Ngaphandle kwehlobo, ilanga lifudumala, umoya ozwakalayo ohlaza kanye nothando. Ngakho ngifuna ukuhlangana nomuntu! Kuphela nje ubulili obuqinile bokuthi kukhona uhlobo oluthile lokuziqhenya nabangalungile oluhambayo: isinyathelo asifuni ukukhombisa. Kodwa ungahlali khona kuze kube phakade emantombazaneni? Siphakamisa ukuthi uthathe isinyathelo sokuqala ngokwakho - uma owesifazane ekwazi ukumisa ihhashi emncintiswaneni futhi angene endlini yokushisa, bese uyazi nomuntu - ngokujwayelekile kuyindaba encane! Mayelana nokuthi ungayazi kanjani indoda ebuhlotsheni obunzima futhi uzoxoxwa ngezansi.
• Ungesabi ukuphola emgwaqweni! Ngesizathu esithile ezweni lakithi kubhekwa njengento embi ukutshela umfokazi emgwaqweni, igama lakho liyini. Futhi ngokuvuma isimemo sakhe sokuvakashela, ngokuvamile, angeke kube khona inkulumo. Futhi ngokuphelele ngeze! Emgwaqweni ufanelwe ukuhlangabezana nabanqunu kuphela, kodwa futhi amadoda ahloniphekile. Futhi, mhlawumbe, omunye wabo - isiphetho sakho (nje ngenxa yokuqapha, akudingekile ukuya kuye kusihlwa sokuqala noma ukucela ukuchitha isikhathi sebusuku).
Futhi awukwazi ukulinda aze eze kuwe, futhi uthathe isinyathelo ngezandla zakhe. Isibonelo, cela umuntu ongathandwayo oyithandayo, ukuthi "ungaya kanjani bese uthola okuthile". Futhi uma wonke umuntu ekutshela, smile smile futhi uthi okokuqala uzwa incazelo elula, etholakalayo futhi eningiliziwe. Gwema ukuncoma okucashile - kusebenza nakanjani kuwo wonke amadoda ngaphandle kokuhlukile! Futhi lapho, niyabona, yena ngokwakhe uzokunikeza ukuphakamisa endaweni efanele noma ucele ucingo.
• Indlela efanele yokujwayele ukuya ezindaweni zokuxoshwa kwamadoda. Imigqa yotshwala esitolo sebusuku ayibala. Lokhu mhlawumbe indawo eyimbi kunazo zonke lapho ungahlangana khona - indoda enobungane obukhulu kungcono ukubheka okunye. Isibonelo, ezimakethe zezimoto, ezitolo zabazingeli nabadobi njalonjalo. Ezindaweni ezinjalo, akudingeki ukuba uhlaziye ukuthi yikuphi isihloko ongakhetha kukho ingxoxo - sekusobala: cela nje iseluleko mayelana nokuthenga imoto, izinduku zokudoba, izibhamu kanye nezinye izinto. Uhlobo luni lomuntu olwenqaba inkazikazi emkhandlwini futhi ungasebenzisi ithuba lokubonisa ikhono lakhe futhi! Ukwaziswa ngokuningiliziwe kuzo zonke izinkinga, futhi umsebenzi wakho uwukulalela ngokucophelela futhi uvumele, ngaphandle kwekhasi ukuphazamisa i- "guru". Phela, uCarnegie uthe akukho lutho olungenalo abantu kithi, njengekhono lokulalela umxhumanisi.
Noma ungenza lokhu okulandelayo: yenza uhlobo oluthile lwezemidlalo "wesilisa", isibonelo, kayaking. Noma nje ngezikhathi ezithile unakekele "isihlalo esiqongayo." Awudingi ukuba ube yinhloko yezemidlalo - ungakwazi ukukhokhela owesifazane obuthakathaka, ongaphumelelanga. Siyanitshela: Amadoda amaningi kakhulu azofuna ukuthatha isikhundla sakho. Futhi omunye wabo okufanele akhethe - zikhethele wena.
Noma lo khetho: abe ngumdlali wezemidlalo okwesikhashana - uye emidlalweni yezemidlalo, uye enkundleni yezemidlalo. Yilokho lapho kulula ukujwayelana nendoda!
