Lapho abazali bezibona ngokwabo ezinganeni

Ngokushesha noma esikhathini esizayo, empilweni yabantu bonke abadala, umzuzwana ufika uma kudingeka ukuba uzibonele, ukuzifaka emphakathini ukuze ube nencazelo ethile. Lona ngumgomo oyinhloko empilweni yomuntu ngamunye. Uyaziwa yiwo wonke umuntu ngezindlela ezehlukene: umuntu unomqondo wokudala, othile udala umndeni omkhulu, othile unomsebenzi. Futhi othile akaqapheli nhlobo. Kukhona lokhu ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene, kepha ezimweni ezinjalo, abaningi bethu bazama ukuqaphela lokhu ... ngokusebenzisa izingane zethu.


Izingane ziqhubeka nomndeni. Umuntu uyabathanda futhi amaphupho ngabo, kodwa abanye abathandi. Kodwa, ngandlela-thile, sibeka ithemba nethemba lethu kubantwana bethu, sixhumanisa amaphupho ethu asekhohlwa isikhathi eside nabo. Khumbula, obengumntwana oyedwa ongafuni ukuthi abe yiyo: kanye nezimonimoni, nabaculi, nama-veterinaries, nama-confectioners, nabaqhubi ... Kodwa hhayi ekugqibeleni amaphupho abo ebuntwaneni agcwaliseka. Manje sekuyisiko ukufundisa izingane zakho kusukela ebusheni kakhulu ebhizinisini elithile, bambalwa abantu abalinde isikhathi sokubabuza ukuthi bafuna ukwenzani. Kunomthetho ongakhulumi ukuthi ingane ngokwayo ayikwazi ukukhetha indlela yakhe, ikakhulukazi esemncane. Lena umbono ongalungile, ngoba ingane ayikho into engayikhetha futhi ayidingi. Ukuze ungenzi amaphutha futhi ungalimazi ingane yakho, kufanele ubheke ingane yakho: mhlawumbe udonsela noma uthanda ukudansa yonke indawo, noma sonke isikhathi ahlabelela isisusa esithile. Lokhu kwenzeka njalo. Kodwa iphuzu liwukuthi abazali bayaqaphela ukuthi bafuna ukubona izifiso zabo ezingenakwenzeka ezinganeni zabo. Lokhu kungenxa yokunganeliseki kwangaphakathi nangomunye umphumela wokuphila komuntu, ngenxa yemizwa yokungapheleli, ukungakhululeki.

"Ngangifuna ngempela okungenani enye yezingane zami ukuba ngihlanganyele umculo, ngihlabelele," kuvuma owesifazane othile, unina wezingane ezintathu. "Kodwa mina nomyeni wami asinayo ukuzwa noma izwi." Ngakho-ke, akekho noyedwa wezingane zethu onayo, ababili abanakho ukuzwakala kwesigqi. Kodwa ngithemba ukuthi mhlawumbe bangakhula ngandlela-thile. Indodakazi encane yamyisa kumqondisi womculo, wabheka, walalela futhi wambeka isinqumo esibi: konke akusekho ithemba. Ngangithukuthele kakhulu. Nginike indodakazi yami egymini, ngoba ngangifuna ingane iphumelele. Sinezinombolo eziningi, iziklomelo, ngiyaziqhenya kakhulu, kodwa nansi inkinga ngokufunda ... "

Amacala anjalo ajwayelekile. Abazali, ukukhohlwa izinto ezithandwa yizingane zabo, bayathinteka ngokuqaphela kwabo ukuthi ngokungenakuphikelela ukuthi "bafaka" ezinye izinkinga eziningi kubo. Lokhu kungaholela eqinisweni lokuthi ingane izayo esikhathini esizayo ibe namandla izikhathi eziningana ukuze uzizwe engagciniwe futhi ilahlekelwe futhi ibukeke yonke indawo, ngisho nalapho kungekho lutho oluhle.

"Ngiphupha ukuthi ingane yami izongenela ibhola, ngoba inhle kangaka! Ukudansa kwabo, amaphakethe abo! .. - kusho omunye owesifazane. "Nginendodana. Idatha yakhe yomzimba inhle. Ngithumele kumfundisi, konke kwakubonakala kusebenza, kepha lapho sekuyisikhathi sokwenza futhi ukufaka imibhalo, wenqaba ngokuphelele ukuya enkundleni yemidlalo, wathi akayithandi futhi ayifuni. Washiya i-ballet, wangena esikhungweni sezilimi. Ngacasulwa kakhulu ngaye, ngifunga. Kodwa wabe esevuka. Ngenzani? "

Ngempela, ukuqonda imizwa yabazali abafuna ukwenza ingane yabo idume futhi iphumelele, ukuze ibe ngumzali womuntu onethalente kakhulu emhlabeni. Kodwa, ngeshwa, ngokungafani okungajwayelekile, akukona konke lokhu okutholakele, futhi uma kuyenzeka, ngokuvamile kuvame ukufaneleka kwezingane ngokwabo kanye nezokuzilibazisa, kunokuba abazali babo. Ngakho-ke, ungafaki amaphupho akho kubantwana, ngoba kufanele ukuthi babe neyabo.