Ukungabi nobulili emshadweni, izizathu

Ngakho iMirh Mendelssohn yazwakala. Kubonakala sengathi, njengenganekwane, impilo izojabula, futhi ubulili buhlale bukhuthele. Kodwa izazi zezenhlalo ziye zabala: imibhangqwana emibili kwabangu-3 ayishayanga umngcele weminyaka emithathu futhi iyingxenye ngenxa yobulili obubi noma ukuntuleka kwayo.

Ingabe kuyiqiniso ukuthi ngemva komshado ulahlekelwa yinhlanhla yakhe yangaphambili? Siphikisa izitatimende ezivamile, futhi sizokwazi ukuthola wonke amaphuzu. Ukungabi nobulili emshadweni, izizathu - isihloko sesihloko sethu.


Isifiso singaphelelwa yisikhathi , futhi ubulili buyoba umthwalo wemfanelo. Ososayensi sekuyisikhathi eside befika esiphethweni sokuthi iminyaka yobudlova ayidanga isikhathi eside, kepha ukuba ibe neqiniso ngempela, ayihlali isikhathi eside kuneminyaka emithathu. Kakhulu kakhulu emzimbeni womuntu kungabamba izinga eliphakeme le-dopamine, i-norepinephrine, i-prolactin, i-lyuliberin ne-oxytocin. Lezi "izithako" ze-hormone zithinta ukukhanga: zenza ukuthi uthande umlingani wakho ngentshiseko, ziyasheshisa ukushisa kwakho futhi ziphefumule ngesikhathi sokubonakala kwakhe. Lapho uthando ludlula, ubulili buba buthule futhi buvame kakhulu. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi umlingani wakhohlile kuwe. Kunezindlela eziningi zokugcina "ilangabi lesithando" isikhathi eside.


Gqoka izingubo ezithandekayo

Uzosekela isifiso kumlingani wakho ezingeni elifanele.


Ukudlala ngothando nomlingani nomunye nomunye

Ukudlala ngothando elula kuyisisekelo somdlalo wezocansi, awuvumeli imizwa ipholile futhi iholela ocansini omuhle.


Catch adrenaline

Isibonelo, hamba ukukhanga okwesabekayo, gxuma nge-parachute noma ubuke i-thriller ndawonye (i-movie eshaqisayo). Iqiniso liwukuthi ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, i-adrenaline ikhishwa egazini, futhi nayo ivuselela ukuvuswa kobulili.


Izinzwa ezithinta kakhulu

Thintana njalo njalo. Isibonelo, bamba izandla, uhambe epakini, uhlale uvuma, ubukele i-TV. Lapho abathandi bathintana, izinga le-hormone oxytocin liphuma egazini, elikhulula ukucindezeleka, linikeza umuzwa wokufudumala, ukuvikelwa. Ngakho-ke, ukuzwa okujulile kubaluleke kakhulu.


Izinkinga zomndeni zibulala impilo yocansi

"Awuzange uvale i-tube yokuhlanza imithi," "Awuzange ubeke phansi isihlalo sendawo yangasese," "UDarling, hhayi namuhla, ngikhathele kakhulu emsebenzini" ... Njengoba isikhathi sidlula, lapho ukuphila "kudla" uthando kanye nesiphepho semizwelo idlula, lezi Imishwana abalingani baqhubeka bekhuluma omunye nomunye. Ukukhathala emsebenzini, ukuphikisana ngokweqile, futhi manje umbhede womshado, lapho okufisa khona ukushisa okufisa, kuphenduka indawo yokulala nokubukela i-TV. Ubulili emshadweni kufanele bube kuqala. Uma ungakwenzi, khona-ke, ekugcineni, omunye wabalingani uzohamba efuna izinto ezisehlangothini. Ngempela, ubulili kuyindlela engcono yokubhekana nokucindezeleka, ukukhulisa futhi ukunciphisa ukukhathazeka. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi impilo yezocansi igcwele futhi ingabi yindlalifa ye-conjugal.

