Ngiyamzonda umfana ... Ngithanda umfana

Bathi ukuthi kusukela othandweni kuya enzondo isinyathelo esisodwa, futhi ngokufanayo. Mhlawumbe kunjalo, kodwa kunezikhathi lapho uhlala khona phakathi kwale mibono. Kulokhu, uzizwa, ngimzonda umfana ... Ngiyamthanda lo mfana. Nkosi, futhi kuthiwani ngaleli cala? Ungaphila kanjani, uqaphele ukuthi inhliziyo idwengulwe imiqondo emibili ephikisana ngokuphelele?

Mhlawumbe, udinga ukuqala ukuqonda ukuthi kungani unemiqondo enjalo nokuhlukana kwemizwa? Ngokuvamile, kwenzeka lapho umuntu othandekayo engazi ukuthi ungubani ngempela.

Ingabe unomuzwa wokuthi eduze kwakho akekho umuntu oyedwa kodwa amabili abafowethu ababili, lapho, omunye wabo ingelosi, kanti enye ingukuthi uDeveli wangempela? Khona-ke imbangela yalokho okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho iyaqondakala ngokuphelele. Iqiniso liwukuthi amadoda afana nokugqoka ama-masks, ezama ukubonakala ebi kakhulu kunabo. Kodwa namanje, lapho amadoda anjalo osondelayo, lapho evula futhi ebonisa imizwa, imaski okungenani iwa phansi futhi ivule umuntu ohluke ngokuphelele ongathanda nokuqonda. Kodwa, ngeshwa, lokhu kuziphatha, kaningi, kubonakala kuphela ngasese. Kodwa enkampanini, ikakhulukazi uma kusekhona abameli besilisa besilisa, abantu abasha abanjalo baziphatha ngokuphambene kakhulu ngalokho okubonayo ngenkathi uhlala naye yedwa.

Ekuqaleni, lo mdlalo ungumuntu omubi, angase ahlekise, kodwa, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kuyacaca ukuthi ngenxa yalokhu kuziphatha, indoda ihlale ingcolisa ukwethemba kwakho. Ngiyamzonda umfana, ngithanda lomfana ... ngani? Uyamthanda ngalokho akuyikho ngempela, futhi uyamzonda imaski ukuthi ngobuchule noma ekhombisa kahle kakhulu phambi kwabanye abantu.

Indlela yokubhekana nalesi simo? Yiqiniso, kufanelekile ukucabangela ukuthi ngabe udinga ukuqhubeka nobuhlobo nomuntu ongazi ukuthi ungaba kanjani. Ngokuvamile, amadoda anjalo anezinkimbinkimbi eziningi, ekhanda kusukela ebuntwaneni. Bangakwazi ukukhuluma ngakho ngokuzwakalayo noma ukuphika ngokuphikelela, kodwa ukuziphatha kwabo kuhlale kuwubufakazi obuhle kakhulu.

Ngenxa yesimo sabo sengqondo esibi, labo bantu bavela ngezindlela ezahlukene zokuvusa inhlonipho yabantu noma ukwesaba. Kungaba ukuzithiba ngokweqile kwabanye, ukuhlukumezeka okuzenzekelayo noma ukumane nje kungenele ngokwanele ukuzibeka ngokwakho, okuyinto ephazamisayo abanye. Uma uqaphela ukuthi insizwa ilokhu izama ukuhlazisa umuntu futhi icasule, ingaphakamisa isandla sayo ngokumelene nowesifazane, ibonise ubuqili nobuqili - hamba. Ngokushesha noma kamuva, uzobonisa isimo sengqondo esifanayo nawe. Abantu abanjalo banzonda kakhulu kangangokuthi bakhuphuka endleleni yabo, bebonisa abanye ukuthi bangelutho. Yingakho, noma ngabe unomuzwa wokuthi uyamthanda, namanje uhlanganisa intando yakho ibe yingxabano uphinde uhlukane nobudlelwane obunjalo, ngoba luzoqhubeka lubi kakhulu. Ngenxa yalokho, wahlukana, kodwa uzoba namanxeba amade emphefumulweni wakho nomgodi omnyama enhliziyweni yakho. Uzokhohlwa ukuthi wake wamuthanda, futhi umuzwa kuphela, uzovutha kuphela. Inzondo engapheli. Ngakho cabanga ukuthi ingabe ubuthi yini umphefumulo wakho ngentukuthelo, lapho ungayeka konke ngesikhathi.

