Ubani isazi sezengqondo?
Uma bethi "isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo", empeleni, ngokuvamile kuvame ukuthi "psychotherapist". "Iqiniso liwukuthi isazi sezokwelapha asiphulukisi, kodwa kusiza kuphela ukuqonda isimo esithile. Unelungelo lokubamba imihlangano engaphezu kwemihlanu noma eyisithupha. Ngemuva kokugcina, izinqubo eziyinkimbinkimbi zemilingo ziqala ukusebenza. Lokhu kudinga amakhono namakhono amakhono ethuthukile kakhulu. I-psychotherapist ihlanganyela ekutadisheni okujulile kwezinkinga. Ukuxhumana naye kungahlala isikhathi eside: izinyanga ezimbalwa noma ngisho neminyaka.
Uzokwenzenjani?
Ukwamukela ku-psychotherapist wesimanje akufani nesimo esibhekene nombhede ojwayele amafilimu aseHollywood. Khohlwa nge-psychoanalytics eqinile nama-monologgues ende, akuzona ngempela izimfanelo zomsebenzi ophumelelayo kuwe. Empeleni, zijwayele kuphela ukuqondisa - psychoanalysis classical.
Khuluma futhi ulalele
Amazwi, noma "ukukhuluma ngomlomo" (njengoba isazi se-psychotherapist sakho singasho), zibalulekile ku-Gestalt, ukuphathwa kokwelashwa okukhona, ingqondo ye-Jungian yokuhlaziywa, ukuhlaziywa kokuthengiselana kanye ne-psychoanalysis yesigaba. Ngomchwepheshe kulezi zindawo, udinga ukuhlangana kanye noma kabili ngesonto ukuxoxa ngemibuzo ebalulekile kuwe. Ukukhulumisana kwakho kuyoba njengengxoxo ende mayelana nobuhlungu: uthando olungathandeki, ukwesaba ukuguga, ubudlelwane obunzima nomama wakho, amaphupho amabi noma ngisho nempilo yomlingiswa wakho. Ungakwazi ukuxoxa ngokuphepha ngososayensi konke okwenza manje ukhathazeke. Kodwa uma ufunda psychoanalyst classic, ulungiselele ukuthi indaba yakho uyolalela nge ubuso stony. Kule ndlela kubhekwe njengesibopho sokugcina ibanga phakathi komuthi kanye nomklayenti, ukuze ungavimbeli lo mkhakha wokugcina ukugxila ekuhlangenwe nakho kwangaphakathi ngangokunokwenzeka. Futhi kufanelekile ukukhumbula: i-psychoanalysis ye-classic idinga umsebenzi omude (ochungechungeni angakhohlisi: i-psychoanalyst ingahamba iminyaka eyishumi).
Dweba, dlala
Kuzokwelapha kwezobuciko nendlela yokuqondisa umzimba, umsebenzi ku-self ubangelwa ukuxhumana nezwe lomzimba. Ukuhamba ngemithi yokwenza ubuciko, uzoqala ukukhipha upulasitiki, ukudansa ngisho nokunye, mhlawumbe, ukuxhuma kwi-sandbox. Kulolu cala, lo mhlengikazi ngeke abuke nje imizamo yakho evela ngaphandle, kodwa futhi ahlanganyele ngokugcwele emsebenzini wokuthuthukisa impilo. Ama-Psychodramatists azodlala izigcawu ezivela empilweni yakho, futhi indima yomuntu oyinhloko emdlalweni womuntu siqu (owawuthandana naye noma ugogo wakhe) ungadlalwa yisihlalo (ukwamukela kuthiwa "yisihlalo esishisayo"). Kodwa, naphezu kwalesi sivumelwano, izincazelo ziyoba yisiphepho esikhulu. Ngendlela yokwenza umzimba, umuthi awufuni ukugcina ibanga elingokwenyama, ngakho-ke lungiselela ukuthi phakathi neseshini ungabamba izandla, vala amehlo akho uphinde uthule, ubukele ukuzwa kwangaphakathi. Cishe, zizoxhumene noxhumana nabo bokuqala nomama wakho.
