Kwabaningi besifazane, into enjalo njengenkinga yabesifazane iminyaka engamashumi amathathu iba yinkinga ephuthumayo. Owesifazane ufanisa isimo sangempela nemibono yakhe ngokuphila futhi ngokuvamile owesifazane uzizwa enganeliseki ngomphumela owenziwe. Owesifazane unomuzwa wokuthi impilo yakhe ayinalutho, kanye nomzwelo wokunganeliseki ngaye wonke, ngenxa yalokho ukucindezeleka okungavela khona.
Abaningi bazibuza ukuthi kungani ineminyaka engu-30 ubudala owesifazane ebhekwa njengesihluthulelo? Ngokujwayelekile ngalesi sizukulwane, abesifazane banokuzikhethela "," baba ngumalokazana, umfazi, umama, mhlawumbe, wayebanjwe ochwepheshe. Kulokhu, uye wandisa umthwalo kubantu abakuzungezile, imithwalo yemfanelo eminingi. Izingane zithatha isikhathi esiningi namandla, futhi isikhathi esincane nesincane kakhulu kubo nakumaqembu. Ngisho lokho okwaletha injabulo nenjabulo, manje sekuyisimiso lapho umuntu uqobo lwakhe elahlekile. Abaningi besifazane kule nkathi baphazamisa impilo yabo kuqala. Uma owesifazane eqhubekile njengomfazi nonina, umsebenzi wakhe wezobuchwepheshe uba yinto yokuqala. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma owesifazane ebanjwa njengomsebenzi, uqala ukuzibona njengomfazi nomama.
Kule minyaka yobudala kubalulekile ukuba owesifazane abe "nokungena" kwengqondo (kungakhathaliseki ukuthi usemsebenzini, ekhaya noma phakathi kwabahlobo). Kungase kube khona inkinga, uma owesifazane ejabule, umsebenzi wakhe uletha injabulo, ubuhlobo bomndeni noma impilo yakhe yenze kahle. Ikakhulukazi inkinga yeminyaka engamashumi amathathu izwa yilabo besifazane abangenayo impilo yomuntu siqu, banokungazinzi kwezobuchwepheshe. Bese baqala ukuhlola impilo yezintombi zabo, abaphila kahle emsebenzini wabo, banomyeni nabantwana. Futhi uma owesifazane engenawo "indawo", angase acindezeleke.
Khona-ke ukuphila kungabonakala kungenanzuzo, ngoba akekho olindele ekhaya, futhi uma uhlangana noontanga nomntwana emgwaqweni, ukuzwa okungaqondakali kwesifazane kuyokwandisa nakakhulu. Kunoma yikuphi isimo kubalulekile ukulondoloza amandla omoya nokukhipha ngokwanele le nkinga yokuphila. Kodwa lokhu kungenziwa kanjani?
Okokuqala uzithande ngokwakho, qala kuwe ngokwakho kunake kakhulu, njengaseminyakeni encane. Qinisekisa ukuthi uthole isikhathi sokwenza izinto ozithandayo - udwebe, uhlanganise, uhlanganise, ubeke. Qaphela umzimba wakho - vakashela ubuhle be-salon, uthathe okugeza okumnandi. Injabulo izoletha kanye namakilasi eqenjini (bhalisa, ngokwesibonelo, ekwenzeni i-gym, ekliniki yokuzivocavoca). Ngaphezu kwalokho, isifundo ngeke sijabulise kuphela ukukhulumisana okusha, kodwa futhi sibonisane.
Okufanayo kunconywa abesifazane abashadile, ngoba uma umama wakho enemizwa emihle, khona-ke uzokwazi ukunikeza izingane ngaphezu kwalokho uma ecasukile futhi ekhathele. Kunconywa ukuthi abesifazane abashadile bavuselele ubuhlobo babo nomlingani babo, ikakhulukazi uma ukushayeka kobudlelwane kulahlekile. Shiya izingane kunogogo noma umuntu oseduze naye bese uya enkundleni nomyeni wakhe, noma endaweni yokudlela (noma i-dinner candle light dinner), ngokuvamile, uhlele kusihlwa sothando. Yenza ukwakheka okumangalisayo, gqoka izingubo zakho ezinhle, uzizwe wamukelekile futhi uhle futhi umyeni uzokubuka ngendlela entsha.
Uma umsebenzi ungakulethela injabulo nokwaneliseka, kufanelekile ukushintsha imisebenzi. Cabanga ukuthi uthanda ukukhethekile kwakho, bese uzibuza ukuthi ufuna ukuqhubeka usebenza kulokhu okukhethekile noma uma udinga ukuguqula umsebenzi wakho. Usenayo isikhathi sokushintsha umsebenzi okhethiwe ebusheni bakho.
Kodwa ngokuvamile ngokuvamile imbangela yenkinga ukunganeliseki empilweni yakhe. Emva kwakho konke, uma kungekho muntu osondele eduze komuntu wesifazane, khona-ke konke ukuphikisana komphefumulo wakhe kuyobonakala kubalulekile. Ungalondolozi umshado ongaphumeleli ngenxa yezingane, izingane ezivela kobudlelwane bomndeni phakathi kwabazali ngeke zijabule, futhi owesifazane uzobe ecindezelekile kanye / noma neurosis. Ngezinye izikhathi kubalulekile ukuqala impilo yangasese nge-slate ehlanzekile.
Yenza konke okukududuzayo, injabulo, induduzo, ngoba ngaphandle kwakho, akekho oyokwenza ujabule. Gwema noma yini eyenza ukhathazeke futhi / noma ucindezeleke. Gcwalisa impilo yakho ngemibono ejabulisayo futhi ungacabangi ukuthi kunenkinga yabesifazane besifazane abaneminyaka engu-30!