Kuyadabukisa lapho umyeni eshaya umkakhe, ngisho nezingane ezincane. Ngisho kunezimo lapho ukushaywa kwenzeka, njengokungathi kusetshenziswe isikhathi, futhi owesifazane obesabisayo uyathuthumela ngobuhlungu obunjalo. Thule. Kuyesabeka, kodwa usuvele eshiye ukuzwakala kweziteleka zesithulu ngokumelene nomzimba wakhe. Yiqiniso, uma owesifazane owaziwayo eshaywa, ulwazi olunjalo luzoba yindawo yezwe lonke. Izithombe zenkanyezi ehlanziwe kuyoba namakhasi amaphephandaba nezinhlelo ze-TV. Bonke ndawonye bazojabulela impilo yangasese nezenzo zombhangqwana oshadile odumile. Kuyinto engavamile, kodwa kukhona abalandeli bomyeni odlwengula. Kodwa-ke umphakathi usheshe ukhohlwe umlando, ngisho nenhloko yodlame lwasekhaya. Uma ubudlova kwenzeka emndenini olula, ngakho-ke ngokuvamile unesithakazelo esincane kunoma ubani.
Uyini ubudlova? Udlame lwasekhaya yisenzo senhloso ngelungu elilodwa lomndeni ngokumelene nomunye noma ngaphezulu amalungu alowo mndeni. Lezi zenzo zingaba ngokobulili, ngokomzimba, kwengqondo nezomnotho. Njengomthetho, izenzo ezinjalo ezinobudlova ziphula amalungelo, kanye nenkululeko yabantu, ngaphezu kokulimala kokuziphatha, kubangela umonakalo omkhulu emzimbeni nasengqondweni yomuntu. Ngokusho kwedatha esemthethweni, abantu abangaphezu kwezigidi ezingu-4 babhalisiwe kuma-ejensi okuphoqelela umthetho waseRussia Federation abenza izenzo zobudlova emndenini wabo. Nakuba kungabikho abahlukunyezwa ngokwabo noma amaphoyisa aphuza ukwenza lezi zimo. Kuyaziwa ukuthi phakathi kwabadlwenguli abayizigidi ezingu-4, abantu abangu-3,355,000 bangamalungu "ajwayelekile" ahlonishwayo emphakathini, nakuba kubhekwa njengabahlukumezi bomndeni.
Izisulu eziyinhloko zodlame lwasekhaya ziyizintombi. Amaphesenti angama-70 azo zonke izigameko zasekhaya zaseRussia ziholela ekufeni kwesisulu, ngakho-ke, esimweni sethu, owesifazane oyedwa ufa njalo emaminithini angu-40 ezandleni zomyeni we-rapist. Iningi lamaRussia liba yisisulu sezidlova zasekhaya ngenxa yokudakwa noma izimo zezomnotho. Ngonyaka waseRussia, abesifazane abangaba ngu-2 000 baqeda ukuphila kwabo ngokuzibulala, abangakwazi ukubekezelela ukushaya nokuhlambalaza emndenini. Lezi zibalo zenza umphakathi wanamuhla uqaphele le nkinga futhi ubheke impendulo yombuzo, indlela yokusiza owesifazane ukuba asinde ubudlova obuvela kumyeni wakhe?
Nakuba kusencane kakhulu ukukhuluma ngokusiza abesifazane beseceleni komphakathi. Njengoba umphakathi ngokwawo ungakalungeli nje ukuxazulula, kodwa futhi ukuxoxa ngezici eziningi zalolu daba. Isibonelo, omakhelwane abaningi ngisho nezihlobo ezibona ukushaya kwabafazi njalo bakholelwa ukuthi izisulu ngokwazo zinecala ezinjalo. Bona ngokwabo bakhetha umyeni wabo, futhi okokuqala kwakungadingeka ukuba bashiye umdlwenguli! Ngezinye izikhathi imibono iboniswa ukuthi lona wesifazane uqobo unecala lokushaya, uyamcasula. Ngempela, ungamsiza kanjani ukuba aqhubeke nobudlova uma ebekezelela futhi engashiyi kuwo?
