Ngaphambi kokuba uqale le ngxoxo, udinga ukuzola. Mhlawumbe uthukuthele futhi ukwesaba ukuthuthukiswa kwalesi simo. Kodwa-ke, ungamangaleli umyeni wakhe ngokushesha - ngokuba uqala ukuthi kunengqondo ukuqonda ukuthi ngezigwebo zakhe ezingalindelekile kufanele kube khona lologi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uqobo lwakho. Yini okufanele ngiyenze uma umyeni wami efuna umfana nentombazane ye-ultrasound?
Asidingi amantombazane?
Egcekeni lekhulu lama-XXI, kanti amanye amadoda aphikelela ukuthi umfana - ingane yebanga lokuqala, kanye nentombazane - eyesibili. Ngokungaqondile kulo mbono basekelwa ngisho nabahlengikazi bekhaya lokubeletha: ekukhipheni "i-dachshund" ngoba umfana uhlale ephakeme. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka?
Amasiko nje
Umyeni wakho uyindoda enengqondo yendabuko, futhi unezinkolelo zamadoda ezindala: umfana uqhubeka noyise, umfana ungumuntu wakhe, njalonjalo. Lona ngumntwana wesifazane - ungumntwana: ukukhathazeka, ukukhathazeka, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo ujabule. Futhi kumadoda amaningi, izinyane, ikakhulukazi owokuqala, ikakhulukazi uma nje "eqala" - isithombe esinjalo esivela kumaphosta okukhangisa: umfana okhulile uhamba ngengalo noyise ngoba edoba noma ehlezi ngokumelene naye ebhodini labaqondisi (lo ngumuntu ezihlobene nobuntu babo).
Intombazane esithombeni manje ngokucacile ayifanele. Ngakho kufanele ngenzeni uma umyeni wami efuna umfana nentombazane e-ultrasound? Ukuchazela ubaba ukuthi indodana, mhlawumbe, ayiboni ukudoba naye noma ukuthatha isipiliyoni sebhizinisi, kodwa, ngokuphambene nalokho, iba ngumculi we-rock, akusizi ngalutho. Kumele kudingeke ukuthi uqonde ukuthi ngendlela enjalo ubaba ubonisa isidingo sokuxhumana nomntwana futhi ahlanganyele ekukhuleni kwakhe futhi abe. Angazi ukwenza "uyise" wentombazane, ngakho-ke kubonakala sengathi uzosondelana kakhulu nomfana, kanti le ntombazane iyindodakazi kamama. Kulesi simo kungcono ukuzungeze umfazi ngezibonelo zobuhlobo obuhle phakathi kwamadodakazi nobaba, ukuchaza lokho ngamantombazane Ubaba uyibalo elibaluleke kakhulu: uzomsiza ukuba azizwe ethakazelisayo futhi ekhangayo, kuzothinta ukuzethemba kwakhe.Dive izibonelo eziphilayo yokuthi intombazane evame ukulandela ezinyathelweni zikababa futhi ukusekelwa kwakhe.Ngakho ungakwazi kancane futhi ngokuqinisekile ushintshe "simo" ethonywe yikati Umyeni wami okwamanje.
I-Phobia ayikho ngomqondo wokuthi "ayithandi", kodwa ngomqondo wesaba "ukwesaba". Maye, amadoda amaningi awaqondi ukuthi abesifazane bayakhiwa kanjani, futhi besaba njengokuthile okungenangqondo. Lingazibonakalisa ngendlela ye-chauvinism: "Baba-iziwula" itp Kodwa empeleni akusilo ukudelela, okungukuthi ukwesaba: "Owesifazane ungumuntu ongaqondakali, kodwa ngimthanda." I-nightmare! " Kule ndaba, nasendodaneni engenzeka, ubaba uthatha "njengomfokazi": bathi, uzohlala ekhaya nabesifazane ababili, futhi akekho ozokhuluma naye.
Ungaba kanjani? Ubaba kufanele akhumbule ukuthi ubudlelwane abukhelwe hhayi kuphela ekuqondeni nasekuqondeni, kodwa nangemizwelo. Kuyoba lula ngaye ukwamukela lokhu uma umzungezile ngokunakekelwa okuqotho. Yiqiniso, umama wesikhathi esizayo udinga ukunakekelwa nokuzondla yena, kodwa owesifazane ohlakaniphile uhlale ebala isimo kusengaphambili futhi enze "izimali" zokubhala esikhathini esizayo.