Ukuqonda ukuthi ubani okudingayo
Uma ukhuluma kangcono kunokudweba, lokhu akusho ukuthi udinga ukukhetha izindlela zokukhuluma. Mhlawumbe, kunalokho, kubalulekile ukuthuthukisa amakhono angekho. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ucwaningo lubonisile: zonke izindlela eziyisisekelo zokwelashwa kwengqondo zinikeza imiphumela efanayo. Yebo, futhi abahlengikazi ngokwabo basebenzisa izindlela ezahlukene emsebenzini wabo, ngoba bafuna ukukusiza, hhayi nje ukuqoqa izinto zendaba yesayensi. Isibonelo, umhlaziyi wezokuhweba angasebenzisa inzuzo ye-psychodrama futhi aphakamise ukudlala isici esikhiphe empilweni yakho "nesitulo esishisayo". Futhi noma yiluphi uchwepheshe - buza umbuzo: "Uzizwa kanjani manje, ukuphi ukuzwa emzimbeni?" Kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhetha hhayi isiqondiso, kodwa ochwepheshe abanolwazi nangokwethenjelwa. "Lokhu kunqunywa kanjani? Akungabazeki ukuthi isazi esihle ngokushesha esifundeni sokuqala sizoqala ukusebenza ngokumelene nokuqina okuqinile. Ngemuva kokuphela kwethembisi, ukusebenza ngengozi kungenzeka ". Sakhetha ukwelashwa okusekelwe ekuzweleni: "Kumele kube nesifiso, isifiso. Umuthi omuhle unempilo, ucebile futhi ujabule. Uma udokotela enganeliseki kakhulu ngento ethile ekuphileni, uzokhubeka ngenkinga efanayo yenkampani, noma azame ukuxazulula izinkinga zakhe.
Uzozizwa kanjani?
Uzokhulula imizwa eminingi ehlukene, enhle futhi hhayi kakhulu. Isimo sengqondo singaba sithukuthele noma sidabuke. Kodwa, uma ngemuva kwesimiso sokuqala uzwa imizwelo embi, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele. Ukuvakasha kokuqala kumtholampilo: uyakhala. Lokhu cishe kuyisibonakaliso somsebenzi onzima. Kungenzeka ukuthi lo mkhakha awukwazi ukubhekana nale nkinga, noma usebenza kabi kakhulu. Kodwa, ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma emva kwemihlangano emihlanu noma eyisikhombisa kunomuzwa wokuthi akukho lutho olwenzekayo, kungenzeka ukuthi lo muthi uphinde ukhethwa ngokungalungile. Kungomhlangano wesihlanu noma wesithupha ongase uqale ukuzwa imizwa ejulile futhi engajabulisi ngaso sonke isikhathi kumqondisi. Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi "ukudluliswa". Imizwelo nemizwa eyake izwa kumama, ubaba noma abanye abantu abaseduze, manje udlulisela kumtholampilo. Futhi iba uhlobo lwesikrini lapho ifilimu iboniswa ngawe.
Lokho okushiwo umhlengikazi
Naye, naye, angaba nomuzwa odidekile - "ukulandelana." Mhlawumbe uzomkhumbuza umuntu osondelene naye. Kodwa yena, ngokungafani nawe, kufanele aqaphele ngokugcwele okuhlangenwe nakho okwenzekayo. Inzima ukuthi udokotela kufanele ahlale kude kakhulu nawe futhi ungavimbeli imizwelo yakhe. E-psychotherapy, into ebaluleke kakhulu ukudala indawo ephephile futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo impilo egcwele yesikhala. Landela le mithetho enzima yomhlengikazi osizwa ngabasizi bezokuphatha (abanama-psychotherapists abanolwazi) abanamacala amabi okusebenza kuwo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, angakwazi ukufunda njalo "I-Code Ethics of Therapist" (isifungo se-Hippocratic for psychotherapists), lapho kukhona khona, isibonelo, ukuvinjelwa "isimo sengqondo esiphindwe kabili", okungukuthi, uthando noma ubungane ngaphandle kwekhabhinethi.
Imithetho yokuhamba
Ungesabi ukubuza imibuzo. Phela, awukhathaleli ukuthi ngabe udokotela ohlinzayo unayo ilayisense futhi uyazikhubaza izinsimbi. Futhi lapha asikhulumi nge-appendicitis, kodwa ngekhanda, ongeke ukwazi ukususa uma kunenkinga. Nazi izinto ezimbalwa okufanele wazi mayelana nomuthi wakho.
