Sekude isikhathi eside uthandana noma uhlala isikhathi eside isikhathi eside, futhi isikhulu sakho ngehhashi elimhlophe ngesizathu esithile asikwazi ukunquma ukukunika isipho sesandla nenhliziyo. Ake sibone-kungani le ndoda yashintsha ingqondo yakhe ngokushada?
Wonke umuntu ungowokuqala futhi oyinhloko owesilisa. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi thina, besifazane, sasingakujabuli ukuzwa lokhu, kodwa amadoda, ngokwemvelo yawo, isithembu. Ngemva kokuzibopha ngomshado, umuntu wesaba ukulahlekelwa yilapho inkululeko eyigugu, leyo mpilo entsha yomoya, ukuthi indandatho emunwe wayo izomvimbela konke ukufinyelela kwe-oxygen. Zama ukukhuluma nomuntu okhethiweyo, chaza ukuthi umshado awuyona indawo, kuyindlela yokubambisana ukuze kuzuze umndeni kanye nemfundo efanele yezingane ezizayo. Umshado ukusizana, ukusekela, ukuvumelana nokuqonda, kodwa futhi umsebenzi odinga imizamo engafanele.
Futhi, indoda ingase ingaqiniseki ngawe. Mhlawumbe kunezizathu ezithile zokungathembeli. Noma uyesaba, ngokuzumayo ngomzuzu wokugcina, ekunikezela ukuba ushade naye, nawe uzokushintsha ingqondo yakho futhi ungafuni ukulahlekelwa inkululeko yakho, ukuba ubalekele kuwo ube inkululeko.
Khuluma okuningi futhi uxoxe nomuntu ubuhlobo bakho. Mnike isizathu esengeziwe sokukuthemba.
Kodwa uNkulunkulu akakwenqabe ukuba ubeke kuye umqondo womshado ngesikhathi sasekuseni, kwasemini nasekuseni! Ukubekezela enkingeni enjalo ebucayi yamadoda akudingekile. Uzovele ubalekele kuwe uma ubambelela kuye ngokubamba inkunzi yegodini, futhi uyomhudulela ehhovisi eliseduzane lokubhalisa.
Enye imbangela ebalulekile yenkinga ingase kube ukungqubuzana kwemibono, okuholela ekuhambeni kokungavumelani nokulwa phakathi kwakho. Akusekho umshado ovumelanayo. Okokuqala udinga ukuxazulula konke ukungaboni kahle okukhona.
Zama ukwabelana ngezinkanuko zomuntu wakho. Ngakho uzosondela kuye. Uzochitha isikhathi esiningi ndawonye, futhi uzoqonda ukuthi ususondele kangakanani futhi uyadingeka kuye. Ngeke afune ukulahlekelwa nguwe futhi uzocabangela ukuthi angakubophezela kanjani phakade ngezibopho zomshado.
Mhlawumbe manje ungumngane wakhe, futhi ukuze akwenze umnikelo udinga isikhathi sokugaya, ekuqapheliseni ezimweni ezahlukene zokuphila. Futhi kungcono kunokuba kubi. Lokhu kusho ukuthi okhethiweyo wakho uthatha ukhetho lomkakho ngokubaluleke kakhulu futhi uma ekwenzela isipho, kuyoba ngaphezu kwesinqumo esinqunyiwe nesazi futhi ngokuqinisekile ngeke akushiye ezinyangeni ezimbalwa zokuqala zomshado.
Ngokushesha ukungajabuli kwakho nokuphila, impilo nomlingani kuzokuphendula ube ngowesifazane - "saw". Lokhu ngeke kugcine indoda yakho kanye nawe futhi ngokuqinisekile ngeke imlethe imibono yomshado. Zama ukushintsha ngendlela enhle. Bheka izinzuzo zakho kukho konke. Lokhu kuzokwenza kube lula ukuphila kokubili wena kanye nekusasa lakho (ake ithemba) kumyeni wakho.
Enye iphuzu elibi elibalulekile lingase libe ukugqithisa ngokweqile kwesabelomali esihlangene. Ukuqeda imali. Le ndoda isayifuna inkosikazi engathandekayo nomgcini womndeni.
Noma okhethiweyo wakho unamahloni kangangokuthi ubheka umshado ukuchitha imali. Cabanga, udinga i-Plushkin enjalo yokuphila? Futhi ngokuvamile, mhlawumbe akafuni ukusebenzisa imali yakhe ethembekile kuwe nomndeni, hhayi yena ngokwakhe.
