Kodwa-ke, uma unquma ukunikeza isimemezelo esinjalo, ngokushesha umbuzo ekhanda lakho ngu: kanjani ukwenza lesi simemezelo? Ukuze uphase lowo oyilindele.
Ubani umbhali? Abesifazane, ukunikeza izikhangiso kumngane, bangahlukaniswa zibe izinhlobo ezine eziyinhloko:
Ukuphelelwa yithemba - lolu luhlobo lokuqala lomfazi oyedwa ofuna ukujwayelana naye. Kubandakanya abesifazane abaqaphela ngokujulile ukufutheka kwesizungu futhi balungele ukuzidela ukuthola umngane, eminye yemikhuba yabo ukuze bakhe umndeni. Isigaba esinjalo sabesifazane asiya kumaqembu, amathilomu, izitaladi kanye nazo zonke izinhlobo zezinhlangano ngethemba lokwazana. Okokuqala, bacabanga ukuthi kungcono ukuqaphela umuntu ngezincwadi, futhi okwesibili, uma umuntu engaphenduli incwadi, uzobe ese-insured kusukela ekuhlazisweni ukuze athole udonga ngendandatho yonkana. Laba besifazane babaluleke kakhulu ngokubukeka kwabo namakhono abo. Isikhangiso esivamile sokuthi owesifazane oyedwa walolu hlobo ubonakala enesizotha futhi ebhalwe ngokuphelelwa ithemba. Lokhu kubonisa ngokushesha owesifazane ongenayo imilingo kanye nezimangalo ezikhethekile kumuntu wakhethiweyo.
Inamandla - uhlobo lwesibili lomfazi oyedwa ofuna ukujwayelana naye. Lo wesifazane ongashadile ubumnandi kakhulu, futhi akesabi ukuvakashela izindawo ezinabantu abaningi efuna okhethiwe. Ubhala isikhangiso ephephandabeni hhayi ekuphelelwe yithemba, kodwa nje ngesisekelo ukuthi le ndlela ayikho embi kunezinye. Ubhala isikhangiso esikhulu, esivumelana ngokugcwele nesimo sakhe. Ucabanga ukuthi ufanelwe umuntu omuhle. Futhi lo wesifazane ongashadile ufanele ngempela!
Ziqhenye - uhlobo lwesithathu. Njengomthetho, lo wesifazane akayedwa. Kodwa ubuhlobo bakhe obukhona ngenxa yezizathu ezithile azihambisani naye, futhi ubeka isikhangiso ephephandabeni, enethemba lokuwina okukhulu. Ukumemezela kowesifazane onjalo ngokuvamile kuqukethe izimangalo ezinhle kumlingani. Unokuzikhethela, kodwa akayeki ngokushesha kumuntu othize, eqhubeka nokufaka isikhangiso, ngethemba lokuthi othile uzoba ngcono. Ngokuvamile laba bangabesifazane abahle, abazisa izimpahla ezibonakalayo nokubukeka kwabo.
I-Narcissistic yindlela yesine yowesifazane oyedwa. Le ntombazane ayinayo ngokuphelele izakhiwo. Isibonelo, uyazibuza njengamaTaliyane asemnyama. Uzobhala esitatimendeni ukuthi unesilwane ngezinyawo zikaSharon Stone futhi ufuna ukujwayelana nesiNtaliyane. Uzobhalwa futhi eminyakeni eyishumi emva kokushicilelwa kwaleso simemezelo. Yiqiniso, neze phakathi kwababhali lapho kuyoba khona okungenani isiNtaliyane esisodwa.
Futhi ubani onqobayo? Isigaba esilandelayo, ngokungaqondakali, sinqoba kakhulu kunabesifazane bohlobo lokuqala. Izazi zezenhlalakahle zithi abesifazane abakhangisa ukubonakala kwabo nesithunzi sabo, kanye nokwenza izidingo ezithile esikhathini esizayo abakhethiwe, bathola izinhlamvu ezingenakuqhathaniswa kunalebo ababeka izimemezelo ezithobekile ephephandabeni. Izazi zezinqondo zichaza lokhu ngokuthi abantu besaba ukungahambisani nomfanekiso okwenziwe kahle, futhi bangenqatshelwe, ungazami nokubhala. Futhi abesifazane abafanelekayo abatholi izincwadi ezivela kubantu abangaba nesithakazelo kubo. Abesifazane bohlobo lokuqala bathola inombolo enkulu kakhulu yezinhlamvu.
Amadoda afana nesizotha, ahlakaniphile, hhayi ukukhipha abesifazane abathandayo. Uhlobo lwesithathu lwabasifazane, njengomthetho, thola izinhlamvu ezincane. Ukuzethemba nokuzinza kwalaba besifazane kuzwa abantu besuka kude. Izinhlobo ezimbili zokugcina zabesifazane abangashadile zizithola zikhethwe yizincwadi ngokungajwayelekile. Futhi kubaluleke kakhulu, unganiki ikheli lakho lasekhaya kanye nefoni - kungcono ukuba nebhokisi lakho siqu. Inhlanhla!