Inye kanye nenqubo efanayo, kodwa ngamunye wethu unesimo sakhe sengqondo, isisusa, izizathu. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Ngabe ucansi lusho ukuthini namuhla kuningi? Kungani izizathu ezihluke kangaka futhi yisiphi isizathu salokhu? Ake sibone.
Ukuqashelwa komphakathi
Sekuvele kwenzeka ukuthi ubulili namuhla buyingxenye yokukhangisa, ukumaketha kanye nesiko lomphakathi. Ubulili kithi namuhla kusho into efiseleka kakhulu, enhle, edingekayo. Awubukeki - amantombazane angama-sexy kuma-posters, izimpawu, izimpawu, izilogizo, eziheha ngempela, inzalo kumthengi. Ubulili namuhla bufihliwe ezincwadini nakuma-movie, ezithombeni. Ukuhlaziya i-protagonist eyintandokazi noma i-heroine, ephumelele emphakathini - ngokuvamile ikhululiwe, i-sexy futhi iyazethemba. I-hero of fighters, amafilimu adventure namafantasy ngokuvamile ungumfana onesibindi, ufanelwe ukuba abe intando yomphakathi, futhi akuyona enye intsha engenakuqiniseka. Ubulili namuhla ngenye yefomu ukufezekisa ukuqashelwa komphakathi, ukuba yingxenye yesithombe, ukuzinikela ekufuneni. Silandela ubulili njengenkolo, sikholelwa ukuthi kuzoletha ukwaneliseka, injabulo nokuzethemba.
Ukwesaba isizungu
Ngamunye wethu, ngezinga elithile, ngezikhathi ezithile, unesisulu. Ngezinye izikhathi, ngisho noma sinabangane nomuntu oseduze - singenza i-vseravno sizizwe sengathi yiyena kuphela umuntu emhlabeni. Futhi nakuba kunabantu abaningi kangaka, kubonakala sengathi bonke bangabantu abangabazi, abangaziqondi, abangenalo uthando. Umuntu uthambekele ekubalekelweni nesizungu, ngokulingana nokufa. Lokhu kungenye yezinto ezimbi, izinkathazo, amaphupho ebusuku. Ukusindiswa ngamunye wethu unesici salokhu kokwesaba, uhlobo oluthile lokungabi nalutho ngaphakathi, olungagcwaliswa kuphela ngomunye umuntu. Abantu badinga ubunye, sidinga abanye abantu, ukuxhumana, ukusondelana, uthando. Ngezinye izikhathi ukungabi nalutho kithi kunamandla kakhulu futhi kudla konke futhi sizama ukukugcwalisa ngocansi. Emva kocansi ubuhlobo obuseduze, ukusondelana kwabantu ababili. Lokhu kutholakala, ukwethemba, ubunye. Ubulili buvumela abantu ukuba bangazizwa benesizungu, bevulele omunye umuntu, bamethembe futhi bamvumele ukuba asuse ukwesaba kwakhe.
Ngifisa ukufisa
Ngezinye izikhathi isisusa sokulala ocansini yisifiso ... ukufisa ucansi. Zonke ezungeze ngezwi elilodwa zisho ukuthi zihle kanjani, zithandeka kanjani futhi zimnandi. Ngempela, ubulili buyinto ekhethekile. Uma kungekho isifiso, sizibuza: yini engalungile kithi? Ngamunye wethu wesaba ukungajwayelekile ngendlela ethile. Lesi sifiso esivamile - sifanelana nesinye isakhiwo somphakathi. Isifiso sokuba "njengabantu bonke" siyasiqhubezela kanye nerax. Phela, lokhu "kuyinto evamile". Futhi ukuba nobulili obubandayo noma engafuni ngokuvamile kuvame ukuhambisana nokucasuka nokuhlazeka, ukugula. Kodwa awufuni - kujwayelekile, ikakhulukazi uma inombolo yomuntu ongathandeki noma empilweni yakho manje yisikhathi esinzima. Ubulili ngumsebenzi osondelene kakhulu futhi kuphezu kwakho. Akudingekile ukuthi uzivumelanise namafreyimenti avamile kanye nemigomo yemigomo nemigomo. Ufisa ubulili kuphela ngoba abanye bafuna kube yiziphukuphuku. Ngamunye wethu ufika isikhathi sakhe nesizathu sakhe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukwenza ngokwakho kuyinto engafanele kakhulu ongayicabangela. Ngakho-ke, kungenzeka kakhulu ukuqoqa intukuthelo nokufutheka, futhi ngokushesha futhi ulahlekelwe ngokuphelele isifiso ngisho ... ukuze uthole ukwesaba. Ingabe udinga lokhu?
Ukujabulisa
Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi ubulili buletha injabulo, izindawo ezisetshenziselwa ubuchopho zenza kube njengesidakamizwa. Kodwa asikhathaleli ngokuxhomeka kocansi - kuzuzisa kuphela umzimba wethu: iphunga eliphuthumayo, isisindo nesifo senhliziyo, isimangaliso ukwelashwa kokucindezeleka, ithuba elincane lomkhuhlane, nempilo engcono ejwayelekile. Futhi siyini isizathu esingenasizathu?
Ukuzivocavoca nokuzethemba
Ubulili ngenye yezinhlobo zokuziveza, ukuziqinisekisa. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi emadodeni, amakhono okulala ngokobulili asho okuningi. Amadoda amaningi abona ubulili njengokuthi "ukunqoba" komuntu siqu, efuna ukuzizwa njengomuntu ohlakaniphileyo, u-superman noma i-movie hero ... Yingakho kukhona into enjalo: amadoda akhuluma ngokunqoba nokuphumelela kwabo kwezocansi, nabesifazane ngokuphambene nommangali. Futhi kulokhu kukhona iqiniso elithile. Kubantu abaningi, ubulili yingxenye yesimo, isici esibalulekile empilweni yabo, isici sabo siqu. Kwabesifazane, lokhu kuyindlela engcono yokuzethemba. Wonke owesifazane othanda ukuthanda, lokhu kuyadingeka kubo. Uma owesifazane engathandi, uyoma, njengembali engagcwaliswa. Nakuba le ntombazane ingathuthukisa futhi ikhubelele isoka layo ukuthi "njalo nje kuphela into eyodwa futhi ucabange, uhlale ufuna mina, sengivele ngikhathele, nginamahloni", uma le "isilwane" ngokungazelelwe iyeka ukuyifuna, ngeke ilalele ngaphandle kwayo enhle futhi ekhohlisa unomusa ... uzobe ecasuliwe. U-sex kusiza owesifazane ukuba azizwe efunwa, azizwe enhle futhi ethandekayo. Ubulili besilisa buveza ukuzethemba, kusenza sikwazi ukuzwa inkosi yezwe lonke! Kuzo zonke izicansi - lokhu akuyona nje indlela yokuxhumana, indlela yokuziveza yona, kepha nokuzibonakalisa okuthile. Ngezinye izikhathi ubulili buba namandla nokuthembela, okubuye kubaluleke kakhulu.
Ngomuntu ngamunye ucansi angathola uphawu olulodwa, incazelo ezoba yisisusa futhi imbangela.