Izikhwama ezingenzeka
Amapapa amaningi akholelwa ngobuqotho ukuthi umyeni wesikhathi esizayo uzothatha intombazane kuyise, hhayi kumama wakhe. Okokuthi, owesifazane kufanele abe nomuntu oyedwa oyinhloko empilweni (nangu ubaba wakhe nomyeni wakhe bazokushintshanisa) kanti owesifazane oyedwa ungumama, ubudlelwane obungahambi lutho. Ngenxa yalokho, indoda idinga indodana - futhi mvumele umfazi abe nemona kakhulu ngomalokazana wakhe wesikhathi esizayo! Ungaba kanjani? Kukhona izibonelo ezinhle ezivela ekuphileni ezibonisa ukuthi ubudlelwane nabazali abaxhomekile ekubhekaneni nobulili bomntwana njengokukhuliswa nomkhathi emndenini.
Ngifuna indodakazi!
Ngokuvamile abababa bafuna intombazane kuphela. Lokhu ngandlela-thile ayamukelekile, kodwa kunjalo. Yilokho isifiso esinjalo ngokuvamile esihlotshaniswa nayo.
Ukufana nesiphambano
Kuvame ukuphawula ukuthi intombazane iyenzeka njengo-ugogo wakhe nguyise, nomfana kumkhulu wakhe ngunina. Yiqiniso, empeleni lokhu akuyona njalo indaba, kodwa inganekwane iphila futhi ikhula. Ngenxa yalokho, isifiso somyeni wakho sokuthi "uphinde" unina, uma kukhona ubudlelwane obufudumele futhi obumnene, singabonakalisa, asikho umqondo ukuxoxa ukuthi lo mzuzu awukwazi ukuboniswa noma ukulungiswa ngisho nangesizo semithi yesimanje.
Izifo zofuzo
Mhlawumbe oshade naye uyesaba ukuhambisa ezinye izinkinga eziya "emndenini wesilisa" emndenini wabo. Kuthiwani uma? Uma ukwesaba okunjalo kunesizathu esiyinkimbinkimbi, kungcono ukuthi ukwazi ngalokhu futhi uhlangane nomyeni wakho ukuya ekubonisaneni nomzimba wezakhi zofuzo kuze kube manje, izakhi zofuzo zingaba kakhulu kakhulu, zinikeze ukubikezelwa okunokwethenjelwa, ukulawula ukudluliselwa kwezakhi zofuzo kumntwana ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, uma kuziwa ezifweni ezijwayelekile kakhulu, njll. Kodwa uma umyeni ekhathazeka kuphela ngesikhumba sokuqala noma amazambane ephuzi, kanti-ke, imithi ayinamandla.
Ukugqoka ekuseni ukupheka
Amanye amadoda athambekele ekucabangeni abesifazane: kusukela "kwinduna yamantombazane ehambisa ama-marshmallows" ukuze "indodakazi izobhaka ama-pie papa." Kodwa amantombazane ahlukile, futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi ukubalwa kwendodakazi enakekelayo kuyalungile: amantombazane asebasha asetsheni, njalo avame ukufuna ama jeans oyise kanye nezimonyo. Yebo, futhi ububele kanye nama-curls anendawo yokuphuma ebusheni. Ungaba kanjani? Akufanele ukubhubhise izinkolelo zomfazi omuhle ngamadodakazi, kepha kancane kancane uhole ingxoxo abayeni abalethela emndenini okuhle nokuthakazelisayo.
Izimpi ezingezona ukuncintisana
Abanye bapapa, abangenayo imisipha enamandla kakhulu, bakhetha amadodakazi emadodaneni kuphela ngoba balimala ngokuncintisana namanye amadoda. Lapha, incazelo ka-Freud ye-vulgar yesikhundla sakhe ezindabeni zokuvuthwa kwengqondo ocansini idlala indima, kanye nezindaba ezijwayelekile zansuku zonke ngamadodana angqubuzanayo. Ungaba kanjani? Kulesi simo, kubalulekile ukubona ngobumnene ukugcizelela isibindi somlingani wakho nokuthi yini angayifundisa indodana ekhulayo. Memezela indoda yakho!
Umcimbi ovelele
Ngokuvamile kukhona ukukhuluma okwanele emiphefumulweni, kodwa futhi kwenzeka ukuthi indoda "ibuhlungu ngokushaya uphondo" futhi yilokho konke. Kuze kube yilapho ethi: "Ungabuyi indodana - ngizohamba" noma "Noma indodana noma ukukhipha isisu." Yini okufanele yenziwe? ngaphakathi kwakho hhayi ekukhulelweni kwakho.Ingxaki umyeni wakho azizwa kanjani ngakho.Uma kunjalo, kunengqondo ukuvakashela isifo sengqondo somndeni ukuze kusize ukuthi yini efihliwe ngemuva kwesibuko sokuphendula okunzima ngokobulili wengane.Xhumana nodokotela - indlela engcono kakhulu yokuxazulula inkinga enjalo. Indoda kulula ukuhlanganisa izinto ezinjalo futhi lapho ekhuluma nodokotela.