Ngokwemvelo, kulezi zimo, uqhube ucansi nomuntu wakho othandekayo ngemuva, ngoba unezinto eziningi ezibalulekile okufanele uziphathe. Unamacala amaningi okuphuthumayo futhi cishe usuku lonke ludwetshwe ngomzuzu, futhi kusihlwa awukwazi ukuya emilenzeni bese uvala ngokushesha. Uxhumana nomuntu wakho othandekayo kuphela nge-SMS.
Ukuhamba okuphazamisayo
Abaningi bethu, ukuze sikwazi ukugxila ngokugcwele ngalolu daba, banelisekile ngokulala nocansi wakho kamuva. Isibonelo, abadlali ekulungiseleleni ama-Olimpiki bathatha "isifungo sokuqasha", ososayensi abasemkhawulweni wokuthola ukukhohlwa "ngezinyosi", abesomabhizinisi abanelisekile ekwenzeni imali nokuqeda ukuthengiselana bahlehlisa konke okunye okuthakazelisayo kamuva ... Kubonakala sengathi izidingo ezibonakalayo zobulili nomngane wakho othandekayo zibonakala ziphazamisa gxila ezintweni ezibalulekile, ukuphazamisa, kuthatha amandla. Ingabe kunjalo?
Wena, nawe, ungaziqhayisa ngocansi nalokho okuthandayo okuhlehlisiwe kamuva? Ngicabanga ukuthi ulahlekelwe yini, uma lokho kwenzeka? Ngendlela, ukulahlekelwa akuyona encane futhi engenabungozi njengoba ungase ucabange.
Izidingo ezingokwemvelo zomuntu (ukulamba, ukoma, ukukhangwa ngokocansi), izazi ze-psychologists zibhekisela eziyisisekelo. Ngenkathi behlala benganelisekile, zonke ezinye zidinga (isibonelo, ngokuphepha, uthando, inhlonipho, ingqondo kanye nokuhleleka) awusakwazi ukubona ngokugcwele. Ngelinye igama, kuze kube yilapho uthola injabulo kusuka ekuthandeni uthando njalo nomuntu othandekayo, awukwazi neze ukuwaneliseka impilo yakho yonke. Ngokuvamile unomuzwa ongaqondakali wokuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle nawe. Futhi lokhu naphezu kwempumelelo emangalisayo emkhakheni wezobuchwepheshe noma ubuhlobo obuhle nabanye. Vumelana, amathemba anjalo angeke abizwe ngokuthi ahlelekile.
Inkinga eqhubekayo!
Kodwa empeleni, uma usuyeka ukulala ucansi nomuntu wakho othandekayo izinyanga ezimbalwa nje kuphela, akukho lutho olubi olwenzekayo? Ukuziqeda akuzuzi umzimba noma umphefumulo. Phakathi nomjikelezo, isilinganiso sesifiso sowesifazane sishintsha. Umzimba ulungiselelwe ngokukhethekile ukuba usondelane. Futhi uma ungayinaki "isicelo" somzimba wakho futhi uhlehlisa ucansi nesithandwa sakho ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kudinga ukucasula. Ungakwazi "ukuphindiselela" ukuphazamiseka kwe-hormonal, isimo sengqondo esibi, ukuwohloka kwesikhumba nezinwele. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi izifiso ezingagcwaliseki zibuyela kithi ephusheni. Usukulungele inyanga yamafilimu ashukumisayo?
Ukufuna uzwela
Futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuziyeka kwakho kuyingozi ngoba ngaphandle kwakho umlingani wakho naye uhlupheka. Futhi kuye ngani? Akazange ahlehlise ucansi nomthandekayo wakho kamuva! Ngokuphambene nalokho, uyakuhlonipha futhi uyakuhlonipha, kodwa awukwazi ukuthanda ngawo wonke umqondo wezwi! Yiqiniso, uyaqonda ukuthi awukwenzi lokhu konke okulimazayo, kodwa ngenxa yokungabi nesikhathi, kodwa kulula yini? Zizinakekele, futhi ngokushesha! Ukusebenza nokutadisha kubaluleke kakhulu, kodwa uma usebenza ngokweqile, ngeke kube nomuntu ozobhekana nawo. Ungakhohlwa mayelana nezinyathelo zokuzivikela. Ukuze usebenze ube injabulo, udinga ngempela ukulala kahle, ukudla okuhle futhi, yebo, uthando! Ungakhohlwa ngocansi nomthandekayo wakho, ngoba sonke singabantu futhi sidinga ukukhishwa. Ngakho-ke, thatha njengomthetho ukwabela ubusuku obuthathu ngesonto wena kanye nomthande wakho futhi uzame, ungalokothi uhlehlise ucansi nomuntu wakho othandekayo kamuva. "Nakuba lo mbhangqwana uhlanganiswa nesifiso, bazohlala bekhona emhlabeni, naphezu kokuxabana okukhulu." U-Emile Zola, umlobi waseFrance.