Owesifazane ozayo: izici zemfundo yamantombazane

Abantu abaningi maduzane bazenze sengathi akekho umehluko phakathi kwamadoda nabesifazane. Futhi uma umuntu omdala angakwazi ukuzikhethela lokho okungafani nenye yezocansi, ngakho-ke nezingane le ndlela ayilona nje engalungile, kuyingozi. Amantombazane nabafana abalingani okungenani ngokomzimba. Nokho, ngokwengqondo, abantwana bezocansi ezahlukene bahluke phakathi kwabo. Lokhu kuyiqiniso eliqinisekisiwe.

Indlela yokufundisa indodakazi yakho ukuze ingamlimazi?

Ukungezwani kwengqondo

Izidingo ezingokwengqondo nezifiso zezingane zobulili ezahlukene azibalulekile, kodwa ziyahlukahluka. Ngokuba intombazane ibalulekile:

• thola ukunakekelwa okwengeziwe. Uma laba bafana bekhetha ukuzibusa, amantombazane kufanele athole uthando;
• funda ukwethemba. Ngokungangabazeki, kula madoda lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu, kodwa owesifazane ngezinye izikhathi uxhomeke ngokuphelele kumyeni wakhe. Sikhuluma ngokukhulelwa kanye nokuzalwa kwengane okulandelayo. Uma ngalesi sikhathi lihlale lihlushwa ukwesaba nokungathembeki, akukho okuhle okuyovela kulo. Futhi ungathembela kuphela ukuthembela ebuntwaneni;
• funda ukuba uqotho ekunakekeleni. Umama wesikhathi esizayo (nakuba lokhu, akuyona nje indima yendodakazi yakho kuphela, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu) kufanele ukwazi ukunakekela abanye ngobuqotho. Ebuntwaneni, kulula ukutholela amaphethini wokuziphatha okunjalo, ikakhulu uma ekhona emndenini.

Yini abazali okufanele bayenze?

Lapho ukhulisa intombazane, abazali kufanele banamathele emithethweni eyisisekelo. Noma kunjalo, zifanelekile kubazali babafana. Ngaphandle kokunye okulula ukufunda ngokuqondile. Ake siqale kusukela ekuqaleni: Yiba isibonelo kumntanakho:

• zonke izinhlobo zezenzo zokuziphatha izingane zithatha ngenkathi zibuka abazali bazo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi udinga ukubonisa ngesibonelo sakho siqu ukuthi ungaziphatha kanjani. Umama kumele abe ngowesifazana, ozethembayo, ezolile;
• iseluleko esihle nesibonelo ngeke kube ukuthi uzifihla kanjani ukwehluleka kwakho, ngokuphambene nalokho. Bonisa ingane ukuthi wamukela izinkinga ezikhona, bese usebenza nabo.

Thuthukisa izimfanelo ezinhle kusukela ebuntwaneni:

• Ukuheha intombazane emsebenzini wesikole nokuthuthukiswa ekhaya. Kungani owesifazane kufanele enze lokhu? Amadoda ngezindlela eziningi aqondi ukuthi "induduzo" yiphi. Bangazizwa, kodwa abakwazi ukuyidala. Owesifazane, ngokuphambene nalokho, kukhona umuzwa wokuthi ungayisebenzisa kanjani kahle indlu. Ngakho-ke, kulula kakhulu ukufaka imikhuba emihle kule ndawo ebuntwaneni.
• ukunakekelwa komuntu siqu. Uma iningi lamadoda lingakwazi ukukhokha ngokukhethekile ukubukeka kwabo futhi isebenze ngempumelelo, ngakho-ke nabesifazane konke kuhluke ngokuphelele. Intombazane kufanele ibheke okuhle, ngumphakathi wokumphoqa. Uyakwazi ukulwa nalesi simiso, kodwa ukubona okude kakhulu kuzokwenza kube ngcono ukunambitha, kumfundise ukugqoka kahle, ukudweba, isitayela izinwele zakhe. Ama-flash drive nezinhlamvu zabo ezizithandayo ze-cartoon "ezihlokweni zebesifazane" zingabasiza kakhulu emfundweni. Imidlalo e-intanethi mayelana nokuhlobisa nokuhlanza indlu, ukupheka imidlalo, imidlalo yama-makeup abaculi kanye namasikethi kanye nabanye abaningi bayosiza ukwakha umuntu osemncane umqondo womnotho kanye nowesifazane.

Ukuhlanganyela ngokugcwele kukababa emfundweni:

• engxenyeni kababa intombazane kufanele yamukeleke futhi ithande. Khumbula ukuthi kuvela esimisweni sokukhulumisana nobaba ukuthi intombazane izoqala ukukhetha indoda yakhe yesikhathi esizayo. Ngakho-ke, upapa cishe ubophekile ukuba aziphathe njengendoda: ukukhuluma ukuncoma, ukusekela, ukuvikela;
• Uma kungekho ubaba emndenini, thola esinye isibalo esibalulekile sesilisa. Kungaba ngumkhulu noma umfelandawonye noma umfowenu, umzala wakho noma umalume wakho, umngane womndeni oseduze. Akufanele bathathe isikhundla sikababa, kodwa kufanele kube yisibonelo sendlela umuntu okufanele abe ngayo. Uma umuntu onjalo engaveli empilweni yengane, izinkinga zokuxhumana nobulili obuhlukile azikwazi ukugwema.

Indlela eyakhayo yokujeziswa:

• imizwa yentombazane ijwayelekile. Ngokuvamile isiphepho esingokomzwelo ekuphenduleni isijeziso singaba namandla kangangokuthi ingane ngeke iqonde ngisho nokuthi yini ejeziswe yona. Ngakho-ke, ungasheshi ukufunga. Okokuqala, chaza ukuthi iyiphi inkinga, lokho intombazane eyonile. Futhi uma ucabanga ukuthi isijeziso ngokwaso kufanele sibe, landela ngemuva kwezincazelo.

Kunzima kakhulu ukufundisa noma yimuphi ingane. Kodwa ungesabi umthwalo wemfanelo. Bonisa kusibonelo sakho ukuthi ungathanda kanjani indodakazi yakho ukuba iphathe esikhathini esizayo. Futhi ungaphanga kakhulu. Ukunakwa akulona ukulingana nokuzijabulisa. Futhi lo wesifazane usongela ukuthululela emculweni onjalo ongajabulisayo njengobugovu nokuhlakanipha. Mhlawumbe, amanye amantombazane awunazo izici ezikhethekile, okuyinto enengqondo ukukhokha ngokukhethekile. Akubalulekile nakanjani ukwenza indodakazi yakho encane idlale kuphela kuma doll noma ukhethe ukuzilibazisa kwabantu besifazane. Into eyinhloko ukuthi indodakazi kufanele ikhule ukuze ijabule, inomusa futhi iqiniseke yona ngokwayo namandla akhe, futhi lokhu kuzosiza uthando lwabazali nokusekela ezimweni ezinzima.