane, kodwa futhi nomyeni wakhe. Ngaphandle kokunikeza okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe, wabheka, njengakuqala, ikhaya lakhe. Futhi ngenxa yalokhu kuziphatha ukuthi umshado awuzange uhlukane, futhi ubudlelwane phakathi kwalabo abashade bafika ngokushesha kumfudumalo ovamile futhi obushushu. Ngemuva kwalokho, izingane ezimbili ezempilo zivele emndenini. Futhi ngokwemibhangqwana, umndeni wabo unamandla futhi unobungane.
Kusukela kulezi zibonelo kubonakala ukuthi uma ubudlelwane bomndeni bebekwe kuqala othandweni nokuthembeka, umntwana ogulayo akagcini nje ekuholeni ekuhlanganyeleni kweyunyunyana, kepha kunalokho waqinisa. Futhi kulabo buhlobo lapho konke kwakungekho okuhle kakhulu ngaphambili, ukuzalwa komntwana ogulayo kwaholela ekuphuleni ebuhlotsheni bomshado.
Uma ukholwa izibalo ...
Ngokusho kwedatha yocwaningo, futhi ngokusho kokubona okuvela eceleni, ukuphazanyiswa kobudlelwane bomndeni kungathinteki ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo kwengane, kokubili okunempilo nokugula. Ziyakwazi ukubhekana nezimo ezicindezelayo, ngezinye izikhathi zidinga ukuhlolwa kwezokwelapha (ukubekwa ezibhedlela zengqondo, noma ukuqapha ngumuntu wezifo zengqondo). Kukhona ukubonakaliswa okungokomzwelo okungavamile - ukuphazamiseka njalo ngaphandle kwesizathu, ukuhlukumezeka, ubudlelwane obunzima bokusebenzisana. Ukubonakaliswa okunjalo ikakhulukazi kuthinteka yizingane ezinokukhubazeka kwengqondo. Ngokuvamile amantombazane akhuthazelela kalula ukuphumula komndeni, ngokuqondene nabafana, bazizwa kulula kakhulu uma ngemuva kokuphuka phakathi kwabazali, okuhle, ubudlelwane obuseduze bugcinwa. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ngemuva kokuqeda ubuhlobo, ungazami ukudlala enganeni - ukuphindisela kumyeni, ukuvimbela ukuvakashelwa kwakhe nengane. Ungaphazamisi ubudlelwane babo obuseduze, sebevele behlehlisiwe, futhi uzokwenza kube nzima, kungaba nzima kakhulu, kuyothinta ingane, ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo kanye nomlingiswa. Ungakhothameli ingane eceleni kwakho, uthele udaka kubaba wakho, kusukela kulokhu ingane ingabi nokuzethemba. Ungabonisi umbi wakho phambi kwengane. Kuhlehlisiwe kabi konke lokhu kubantwana abaneziphambeko. Futhi, ungasusi umlutha wakho, ungamgibeli ingane, umjezise, umbeke ekhoneni, futhi okubi nakakhulu uma ejezisa ngokomzimba (ukushaya ibhande, ukubopha). Njengoba izifundo zibonisa kaningi, ngakho-ke, izingane ezikhuthele kakhulu ziyathinteka, okungukuthi, zivinjelwe, njengokungathi, ngaphansi kwezinyawo zazo futhi kunzima ukuma. Kodwa-ke, ukusetshenziselwa isijeziso sangokomzimba akuvimbeli izingane ezinjalo, kuzoholela emisebenzini eyengeziwe, noma kuzobekwa ngaphansi komcabango futhi, uma ufike ekushiseni okuthile, uzothululela. Kungcono ukuqala ngokwakho esimweni esinjalo, kube njengokuqeqeshwa, uthintane nesazi sengqondo. Hlaziya isimo sakho, nokuthi sithinta kanjani abangenacala, ngakho-ke bahlukumeza ingane.
Futhi ukunakekelwa okukhulu kwengane akuyona into enhle kakhulu. Ingane, yena, njengephepha le-litmus ithatha yonke into futhi ithatha ukusabela kwayo esimweni. Ngokunakekelwa okukhulu, angaba nobugovu kakhulu, futhi esevele esekhulile nangomntwana onjalo uyobe engenakwenzeka. Ngeke avumele ukukholelwa noma ukujeziswa ngokomzimba. Uyobe esinciphise izakhiwo eziguquguqukayo, kuzodingeka abe nomzali njalo eduze. Kungcono ukuhlakulela ubudlelwane lapho umama ezama ukuqonda ingane, izinkinga zakhe, futhi-ke, akakhohlwa ngamanye amalungu omndeni.
Njengoba sibona, ngobudlelwane obuthakathaka emndenini onezingane ezigulayo, azihlali njalo, ezihle.