Kungani ngidinga umlingani wangaphambili?

Yini thina, abesifazane, ngokusemqoka esiyidingayo? Izingane eziphilile, ifulethi lapho umuntu angahlala khona, mhlawumbe okungenani ezintathu, imoto engase iqhutshwe, izimoto ezingaphandle, ukuhambisana nabangane bethu nokuphila, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu umyeni ongasinika konke lokhu. Ngokuvame ukhetho lwethu luwela kulabo abangenakusinika omunye noma omunye, kodwa banganikeza izingane ... futhi izingane zidinga ukukhuliswa ngezimo ezijwayelekile. Yebo, kufanele senzeni, uma singabesifazane yizilwane ezinjalo eziyiziwula. Futhi manje kufanele sidonse amadoda ethu, sifundise futhi sibafundise indlela yokwenza imali. Futhi kuthiwani uma sikhulisa indoda futhi siyikhulule inkululeko? Futhi kuthiwani uma umthandi wangaphambili angasinika konke, futhi okwamanje - lutho. Kungani ngidinga umngani wangaphambili - isihloko sesihloko sethu.

Futhi manje ubiza futhi uthi uthola umsebenzi omuhle kakhulu, lapho esikhathini esizayo ekhanyiselwa phezulu emazulwini. Ibiza esinye isikhathi futhi ithi uyathenga imoto - imoto yangaphandle, futhi akuyona imfucuza lapho. It is okwesithathu futhi uthi uzoya ukuthenga indlu, hhayi indlu yokuhlala eyodwa, kodwa indlu ezintathu. Futhi lokhu kusho ukuthini? Mhlawumbe lokhu kuyisifiso sokubuyisela ubuhlobo, bese ubuza umbuzo - Kungani ngidinga umuntu owayengumthandi - ngoba nje wamenza umuntu ophumelelayo? Futhi uyomthanda kuphela ngalokho? Futhi uzokuthanda futhi akuhloniphe? Noma mhlawumbe ucabanga nje ukuthi ungumngane, futhi ubiza futhi ahlanganyele naye injabulo yakhe nomngane wakhe, ngoba uma uhlukana, uthi "Ngiyaxolisa, ake sihlale singabangane" futhi u-naively ulandela isinqumo sakho. Noma mhlawumbe ufuna nje ukukukhombisa ukuthi yikuphi igolide olahlekile, futhi mhlawumbe ufuna ukuthi ulume izimbambo zakho?

Futhi manje ake sikhulume ngalokho okuyizwa manje kuye nokuthi uyayiphatha kanjani. Yiqiniso, i-ego yesifazane ithi "Ngenzé ngale ndlela, futhi konke akwenzayo, kufanele angenzele," kodwa uzizwa kanjani ngaye? Akukho lutho, intukuthelo kanye nokuhaha kuphela, asifuni ukunikeza omunye wesifazane igolide elinjalo, awuzwa imizwa efudumele kuye, futhi awuqiniseki ukuthi leyo mizwa yayingaphambene yini. Yini okufanele ngiyenze?

Singabantu besifazane! Naphezu kobuwula bethu ne-naivete, sinobuqili futhi singahlala sithola indlela yokuphuma kunoma yisiphi isimo esingenakwenzeka futhi esingenakwenzeka. Into esemqoka ukuyikhumbula ukuthi sonke singakwazi. Kungenzeka kusuka kumthandi wamanje ohlala enhliziyweni yakho, ukwenza okuhle, ukufundisa nokuqonda okufunayo kuye okudingayo ukuba uphile esikhathini esizayo naye ngenjabulo, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu ngobuningi.

Cishe wonke amadoda akholelwa ukuthi abesifazane bangamadalwa akhohlisayo abafuna kubo kuphela imali nemali, izimoto namadayimane, kuphela abaqondi ukuthi kungani sidinga. Imvelo isivele ikhona kithi konke lokhu okubekiwe, ngoba uma ubuka isiteshi se-Animals Planet, sibonisa into efanayo. Isibonelo, indunakazikazi ikhetha owesilisa enezimpondo ezinkulu, ngoba izimpondo ezinkulu zikhomba ubukhulu namandla omuntu, izinhlanzi eziningi zezinsikazi zikhetha abesilisa ngokukhanyisa izikali, izinyoni zezingonyama ziyingonyama ezinezinsikazi ezinkulu ezigcina indawo, kanti abesifazane bakhetha amadoda anekhwama enkulu , ngemoto enkulu kanye nendlu enkulu, futhi ngempela ngothando olukhulu ngaye.

Abantu abaningi baphikisa ukuthi ubulili yisimiso sezilwane, noma sikhuluma ngezinye izibonakaliso zezilwane zasendle, nakwabesifazane - ikusasa lethu eliphumelelayo ukubonakaliswa kwesimo semfuyo, esivela singabesifazane. Ngakho-ke, uma abantu bengakuqondi lokhu, ngoba asikwazi ukulwa nalokhu, futhi asiyikuya, ngoba kufanele sinikezwe konke okudingekayo kithi, ngoba sizalela izingane kubo, kuvamile kakhulu ukuthi izingane - lokhu ukuqhubeka kwabo, hhayi okwethu.

Futhi-ke, emuva lapho siqala khona. Ukubuyela emuva akufanele, futhi ukuzama ukubuyisela othandekayo wangaphambili akufanelekile, ngoba umuntu ongenabuhlungu ubuyela emuva, futhi ngaleyo ndlela uyadlula esikhathini esizayo. Bheka phambili futhi ungaphuthelwa lowo ongakunika lokhu konke okwamanje. Yiba nesineke nomuntu okhethiweyo, ngoba ukuhlambalaza kuyingxenye yakho kuzokwandisa izinkinga zakho kuphela. Kudingekile ukuyiqhubeka kancane kancane nangendlela efanele esikhathini esizayo, ngoba akusizo ize bathi "ngokuthula uzoqhubeka nokuqhubeka". Uthande okwamanje, futhi uyabathanda, unike indoda yakho yonke uthando lwakhe, futhi uzophonsa ngezinyawo zakho konke okufunayo, ikusasa eliphumelelayo elibandakanya kuhlanganise. Kungani udinga owake wangithanda uma unesimo esibucayi nesimanje?