• Uma u-autoladie, ungayeki usizo lwabesilisa! Owesifazane odidekile (ikakhulukazi uma engaboni kahle futhi egqoke isitayela), ezama ukungaphumeleli ukuthola imoto yakhe emgwaqeni ogwadule noma ukuguqula isondo, kubangela iningi labameleli bobulili obuhlukile ukuthi lizwele futhi lifake ukusiza (ikakhulukazi ukugubha ibhasi nsuku zonke noma ukushayela imoto engalungile Awudingi - lokhu kuyingozi kakhulu. Noma cela umngane womnikazi we-bachelor-car ukukusiza ukuthi ulungise uhlelo lwe-alamu, oluthi "lukhala" izinsuku ekupheleni, noma luze nolunye uhlobo emoyeni ofanayo. Into eyinhloko ukuthi akufanele kube umthwalo omkhulu: umnumzane onokuhlakanipha kufanele abe nokuhlakanipha ukuxazulula umsebenzi owenziwe nguwe (futhi ngaleyo ndlela ungasungula ngokwakho kuphela, kodwa futhi emehlweni akho), futhi ungabonakali futhi uphendule ukuthi akakwazi ukulungisa inkinga.
• Thola inja bese uyihamba enkampanini yezinye "izinja". Ukujwayela "inhlabathi yezinja" yinto elula kakhulu. Inhlanhla, ungasho ukuthi, iya ezandleni zakho. Ibhizinisi lakho aliphuthelwa. Thola ukuthi yisiphi isikhathi inja ethanda into oyithandayo, bese uzama ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ukuhamba kwakho kuhambisana. Hamba nenja nomaphi lapho ungakwazi khona - ngokuqinisekile uzothola "osebenza naye". Futhi okokuqala izingxoxo zakho zizokhathalela kuphela izilwane, ngesikhathi esifanele uzoba abangane abangenakuhlukaniswa, futhi lapho futhi kuze bathande eduze. Futhi, endleleni, ubukele inja yakhe - uzokutshela okuningi mayelana nomnikazi womnikazi. Uma inja ingobungane, cishe, futhi umnikazi ufana. Uma usolisa futhi ulaka, bheka enye "u-dogman" kangcono (kungenzeka ukuthi inja ikopishe umlingiswa womnikazi iphezulu kakhulu).
• Sebenzisa abangane, abajwayele kanye nezihlobo ukuze uthole ukuthi banekhono elifanele lezandla zakho. Akukho lutho oluhlazisayo ngalokhu: izinkulungwane zabantu ziyazijwayeza. usizo lomuntu. Buza umngane wakho ukuthi "ngengozi" ukumemile kokubili kuye, bese uzama ukwenza konke ukujabulisa umngane wakho. Uma abangenakukwazi ukukusiza - bonke abangashadile sebevele baqhamuka - thintana nesikhungo somshado. Lapho bazophakamisa uhlu lwabafakizicelo. Futhi ungangabazi ngalesi siphakamiso - abantu abaningi kakhulu baye bahlangana nengxenye yabo ngale ndlela. Zama ukusebenzisa zonke izindlela - ke amathuba okuphumelela azokwandisa izikhathi eziningi!
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Ukuze usesho lwakho luphumelele futhi lungasakazekeki, unganqume ukuthi ufuna ukubona kanjani oyikhethile. Uma ehlakaniphile, omnene futhi ohlakaniphile, akadingi kuye ukuhlukumezeka nokukwazi ukuguqula ukuthengiswa kwezigidi. Uma ufakazela futhi uphumelele ebhizinisini, mshiye wedwa ngezicelo zokumisa isikhali esikhwameni bese ulungisa insimbi engasebenzi. Uma ufuna ukuba abe ngumndeni othulile, onokuthula, ungalindeli ukuthi uzojabula, uhambe nawe ekuhlanganiseni imfashini, noma ukuthi uzobonisa izimangaliso zezinsimbi ezisezingeni eliphansi embhedeni. Yebo, uma uphupha ngomusa ovuthayo, okuvela kubo bonke abesifazane, ungalindeli kuye ukwethembeka ethuneni. Ngelinye igama, unqume ngezifiso zakho, bese uqala ukwenza ngendlela efanele.
Futhi ngaphezulu. Ungalokothi uziqhayise kumuntu ukuthi nguwe owamqamba amanga. Ngisho noma lesi sinyathelo sasivela kuwe, ake ucabange ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho buqhubekele phambili ngenxa yamakhono akhe. Khupha ukuziqhenya kwalowo muntu! Emva kwakho konke, naphezu kokuthi ubulili obuqinile futhi njengomsebenzi othile wesifazane, iningi lamadoda liyaqiniseka ukuthi ekugcineni, ukukhetha kufanele kuhlale kungemva kwabo. Ngakho ake bahlale bengenalwazi!