Isikebhe sokuthandaza siphukile hhayi nje ngokuphila. Eqinisweni, emndenini ngamunye kunezinkinga ezimbalwa eziphikisanayo ezingabangela ukupholisana komunye nomunye. Kudingeka baxoxisane ndawonye, bakhulume ngakho ngokucacile futhi 'bangathinti' omunye nomunye. Isibonelo, nansi nje yale mibuzo: Ngaki umndeni ojwayelekile olala ocansini kangaki ngesonto?
Ukuthokozisa ngokocansi nokwaneliseka kuxhomeke kwikhwalithi, hhayi ubuningi. Lokhu kubonakala sengathi kuyaqondakala ngisho nombhangqwana omncane kunabo bonke. Ngemuva kwesikhathi sokuzalwa, isifiso sobulili siphelile.
Kuyacaca kubo bobabili abashade ukuthi bangagculiswa kaningi, futhi uma umndeni uhlala ngokwehlukana nabazali bawo, kubuye futhi nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Kodwa akulona lutho iBhayibheli elixwayisa ngokumelene nezilingo. Futhi isilingo esinjalo emndenini we-mononuclear (umyeni, umfazi, kanye nezizukulwane ezindala ngaphansi kophahla olulodwa) ungaba nobulili.
Esikhundleni sokujabulela ngokuthula umnotho wezinzwa ezinikezwe ngokwemvelo, abashadile (futhi kaningi oshade naye) baqala ukuzibuza ukuthi: umndeni ovamile ulala ocansini kangaki ngesonto? Futhi ingabe umndeni wethu ujwayelekile kusukela kulo mbono wokubuka?
Kuvela lapha ukuthi "kuvela izinkinga ezihlukene kakhulu". Kusukela ekudleni kuze kufike ekugqibeni, bese-izingxabano ngesihloko esihluke ngokuphelele, kubonakala sengathi akuhlobene nokuphila okusondelene komndeni. Kodwa empeleni, ubuhlobo obuningi bubangelwa injabulo indoda nomkayo abakunikayo futhi bayayithola. Ubulili bungabumbanisa umndeni, futhi mhlawumbe bahlukane.
Noma kunjalo, kungakanani?
Uma siqhubeka ngokuthi sikala izinga lezocansi emndenini ovamile ngokulingana, ke sithola okulandelayo. Ochwepheshe bathi kuze kube neminyaka engama-40 (yebo, ukuhlanganisa noma ukunciphisa iminyaka emihlanu), ngokuvamile labo abashadile balele embhedeni izikhathi 2-3 ngesonto.
Lapho usukhulile, inani lingase liyeke kancane izikhathi ezintathu ngenyanga, futhi emncane (kuze kube yiminyaka engu-25), amadoda azimisele ukwenza ama-2-4 izikhathi ezingu-12 ubusuku bonke. Ngokwemvelo, abayeni abanolwazi abakwazi ukuhambisana nabo ngobuningi. Kodwa, mhlawumbe, bangakwazi ukukhokhela "ukungabi" kwekhwalithi, futhi kufanelekile ukucabangela ukuthi ungayenza kanjani ...
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngisho nabalandeli abakhulu bezocansi , abakwa-sexologists abahlala bekhuluma ngezinzuzo zayo, basikhumbuza umehluko emkhathini.
- Kukhona abantu abanesimo sengqondo sokushisa , abashisayo - kodwa abanesithakazelo esincane kwezocansi.
Izinjabulo zokugcina zokulala azijabulisi neze, kodwa "azifisi" ngokobulili obuvamile. Futhi kukhona abantu abanokushisa okulinganiselayo okushisa. Futhi akulona iqiniso lokuthi iningi lezibalo ezenzweni zezocansi emndenini "ojwayelekile" zenziwa ngabo - kwenzeka ukuthi "ukuhlambalaza ngokobulili" kubangelwa ukugqugquzela okukhulu imibhangqwana yokuziphatha ngokocansi.
Yini ebangela izinhlekelele?
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi zingaki ngesonto kukhona ubulili emndenini okuthiwa "ojwayelekile", akufanelekile ukucabangela. Phela, ukubala ukubulala konke ukuthandana, ingokomoya, kuphendulela umsebenzi ongathandabuzeki, umsebenzi wokuqothula ube isimiso. Olunye udaba lomndeni ukwanelisa umyeni (noma umfazi othukuthele) - lokhu akufani nokujabulela izifiso zomunye. Lapho kunomsebenzi - akukho ubuciko, injabulo yangempela kanye noveli. Futhi-ke umyeni (noma umfazi) ukhononda ngokuthi oshade naye (s) abazithokozi kakhulu ekucindezeleni noma bakhetha iphuzu elithile.
Amathiphu kulabo abafuna "ukulinganisa" inani le
Iseluleko esingcono kunazo zonke kulabo abazobala ukuthi kaningi kangakanani umndeni ovamile olala ocansini ngesonto noma ngenyanga kuzoba nesifiso sokubala ukuthi kaningi kangakanani inyanga kune-borsch, noma badla kaningi kangakanani ushokoledi.
Futhi kuphela lokho okungasetshenzisiwe "," kodwa kuyisenzo sokubumbana okuhlangene, ukusetshenziswa kwamandla engqondo - kusamnandi futhi kuyadingeka.
Kwezinye izimo, uma ufuna ukubala ngempela - cabanga ukuthi ungubani lokhu. Uma kumakhelwane - njengase-anecdote eyaziwayo mayelana nendoda endala kanye nabajwayele ukuzibandakanya ngokobulili, udokotela weluleke kahle. "Futhi ubatshele." Futhi ungazami ukwenza ikamelo lokulala lomndeni i-Arena yeMidlalo yama-Olimpiki.
Phela, abashadile bayabantu abadala, futhi bayaqonda ukuthi ubuciko nokuhlukahluka akuhambisani nesiqubulo esithi "masinyane, ephakeme, enamandla."