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuze kube manje emazweni athile, udlame lwasekhaya selusungulwe ngokusemthethweni. Isibonelo, kwamanye amazwe kunezinkambiso ezinika ilungelo lomuntu ukunquma amalungelo nenkululeko yomkayo nezingane zakhe.
Ngokokuqala ngqá, ukunakekelwa kwakhokhwa inkinga yobudlova basekhaya emazweni aseNtshonalanga, ekuqaleni kwama-seventies kwakulungele ikhulu lokugcina. Izikhungo zokuqala zengozi yabesifazane abasinda ubudlova zavela emazweni aseMelika. Namuhla amaRussia anquma "ukuthatha ilineni elingcolile ngaphandle kwendlu". Bayaqaphela ukuthi uma indoda ishaya, akuyona njalo iphutha lomkayo. Manje eRussia zakhiwe futhi zisebenze izinhlangano eziningi zomphakathi nezingezona zikahulumeni ezivikela amalungelo abesifazane. Esikhathini sokuqala kwabesifazane abake bahlangabezane nengozi efanayo, izindawo zokukhosela, izikhungo zokukhoseliswa kanye nama-hotlines asetshenzisiwe.
Ngenxa yezenzo ezinjalo eziqhubekayo, ekugcineni umphakathi wakwazi ukufunda ngezigebengu ezinobudlova emndenini futhi usize izisulu zobudlova. Owesifazane oye wahlushwa kanzima ngeke aphinde abe nomuzwa wedwa usizi lwakhe. Imisebenzi yaleyo mibutho kanye nezinhlangano ibonise ngokucacile ukuthi kungenzeka ukusiza owesifazane ukuba asinde ubudlova obuvela kumyeni wakhe. Izinhlangano ezinjalo ezikhethekile zingasiza ukunciphisa inani labantu abafa noma balimala ngenxa yezingxabano zomndeni.
Kancane kancane, emphakathini, umqondo wenziwa ukuthi kukhona ubudlova emindenini yaseRussia, okumele ijeziswe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ezingeni elisemthethweni, udlame lwasekhaya selucacisiwe kakade njengengozi kazwelonke. Namuhla, inkinga yobudlova basekhaya iqondiswa ezingeni likazwelonke. Ngeshwa, le nqubo ihamba kancane, kodwa manje abesifazane kufanele babe nolwazi oluyisisekelo oluzobasiza ezimweni ezibucayi.
Uma kunesimo esibucayi, kufanele usuke masinyane endlini. Kumele kwenziwe masinyane, noma ngabe kukhona imali, amadokhumende kanye nokucweba okusele endlini. Ukuphila kuyabiza kakhulu, kodwa useyingozi! Kunconywa futhi ukuthi ilungiselele indiza kusengaphambili. Ukuze wenze lokhu, udinga ukugcina amakheli aphephile nezincingo, othintana nabo, lapho ungathola khona usizo oluphuthumayo. Uma owesifazane ehlukumezekile, udinga ukuxhumana namaphoyisa nesibhedlela, abize i-hotline, afune isiphephelo ezindaweni zokuhlala ezikhethekile kanye nezikhungo, futhi eze ekuqondiseni kwengqondo.
Uma ingxabano iqala ngokungalindelekile futhi ayikho indlela yokubiza amaphoyisa, kubalulekile ukukhamuluka phezulu futhi ube ingilazi endlini. Masinyane emva kokushaya, udinga ukucela usizo lwezokwelapha futhi uthole isitifiketi sezokwelapha mayelana nakho konke ukulimala. Khumbula, ukuze ulwe nobudlova futhi ulwe nalo, kubalulekile ukwenza lesi simo sibonakale kwabanye.