Ngendlela! Ngokwezibalo zaseNyuvesi yaseMichigan, ngonyaka wokuqala womshado, ukuvama koxhumana nabo obusondelene nabo ngezikhathi ezingu-13-14 ngenyanga, ngonyaka wesibili - 10, ngesikhathi sokuthola umshado kusuka eminyakeni engu-4, uhlala ezingeni lika-8-9 ngenyanga.


Owesifazane emshadweni ukhululeka, uyeka ukuzilandela, ulahlekelwa ifomu, futhi umlingani walahlekelwa nesithakazelo socansi.

Amadoda ngokwemvelo - izibuko. Bafuna ukubona eduze komlingani oqinile futhi othembekile. Ngakho-ke, uma ungasajabuli ngeso lengqondo esibukweni, qala ukuya ejimini. Ngesikhathi sokuzivocavoca, i-hormone endorphin ikhiqizwa, okuyiyona eyabangela injabulo. Ngakho-ke, ngemva kokuqeqesha, uzothanda ngokwengeziwe futhi unciphise ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa. " "Khumbula ukuthi uzibukele kanjani lapho uqala ukuphola. Umshado akusona isizathu sokuphumula. Ngakho-ke, akuvamile ukuthi avele ngaphambi komyeni egqoke izingubo zokugqoka kanye nesaski ebusweni bakhe. Zama ukungenzi manicure, hhayi ukuxosha amashiya akho phambi komlingani wakho. Uma usendlini nomngane wakho othandekayo, yenza ukwakheka okulula, ugqoke ukhululekile, kodwa hhayi izingubo zokugqoka.


Ukumemeza, umoya ophefumulayo ...

Ukuze ulondoloze izinzwa zakho ezingeni eliphezulu ngokomoya nangokwenyama, kanye ngenyanga kufanele wenze lokhu okulandelayo kwe-tantric. Akunandaba ukuthi ugqoke noma uhamba. Hlala ngokuphambene nomngane wakho, umlingani kumele ahlanganise imilenze yakhe emuva komngani wakhe. Vala ukuthintana ngamabunzana, vala amehlo akho bese uqala ukuphefumula ndawonye. Ukuzivocavoca kufanele kwenziwe phakathi nemizuzu emibili. Ukuvumelanisa kokuphefumula kubangela amandla okulala ocansini kakhulu, futhi kusiza ukuthola ukuqonda okufanayo.


Amaphuzu wokuxhumana

Isizathu yisikhathi. Uma umatasa, unike isikhathi socansi. Isibonelo, thatha emva komsebenzi womsebenzi kunokubuka i-TV. Noma usethe i-alamu imizuzu engu-15 ekuqaleni futhi uyenze ekuseni - qala usuku ngolwazi oluhle, ukhokhisa amandla.

Susa i-TV esuka ekamelweni lokulala. Ososayensi base-Italy baye babala ukuthi imibhangqwana engenawo i-TV ekamelweni layo ilala nobulili kabili njengalabo abanayo. Iqiniso liwukuthi i-zombification yeskrini nokucwiliswa ezweni lethelevishini lihlukanisa nomlingani. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungalala ngokushesha ngaphansi kwe-TV.


Shintsha script . Shintsha kabusha i-sexist. Faka phakathi i-fantasy: zama izinto, yenza uthando ezindaweni ezingavamile. Ngemuva kocansi ngokumelene nesizinda sephephadonga elifanayo elizithukuthele ngisho noma unogwaja. Ukungabikho kobulili emshadweni, izizathu zazo ezingazange zicaciswe kuze kube manje, zingaba nomthelela ebuhlotsheni bomshado.

Ukudlala ukudlala imidlalo. Xhuma ukuzijabulisa kwabantu abadala. Hlangana nendawo yokudlela bese uzenza sengathi uyabathanda abaphunyukile. Umdlalo kanye ne-adrenaline kuzokujabulisa, futhi ubulili buzobe bukhuthele njengokwokuqala.