Kungenye into, uma uqonda ukuthi ukuziphatha kwakho, insizwa ihlukumeza wena kuphela. Kulesi simo, abantu ngokuvamile babhekisela kubantu ababazungezile, behlonipha ngokweqile, bangalokothi bahlazise noma ngubani, ngisho noma bekhuluma ngenzondo yabantu bonke. Eqinisweni, laba bangabantu abasha abanomusa futhi abathandekayo. Yiqiniso, "ukuthakazelisa" kwabo, babonisa ngokungajwayelekile kakhulu, lapho bekhohlwa ukuthi badinga ukudlala ingxenye yabo. Ngokuvamile, umuntu onjalo uzama ukubonisa ngokubukeka kwakhe konke okubi nokuphanga, ukhuluma ngaye ngezindaba ezingathandeki futhi esongela ukufakazela konke lokhu ngokusebenza. Yiqiniso, akahambanga ngaphezu kwamagama, kodwa abanye bayaqonda konke okusemandleni okubheka futhi babheke kuye, ngokuhambisana nalokhu kuziphatha.

Yiqiniso, amantombazane awaxhomeke kakhulu emibonweni yomphakathi njengamadoda, kodwa, noma kunjalo, kuyinto engathandeki kakhulu uma othandekayo wakho ebhekwa njengenganele ngokwanele ye-schizophrenic futhi ephikisiwe. Ngezikhathi ezinjalo, umvuthwandaba wenzondo uhlanganisa ikhanda. Yini okufanele siyenze kulokhu? Yiqiniso, ungakhohlwa ukuthi insizwa ingaziphatha konke ukuphila kwayo futhi idlale umfana omubi. Kungenzeka ukuthi uyedwa kuphela ozoba nomusa, omnene nowe-erudite, kodwa emphakathini akakwazi ukugqoka imaski yakhe. Lokhu kubonisa ubuthakathaka bakhe nokuthembela kwakhe. Udinga indoda enjalo? Uma impendulo inguyebo, kuzomele uzame ukuyishintsha. Futhi umsebenzi kuzodingeka ufihlwe futhi ude. Abantu abanjalo abashintshi ngosuku olulodwa, ngoba izinkimbinkimbi, okuyizona eziyimbangela yalokhu kuziphatha, zaqala isikhathi eside kakhulu, zihlume ngokujulile zibe yi-psyche futhi ngeke zilahleke kalula, futhi zishiye inkosi yazo.

Kuzodingeka ube nesineke futhi ukhohlwe ngenzondo yakho. Abantu abanjalo badinga ngempela uthando. Akuyona into evelele, cishe engabonakali, umusa nokukhathalela. Zama ukukhuluma okuningi naye ukuze uthole izimbangela zangempela zezinkimbinkimbi zakhe futhi ungazithandi.

Zama ukumqinisekisa ukuthi uyakufanelekela injabulo futhi angaphumelela okuningi ekuphileni. Kodwa kunoma yikuphi, ungavumeli amazwi akho avele njengeqiniso elingenakunyakaziswa, elingenalo ilungelo lokuphikisa. Inkani yomuntu izokwenza isoka lakho lilahle konke okushoyo, noma ngabe, empeleni, uyaqaphela ukuthi kuyiqiniso. Ngakho-ke, mnike nje ukudla okucatshangwayo. Khuluma ngakho konke, njengokungathi, phakathi kwezinye izinto.

Ngendlela, ungacabangi ukuthi udinga ukuvumelana naye kukho konke. Ngokuphambene nalokho, kudingekile ukuxoxa, kodwa ungaphenduli ingxoxo ibe ngxabano nge-foam emlonyeni, ngokuhlambalaza nangokwemvelo. Indoda kumele izwe ukuthi kukhona umuntu ohlakaniphile, onengqondo eduze kwakhe. Khona-ke, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, u-willy-nilly, uzoqala ukuzwa kuwe igunya futhi acishe angayiqondi le ngenhla.

Uthando luyinto engavamile. Ngakho-ke, njengokungathi ngezinye izikhathi sasingacabangi ukuthi sizondayo abathandekayo bethu ngayo yonke umphefumulo wethu, ukudlula isikhathi nokuthukuthela kudlula. Ngakho-ke, zama ukuchitha amandla akho ngemizwa engenangqondo. Kungcono ukuqondisa wonke amandla ukusiza othandekayo wakho. Futhi ukugijimela kusuka "Ngiyamzonda umfana" "Ngithanda isoka lami" nakanjani akuyona indlela yokuphuma. Ikakhulukazi uma ufuna ukuthola le ndawo.