Imfundo:
I-psychotherapist kudingeka ukuthi abe nemfundo emibili. Esinye seziyisisekelo (isifo sengqondo noma isayensi yezokwelapha emisebenzini, emphakathini kanye nasezifundweni ziyavunyelwa ezindaweni ezithile), okwesibini kuyingqayizivele, ngaphakathi kohlaka lwezinye zezindlela zokwelashwa kwengqondo. Lezi zinsuku akufanele zibandakanye ingqikithi kuphela, kodwa futhi namahora wokusebenza.
Inkontileka yokwelapha
Ekubonisaneni kokuqala udokotela ubophezelekile ukuthi achaze ukuthi kubiza kangakanani, yiziphi izindlela ezisebenzisayo, ukuthi ubude besikhathi siyini nokuthi ukwelashwa kuzohlala isikhathi eside kangakanani. Futhi kufanele axoxisane nawe ngezinkinga zabantu abafika ngesikhathi esifushane futhi ukhansela imihlangano. Ukubusa okuvamile: ukuxwayisa mayelana nabo kungakapheli usuku. Ekuphenduleni umbuzo mayelana nezindleko zokubonisana azikho izitatimende ezinjengalezi: "Futhi ungathanda kangakanani? Sizovuma! ». Ukuhambisana nohlaka lobuchwepheshe. Ukuze uqonde ukuthi ngabe lo mkhakha awuhambisani nemingcele yakho, zibuze imibuzo elandelayo. Ingabe sekwephuzile ukuthola izimpendulo, ingabe uyazikhuthazela ngomzuzu wokugcina? Awutholi yini ukuthi umuzwa ukhuluma kakhulu ngezinye iziguli? Ingabe uzama ukungena kwezinye ubuhlobo nawe namanye amaklayenti ngaphandle kwekhabhinethi?
Ukulungisa
Akufanele ube nomuzwa wokuthi uyashesha kakhulu. Kukhona abathanda ukwelashwa okuvusa amadlingozi, kodwa akudingekile neze: akudingeki ukhuthazele. Ngakho-ke, uma lochwepheshe ebeka amazwi angalungile, ikakhulu uma ehlaziya izimo ezinzima kuwe, into efana nale: "Ulila ngani? Kumele wamukele umthwalo wemfanelo: awuzange ushaywe, uzishaya, "kungcono ukuthi ungabheki noluchwepheshe.
Ubuchwepheshe Bomsebenzi
Kungcono kuneminyaka emibili noma emithathu. Uma umuntu ekutshela ngokuziqhenya ukuthi unomsebenzi "weminyaka emibili", kubalulekile ukucabanga ngokwanele. Ungacela imibuzo eyengeziwe mayelana nokuthi usevele esebenze namacala afana neyakho.
Ukuba khona komphathi kanye nokwelashwa komuntu siqu
Buza umuthi uma ehambela umphathi. Buza ukuthi uthathe yini ukwelapha ngokwakhe. Kubalulekile ukucabanga ukuthi uzoqhubeka yini ukuxhumana, uma enikeza impendulo embuzweni wakho into ethi "ukwelashwa kuphazamisa ukungahambisani nomsebenzi." Kwezinye izindawo, njenge-psychoanalysis, inani elithile lamahora we-psychotherapy liphoqelekile.
I-psychoanalyst engathí sina
Kungabizwa ngokuthi yiyo kuphela ngemva kwamahora angu-300 yokwelashwa komuntu siqu. Ku-Jungians, ibha ingaphansi kwamahora angu-250, kusukela kuma-Gestaltists angu-240 kuphela adingekayo.
Imizwa yakho
Zama ngobuqotho ukuphendula imibuzo embalwa. Ungathanda ukuxhumana nalo muntu uma nje uhlangana naye enkampanini jikelele? Ingabe ubonakale ehlakaniphile? Akunaso ebusweni bakhe, isenzo, indlela yokugqoka. Kodwa namanje ungahambi kumuntu owenze ngokushesha ukuthi wenqatshelwe. Uma imihlangano emihlanu noma eyisithupha idlulile, futhi ungenakubekezeleleka ngokuphelele, kungenzeka ukuthi akukho othintana naye. Kodwa khumbula, uma unquma ukuhlukanisa nalolu lwazi, kufanele ubambe iseshini-sokumisa, lapho uzobamba khona imiphumela yokusebenzisana - futhi lo muthi ngokuqinisekile uzotusa umlingani wakho.