Esikhathini isinqumo esingalungile somuntu sokuphetha umshado wezomthetho nawe ungase ube nomthelela kanye nesipiliyoni esibi esikhathini esidlule. Mhlawumbe owayengumfazi wakhe wangaphambili wamkhaphela, wamshiya noma wayengamhloniphi, njengenhloko yomndeni. Manje uyesaba ngokuphindaphindiwe ukuphindaphinda ubuhlungu aseke wahlangabezana naye futhi akafuni ukuzwa futhi nawe. Imibuzo eqondile zama ukufunda ngokuphila kwakhe kwangaphambilini futhi ngomusa umqinisekise ukuthi uzoba nesandla sakhe esiqinile, ungamshiyi futhi usekele kokubili usizi nenjabulo.
Mhlawumbe usuvele ushada, unomntwana futhi indoda ayifuni ukuveza izithelo zothando ngaphambili lwalo nomyeni wakho wangaphambili. Kulesi simo kungcono ukuvakashela isazi sengqondo somndeni ndawonye.
Isizathu sokwenqaba umshado singase sibe yisipiliyoni esibi sabazali bakhe nokukhuliswa kwakhe emndenini ongajabuli emshadweni. Kuyafaneleka ukuchaza ukuthi akuyona yonke imishado engajabuli. Abanye abantu banokubukeka okumangalisayo kokuphila ngokujabulisayo konke ukuphila kwabo, ukunika izingane zabo uthando ngisho nokuhamba epaki nge ipeni ekugugile kakhulu.
Buyela emuva ebuhlotsheni bakho nomama nezihlobo zakhe. Mhlawumbe awuthandi? Mhlawumbe umuntu uthonywa yibo futhi uqondiswa nguye ekwenzeni izinqumo ngomshado. Uma kunjalo, uma usafuna ukuba nomuntu wakho okhethiweyo, khona-ke ngeke, akudingeki ukuthi uhlele ubuhlobo obufudumele nomndeni wakhe.
Uma uhlala ndawonye isikhathi eside, khona-ke le ndoda isivele ikhulile. Ngeke neze ubalekele kuyo noma kuphi. Kungani uziqine futhi ushade? Futhi ngakho konke kuhle! Kulesi simo, ungakwazi ukukhipha izinzwa zakho kancane. Iya kubangani bakho ku-cinema, ku-cafe esembathweni esisha bese uqiniseka ukuthi ubuya kusukela ekuhambeni ngezimbali. Indoda yakho yesikhathi esizayo ngokuqinisekile ngeke ishiye leli qiniso ngaphandle kokunakekelwa futhi izocabangela kanzima mayelana nezenzo ezengeziwe.
Isizathu saso siyisimo sakhe esivela emthonjeni omuhle, oshayayo owawuthandana naye, uzoba ngowesifazane okhukhumezayo, onamafutha, egqoke izingubo zokugqoka ezigqoke amafutha, ene-pin yokugcoba emkhonzeni njalo kusihlwa emva komsebenzi. Isimo siyi-anecdotal, kodwa amadoda amaningi ayesaba ukuguqulwa kwesifazane.
Ukungahambisani kwakho ngokomzimba noma ukwehla okubukhali emsebenzini wokucansi, futhi, akushukumiseli umuntu ukuba anikele ukuhamba nawe ngaphansi komqhele. Kuvele sekudingekile isinyathelo esisebenzayo engxenyeni yakho. Mhlawumbe, izimonyo, ingubo entsha enhle nezembatho zangaphansi zokuzikhukhumeza ngeke zibe yinto engafanele ku-alcove yakho?
Uma engekho izinkinga ezingenhla ezixazulula le nkinga futhi ungazi ukuthi kungani indoda ishintshile ingqondo yakhe yokushada nawe, sizokuhalalisela ngenhliziyo yonke! Unomuntu ofanayo ovelele emvelweni njengendlela "u-bachelor uqiniseka"! Kukhona isigaba samadoda abangashadi noma ubani. Akusizi ngalutho ukuphoqelela ukuba bashade nawe. Ngisho noma uphumelela, futhi uzokumema ukuba uhambe ehhovisi lokubhalisa wesifunda, khona-ke indoda enjalo, i-alas, ngeke isithande umkakhe noma izingane.
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