Le ndoda iyinhloko yomndeni
Indabuko yezinkolelo eziningi zokuthi indoda - into esemqoka emndenini ishabalalala kancane kancane esikhathini esidlule. Kodwa ngokufanayo lo mbono uthatha izikhundla eziqinile emphakathini wethu. Amadoda abonakala njengengxenye enamandla yesintu kusukela ngesikhathi sokukhumbula lapho bedla ukudla komndeni futhi evikela abathandekayo babo engozini. Izimo zokuphila zaziqine kangangokuthi umndeni udinga umholi ongenamkhawulo lapho izinqumo zakhe zingakaze zinselele. Abesifazane abaningi bafuna ukubona inhloko yomndeni yindoda eyokuthatha umthwalo womndeni, inhlalakahle yayo, izoxazulula iningi lezinkinga ezivamile. Abesifazane abahlukumezekile babona indoda njengomvikeli wabo.
Izazi zengqondo ziyavuma ukuthi indima yenduna yomndeni yindoda ingokwemvelo. Ukuze sibe nesibopho sokuzinza komndeni, sidinga ukuthatha izinqumo ezicabangelayo, ngokuzikhethela, futhi njengoba amadoda ehlukumeza ngokweqile kunamazwi amaningi kaningi, kulula ukuba benze izinqumo ezinjalo kunabesifazane abahluke ekuthandeni kwabo. Amadoda ancike kakhulu esimweni, futhi njengoba ephethe inhloko yomndeni ubuye abe nesimo, kuzomenza aqonde umndeni njengephrojekthi yakhe, lapho azobeka khona ngenjabulo. Uma umcindezela lo muntu ekuphathweni komndeni, uzama ukuthola enye indlela yokuziveza, uzizwe ukubaluleka kwakhe kanye nesidingo, isibonelo, emsebenzini noma ekuqapheleni.
Ukusungulwa kobukhosi
Kuyinto engavamile emindeni lapho owesifazane ephethe isikhundla esiphakeme. Ngokuvamile kulezi zinyunyana, owesifazane unezimpawu zobuholi, futhi indoda indoda enomusa. Owesifazane onjalo, ngenxa yemvelo yakhe esebenzayo, uthatha umuntu ophethe umndeni, ngenhlalakahle yakhe. Indoda ebhizinisini ejwayelekile, oshadile nomlingani, ojwayele ukuhola emsebenzini wakhe, uzoqala ukulandela ukuziphatha kwakhe ngendlela efanayo emndenini. Indoda ithatha umthwalo wokuqapha izingane, ukuxazulula izinkinga zendlu. Kulesi simo, konke kuxhomeke kumlingiswa wabashadile. Kodwa ngokuvamile umuntu ongakwazi kahle ukuphatha ngeqhaza lomholi womndeni ngokuzithandela unikeza izinkalo ezandleni zabesifazane, ngoba sonke siyivila ngokwemvelo. Kodwa ukuhola umndeni kuwumsebenzi ojulile, odinga izinga eliphakeme lokuzibophezela, futhi lapho umuntu ethatha yonke le mpahla ephuma ezandleni zakhe, angeke amelane nhlobo. Ngokuvamile, lapho amadoda ekhuliswe ngumama onamandla onomlingiswa oqinile, akanezi ukuthi isinqumo emndenini singenziwa ngumuntu ngaphandle kwabesifazane.
Esinye isizathu, i-dodger yomndeni isungulwa ubukhulu bomzimba - isimo esivela emphakathini. Kwamanye amazwe, ngokwesibonelo, e-China, kunabesifazane abancinci kunamadoda, futhi bamane basebenzise lokhu. Ekhaya, baphatha kabi amadoda, behlukumeza isimo sabo, futhi abantu besaba ukulahlekelwa yilabo abashade naye, ngoba uma isehlukaniso ithuba lokushada selincane kakhulu.
Uhulumeni wesifundazwe
Ngaphandle kwe-patriarchy noma i-matriarchy, kukhona enye indlela yokuphatha umkhumbi womndeni - yintando yeningi, ukulingana ekuxazululeni izinkinga zomndeni. Ukuze wenze lokhu, bobabili owesilisa nowesifazane kumele balungele ngokwengqondo. Okokuthi, ukuthatha isinqumo ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo, futhi akubona bonke, eqinisweni, bathambekele ukuthatha umthwalo onjalo emahlombe abo. Ukuxazulula noma yikuphi ukukhishwa ngokulandelana komunye nomunye kungaphazamisa ukuzethemba kwesigamu sesibili, ngakho-ke kunconywa ukuba ubambe imikhandlu yomndeni, lapho wonke umuntu ezoveza khona isikhundla sakhe, futhi emva kwalokhu isinqumo samukelwa, futhi bobabili bavumelana. Lokhu kusho ukuthi imiphumela emibili yesinqumo esinjalo izophendulwa kokubili, futhi ukuhlambalaza, njengokuthi "Ngikhulume", akusasamukeli.
