Kungani abesifazane beshintsha? Yini esiqhubezelayo, abagcini bendlu, abafazi abathandekayo nabanakekelayo, omama abanobubele nabathandekayo esenzweni esinjalo sokuqhuma?
Ososayensi, abalobi, nabaculi bazinikeze isifundo esingaphezu kwesisodwa sesayensi, umsebenzi, indalo kulo mbuzo. Abamele abaningi bezocansi abanamandla baphazamisa ngalolu daba. Kodwa impendulo, njengomthetho, incike kuzo.
Yini owesifazane efuna ukushada? Masinyane wenze ukubhuka ukuthi lesi sihloko asikho mayelana nesigaba sabashameli abavele badinga i-adrenaline ukusheshisa ukuzwa ubuhlungu bokuphila noma uhlobo lwawo olungaboni amanani nezindinganiso zomphakathi. Sikhuluma ngalabo besifazane, okwenziwe ukuthi isinqumo sokushintsha asinakuqhathaniswa ngokuphelele.
Isigaba esikhulu kunabesifazane abasishintshile yibo abangatholi ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo nokuqonda kumadoda abo. Amadoda angokwemvelo kakhulu ekuvezeni imizwelo, futhi ingqondo iyaqonda lokhu ngengqondo yobulili obuhle, kodwa kunzima kangakanani ukuhlala esimweni sokuntula njalo uthando, ukunakekelwa, ukusekelwa, ekugcineni, nesithakazelo kulokho okwenzeka empilweni yomfazi. Futhi lokhu kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sikhuluma ngomuntu osondelene naye, owathi, naphezu kokungabikho kwezihlobo zegazi, waba yindabuko - ngomyeni wakhe.
Ukwehlukanisa emshadweni kunomthelela ekwenzeni ukubonakaliswa kothando kumadoda, nokwenqaba ukubamba iqhaza ezindabeni ezifuywayo kanye nokukhuliswa kwezingane. Lokhu kuholela ekutheni umshado uqala ukulingana kancane kancane nowesifazane obona umshado kuphela njengophethilo lwemisebenzi. Ukungabi nokuxhumana ngokomzwelo nomyeni wakhe kuqhubekisa owesifazane ukuba amfune kumunye umlingani. Eqinisweni, isizathu esiyinhloko sokungathembeki kwabesifazane kuyisifiso sokusekelwa ngokomzwelo. Lokhu kuboniswa yilo lonke ucwaningo lwesayensi ngalolu daba. Abaningi abaphendula bathi ubuhlobo obusha babanika injabulo yokukhulumisana, umuzwa wobuhle babo nokuheha, ithuba lokuthola izikhathi ezingenakulibalekayo zothando, futhi babuyisela ukholo ngokwabo, bavunyelwe ukuba yinto enesithakazelo sangempela kubantu. Kodwa bafaka ubulili endaweni yesibili.
Ukunganeliseki ngokobulili emshadweni, empeleni, kumehluko wesibili phakathi kwezizathu ezenza abesifazane baphinge. Futhi-ke leli phutha alilona nje umyeni ongahloniphi kahle nokuzwela izidingo zowesifazane, kodwa futhi nomfazi ongafuni ukuvuma kumuntu ngokunganeliseki okwamanje bese exazulula inkinga ngokuthola umlingani omusha.
Endaweni yesithathu phakathi kwezizathu zokungathembeki kwabesifazane kukhona impindiselo. Lokhu kwenzeka ngemuva kokuba umfazi ezwa ngokukhashelwa komyeni wakhe. Ngokuvamile owesifazane wenza isinqumo ngokuzenzekelayo, ngaphansi kwethonya elikhulu lokucasuka futhi ngenxa yesifiso sokubuyisela umlingani wakhe ngemali efanayo. Kodwa kwenzeka nokuthi owesifazane uthatha isinqumo sokubekezelela isimo futhi athethelele umyeni wakhe. Kodwa-ke, ngisho nangemva kwesikhathi esiningi, isilonda sengqondo asikali isikhathi eside, ukuzethemba komuntu wesifazane kunciphisa kancane futhi uthatha isinqumo sokuphindisela kumyeni wakhe ukuze aphinde abuyele. Ngokuvamile, lokhu kungaholela ekuqedeni komshado, ngoba lapha ukungathembeki kwabesifazane - ukugcina umyeni wakhe ekugcineni. Ngaphandle kokuqonda, owesifazane usesivele efuna umngane omusha, ngoba ubuhlungu bokudumazeka nokuthukuthela ngemuva kokuba isenzo somlingani singenakuvinjelwa. Ayikwazi ukusungula impilo yomndeni emva kokwedluliswa komyeni wakhe, ukwamukela nokumthethelela, uzofuna umlingani wokuphila omusha.
Isizathu esilandelayo kulolu hlu yisimo esisha. Njengomthetho, isinqumo sokushintsha umyeni ngenxa yothando olusha kulandelwa isikhathi eside kakhulu sokuzizwa kecala. Ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nomuzwa wecala ukhulu kakhulu kulo mzabalazo owenziwa emphefumulweni wesifazane, futhi uyayilahla injabulo yakhe nomngane wakhe othandekayo ngenhloso yokulondoloza umndeni, inhlalakahle yezingane, kanye nangenxa yokungahlehlisi ingxenye yezihlobo.
Uma sibuyela esayisini, ezinye izimbungulu zithi imbangela yokukhwabanisa kwabesifazane ilala emajeni. Lokhu kungukuthi, uma abandulela umzila wesifazane benesono esinjalo, abamele isizukulwane esilandelayo bangabonisa ubuthakathaka obufanayo. Ikakhulukazi abesifazane bayaphikisana nesikhathi sokuvuthwa kwegazi futhi lapha ososayensi sebevele bekhuluma, cishe mayelana nomthelela wokukhethwa kwemvelo okukhona kithi ngokwemvelo ngokwawo. Owesifazane ngokucophelela useshela owesilisa ongcono kakhulu ukwaneliseka. Kodwa njengoba konke lokhu kungenangqondo kakhulu futhi kuyimfihlo, abamele abaningi bezocansi ngokulinganayo ngokumelene neziphetho ezinjalo futhi bakhetha ukukhuluma ngemizwa evusa inkani.
Kunezizathu eziningi ezenza ukuthi owesifazane enze isenzo esinzima kangaka: ukukhangwa ngokobulili komunye umuntu; ukungakwazi komyeni ukuba nezingane; umhawu oqhubekayo womlingani owesifazane ekugcineni ofuna ukusifakazela; Imikhuba emibi yomyeni wayo, ekhula kancane kancane ibe mania; ukungabi nenhlonipho kumlingani; ubudlova obungokwengqondo emndenini; isifiso sokuzwa izinzwa ezintsha. Kungabhekwa njengesizathu esiyinhloko sokuhlukumezeka noma cha, kodwa konke kuxhomeke ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani kowesifazane ozimisele ukumkhaphela.