Futhi kuthiwani uma ungabaza uthando lwesigamu sesibili?
Ezimweni ezinjalo, senza ngendlela yethu. Omunye uqala ukulandela isigamu sabo, othile uhlala ethule ku okuthiwa "i-rag", futhi othile uzama ukukhuluma nje ...
Ngokuvamile, isigamu somphakathi wesifazane asiqiniseki ngabantu abathandayo, ngoba amadoda ayiphathe kabi ubuhlobo! Amadoda ngokwawo angabantu abathandabuzayo, naphezu kwalokho "abanemikhawulo yabo." Ubulili besilisa ukungaqiniseki kwabo akuzama ukufihla ukungathí sina ebuhlotsheni futhi baziveze ngokungenangqondo nangezenzo ezingadingekile (umhawu, ngenkathi ushintsha kwesokunxele nangakwesokudla, ungenzi izipho ezitholwa phakathi kokubili ubudlelwane, futhi emva kweminyaka eminingi yokuhlala ndawonye). Ingxenye yesilisa insikazi kangangokuthi iyashaqeka. Bangabaza uthando lwesigamu sesibili bese bezifakazela ngalokhu.
Ungacabangela lesi simo uma ungabaza uthando lenye ingxenye nengxenye. Kungani kukhona ukuchithwa kwamadoda nabesifazane? Abesifazane banesihluku futhi bafana namadoda ukuthi awukwazi ukutshela indoda noma owesifazane. Kulesi simo, intombazane (owesifazane) inedatha lapho bonke abesilisa bobulili bejabula khona futhi kukhona ushintsho lwezimfanelo ezithile.
Sesaba ukweqa ukuziqhenya kwethu, lapho kudingekile, uma singabaza uthando lwesigamu sethu sesibili.
Wonke umuntu unelungelo lakhe. Kungakanani kuthinta ukusesha kwesigamu sakho sesibili? Ngabe sesiqala kanjani ukucela kusuka kwesigamu sethu lokho esikufakile ekuhleleni kwethu? Ungakwazi ukwenza konke okwenzayo ukuyekethisa. Ngokuvamile ngenxa yenkani nokuziqhenya, siqala izingxabano, sidinga izinto ezingezansi. Emva kwalokhu, akukho ukuthembela othandekayo wakho, futhi awusayikungabaza uthando lwakhe.
Uma sibheka isimo lapho, isibonelo, lokhu kwenzeka: umfana nentombazane banquma ukushada, lolo suku olulinde isikhathi eside kwabaningi besifazane, kodwa ngokuvamile lapho abantu benquma ngalokhu, kukhona okuthiwa "u-brake"! Okusho ukuthi, kungukuqala kokungavikeleki kuwe, ungakholelwa othandekayo wakho njalo njalo.
Ezimweni ezinjalo, ngicabanga, okufanayo kuyadingeka ukuqinisekisa ubuhlobo futhi uqiniseke ukuthi awukungabaza uthando lwesigamu sesibili. Kungenzeka ukwenza lokhu ngezindlela ezahlukene. Kukhona uhlelo olunjalo lwethelevishini njenge "Belt of Fidelity", kodwa ngokujwayelekile kukhona okuningi kubo. Uma ufuna ngempela ukuqinisekisa, khona-ke ungaya khona. Okuyinhloko yalezi zinhlelo yilabo othandekayo bakho bahlela isheke. Isibonelo, lena intombazane. Uxoxisana naye ngomhlangano ngesikhatsi esithile endaweni yokudlela, futhi lapho kufika leso sikhathi, shayela bese uthi uzokuhlala isikhashana. Ngokwemvelo, intombazane ihlala futhi iyaqhubeka nokuhlala kule cafe. Ngemva kwesikhashana, insizwa esiteshini se-TV-front ihlala phansi etafuleni futhi usehhovisi ebuka ukuthi kuzokwenzekani ngokulandelayo.
Futhi kukhona ukushintshana okuhlukile. Uma intombazane ingaphuzi lutho, khona-ke ingabe isho ukuthandana nomngane omusha futhi unikeze inombolo yakhe yocingo ... Akusikho okwesabekayo, kodwa uma ebuzwa ukuthi unomfana futhi uphendula ngokuthi "Cha" ngakho konke kucaca, futhi ngicabanga ukuthi intombazane ngeke iphumelele lokhu kuhlolwa. Kunezimo ezimbi nakakhulu uma lona wesifazane eqala ukukhuluma nomfana, bese eqala ukuphuza, futhi uyavuma ukunikeza inombolo yakhe yefoni yeselula kuphela, kodwa futhi uyavuma ukuhlangana nalomfana futhi, nakakhulu nakakhulu, ngakho-ke lokhu kuyinto ngokushesha avumelana naye, isibonelo, ukuyivakashela.
Ngakho-ke, ngenxa yalezi zinhlelo, ungabheka oshade naye futhi uqiniseke ngokwengeziwe kuwo, ngaphandle uma kuphelelwa yisikhathi ngesenzo esihle). Ngeke usabeka ukungathandabuzi uthando lwesigamu sesibili.
Uma ucabanga ukuthi kuyabiza ukwedlulisela ithelevishini, khona-ke ungakwazi ukudlala lesi simo ngokwakho.
Kulula kakhulu: uthumela umngane wakho omuhle ukuba azi kangane nentombi yakho, futhi usendaweni ethile eduze nabo, futhi ubuke ngokuthula isimo esibukeka!
Mina, ngokwesibonelo, ngikholelwa ukuthi ukwethenjwa kungenye yezakhi ezibaluleke kakhulu zokuphila ndawonye futhi akudingeki ukungabaza uthando lomunye uhhafu. Kodwa, njengoba okushiwo yizigaba zakudala, udinga ukuthola ukuthembela kwakho, futhi akulula lokho!
Okokuqala, kudingeka uqiniseke ngokwakho futhi unqume ukuthi yini ebalulekile kulokhu kuphila, bese usufuna isimo sengqondo esifanayo kuwe kubathandekayo bakho! Kuye kwaba njalo futhi kuzoba kubalulekile. Zama ukukhuluma kakhudlwana kubathandekayo bakho mayelana nemizwa yakho, uchithe isikhathi esiningi, uma kungakufaneleki, okungenani izikhathi ezimbalwa ngosuku, uma uhlukile, udinga nje!
Ngakho-ke, bathandekayo! Ngikukwazisa ekuqaleni kwanoma yiluphi ubudlelwane ukuba ube nesineke, uzithembele kuwe kanye nemizwa yakho, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ukugcwalisa i-akhawunti efonini yakho ephathekayo okungenani izinyanga ezimbili zokuqala ukuze uqiniseke ngothando lwesigamu sesibili! Yiyo indlela ongayinqoba ngayo ukwethenjwa komuntu othandekayo kuwe!