Ngesinye isikhathi abantu abajwayele ukuxhaphazwa, ikakhulukazi besifazane, batshale izinqumo zabo ekuqaphelweni komuntu othandekayo, bamphoqa ukuba acabange ukuthi lesi sinqumo sasiyakhe, futhi lona wesifazane uvele wavumelana naye. Kunzima kakhulu ukubiza isimo esinjalo sentando yeningi. Intando yeningi isekelwe othandweni nasekuhlonipheni, futhi ukuxhaphazwa kuyisimo esinikezela umphathi wezwi amandla. Kunzima kakhulu ukwenza izinqumo ndawonye. Abaningi bathi inkululeko kanye nokulingana emndenini kuyizinganekwane. Balinganisa impilo yomndeni ngokuhamba ngomkhumbi, lapho kukhona khona induna eyodwa kuphela. Yebo, uma abantu bengakwazi ukwamukela isikhundla somunye, uma kungekho nhlonipho, kuzama ukuxazulula into ndawonye bayobe behudula eceleni kwabo. Kodwa kulokhu kunzima ukukhuluma ngokuphila okuhlangene. Iningi lentando yeningi linikeza ikhono lokuveza nokunciphisa, ukuhlonipha isikhundla somuntu othandekayo. Kunoma yikuphi, uthando luyisisekelo esiyinhloko esenza abantu bakha umndeni, ngakho kubalulekile ukuthi bangakhohlwa imizwa yabo ekuzifuneleni ukubaluleka kwabo.
Indima yayo
Mayelana nokusatshalaliswa kwemithwalo yemfanelo emndenini kungashiwo isikhathi eside kakhulu. Kukhona amasiko athile emphakathini owahlukanisa imisebenzi emndenini ibe yindoda neyomfazi, ngokusho ukuthi isifo sokuzivikela kufanele senze izipikili nezibopho zokulungisa, futhi owesifazane ulungiselela amaborschtes ukuba agqoke izingubo. Enye indima yendabuko emadodeni - ukuthola ukugcinwa komndeni, kanye nowesifazane - ukuhlala ekhaya nezingane. Uma bobabili abashadile bekhuliswe esimweni sendabuko, khona-ke isimo sabo sezomnotho singamukeleka ngokuphelele futhi sizohlangana ndawonye ngokuvumelana.
Kukhona enye indlela yokwabiwa kabusha kwemisebenzi, lapho indima emndenini ihlangabezana nezimfanelo zomuntu nabesifazane. Uma umuntu ekwazi kakhulu kunoma iyiphi insimu noma nje uyayithanda, khona-ke kungaba ngcono ukumuvumela ukuthi akwenze emndenini. Ngamanye amazwi, wonke umuntu wenza okuthile emndenini ayithandayo, nokuthi ulungile kuwo. Isibonelo, uma umuntu ejabulela ukupheka ubuciko bokupheka, ngakho kungani ungamniki ukubaluleka ekhishini. Owesifazane ungumalusi ozelwe, owazi ukuthi ungasindisa kanjani isabelomali somndeni, uyakwazi ukunakekelwa kwezimali ekhaya.
Yiqiniso, kuhle uma wonke umuntu enza lokho akuthandayo, kodwa kunemisebenzi eminingi endlini, ukugcwaliseka kwayo okungase kungathandeki nakakhulu kunoma ubani. Kulesi simo kungcono ukunquma ndawonye ukuthi ngubani ozoba khona ekhaya, ngakho-ke akukho ukuphazamiseka, uma umuntu enza wonke umsebenzi oyinhloko. Lesi simo ngokuvamile siholela ekuthukeni kanye nokuhlambalazana.
Ngezinye izikhathi izazi zengqondo zeluleka imindeni ukuba iguqule kancane kancane imisebenzi yawo, ukuze abashadile bazizwe komunye nomunye futhi baqonde ukuzwana. Lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kuyasiza kakhulu futhi ngezinye izikhathi kumnandi. Ngokuvamile abesifazane namadoda besaba ukwabelana ngemithwalo yabo yemfanelo, ngoba besaba ukulahlekelwa umuzwa wokubaluleka kwabo emndenini. Kodwa lokhu akunjalo, ngoba emndenini lapho kukhona ukuhloniphana nokuqonda, lokhu ngeke kwenzeke.