Kungani uphupha ukulahlekelwa ngumntanakho?
Ukulahlekelwa okuhambisana nomuntu noma ngisho nengane yangaphandle ngokuvamile kubonisa ukuba khona kokwesaba nokuhlangenwe nakho kumphuphi. Kungenzeka ukuthi lezi zwesaba zingabangelwa izikhathi ezingathandeki zesikhathi esidlule. Njengoba ingane ibonisa ubudlelwane obufudumele futhi obuvulekile, ukulahlekelwa kwakhe kungasho ukufihla nokungazethembisi ngephupho maqondana nabanye abantu. Umuntu akayiboni injongo yokuphila, ayikho inzuzo yezifiso ezintsha. Cishe kungenzeka, lezi zimo zengqondo zingaba umphumela wokukhashelwa noma ukunakekelwa othandekayo owayethande kakhulu kumphuphi.
Encwadini yephupho likaMiller, ukulahlekelwa kwengane akuyona into engaphezu kokulahlekelwa yinjabulo yomuntu. Lo mphupho uyeke ukuzwa injabulo nokukwazi ukuzwelana, konke kungamkhathaleli. Kungenzeka ukuthi impilo enesizotha futhi eyakhayo iyodala ukucindezeleka isikhathi eside.
Ukukhuluma ngokujwayelekile, ukulahlekelwa noma ukukhohlwa ingane ephusheni kuyisignali engalungile. Uma kwenzeka iphupho lifuna ingane yakhe, empilweni yangempela kufanelekile ukulinda ukukhohlisa noma ukudumazeka. Lapho usondelene kakhulu nomntwana, khona-ke ukudumazeka noma amanga okudingeka ulinde engxenyeni yothandekayo.
Kwezinye izincwadi zephupho, ungathola incazelo ehlukile, ethi le ndaba ithembisa ukwehluleka kokulala kuyo yonke imisebenzi yokudala. Amacala ahleliwe azohlala engagcwaliseki. Kungenzeka ukuthi endaweni yakho kukhona abantu abazothokozela ngobuqotho ukwehluleka kwakho, ngakho-ke sincoma ukuthi ubuyekeze kabusha umbuthano wakho wabangane.
Ukwenza ngcono ukuhumusha kungaba nakho kwakho okuphusheni. Uma usaba nokwesaba, ukwethuka nokujabula okukhulu, ukuhumusha okungenhla kungahambisana nokulahlekelwa kwezimali okuphawulekayo. Ungalindela nokuthi maduze uzolahlekelwa idumela lakho langaphambili, isimo samanje emphakathini. Kuzohlala wena kuphela labo abakuthanda ngobuqotho futhi bethengisiwe.
Ukulahlekelwa ukukhulelwa ephusheni: ukuhumusha kanjani?
Ukukhipha isisu noma ukukhipha isisu ephusheni kuyisibonakaliso senkinga, isizungu nokufutheka okunamandla. Ngemva kwendaba enjalo, ungamangazi uma uba yisisulu sokukhohliswa noma ukukhashelwa. Akumangalisi ukuthi basebenzisa wena, futhi uthembela imizwelo namazwi angenangqondo. Ukusesha kwengxenye yesibili kungabuye kuhlehliselwe emuva kwesikhathi, ngoba akekho obaziyo abanengqondo ababikezeli leli phupho. Uma owesifazane ephusheni elahlekelwe ngumntanakhe ngenkathi ekhulelwe, lokhu kungabuye kukhulume ngezinye zezingozi empilweni yangempela.
Isikhathi esithile emva kokulala akusona isikhathi esihle sokukhulelwa. Uma lokhu kubonakala okhulelwe, khona-ke lokhu kuyesaba kwangempela, okushiwo ngisho nasephusheni. Ngakho-ke, zama ukucabanga ngokuhle, imizwelo emibi kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho njalo kubambe iqhaza empilweni embi.
Ukuze ulahlekelwe izingane ephusheni, noma isibonakaliso esibi, kodwa kukukwenza ucabange. Okokuqala, kuyisikhathi sokucabangela kabusha izinkumbulo zakho nokwesaba, okuhlupha umphefumulo futhi unganiki ukuphumula. Futhi kuyisizathu esinzima sokushintsha isimo sakho sengqondo kubantu abathile. Mhlawumbe, ukuvuleka okukhulu noma, ngokuphambene, ukungazethembi kuzodlala nehlaya enonya, ngakho-ke qaphelani!