Intsha, incazelo ehlukile yokuphila ivela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isayensi ithi ngenxa yezinguquko ze-hormone, ubukhulu bamaseli ezindawo ezithile zobuchopho buyanda emzimbeni wesifazane obelethayo. Le nqubo inomthelela omuhle emisebenzini yobuchopho besifazane obesebenza, futhi ngokusho kososayensi, kwenza kube kuhle! Futhi-ke kanjani enye-ingane ezalwa yiletha kuye izimo eziningi ezimangalisayo nezinkinga ezizenzekelayo, okwenza umama aqoqwe, enze izinqumo okusheshayo ezimweni ezingalindelekile. Ukuziphatha kobaba abasha nakho kuyashintsha - manje uzizwa enesibopho somntwana, ngenhlalakahle yakhe. Kuningi okuhle, okujabulisayo nokuqhakazile. Kodwa azikho izinkinga ezingaphansi. Mayelana nezinhlekelele zasebusuku nemisebenzi yasendlini yansuku zonke, omama esizayo sebezwile. Kodwa inkinga ebuhlotsheni emva kokuzalwa kwengane iba yinto evamile kubo. Umama osemncane, ophuphuthekiswe umuzwa omusha, uyaqiniseka ukuthi ukuziphatha komyeni wakhe kufanele kube okufanayo - ngomdlandla, othintekayo nokungazwakali izinyembezi. Kodwa-ke, upapa akahlali ezwa umuzwa ofanayo nomama wakhe. Futhi lokhu akusho ukungathandi ngomntanakho. Into ewukuthi indoda eyayijwayele ukuthi umama ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwengane ikhokhele kuphela kuye futhi manje ubukele ukuthi konke ukunakwa emndenini kumuntu omncane nje kuphela obhekene nomhawu ongazi lutho.
Ingane ishintsha kakhulu indlela yokuphila kamama, ingamshiyi isikhathi namandla phezu kwanoma yini enye - ibeka phansi unina kuye ngokuphelele. Indoda ebona ukuthi unina unika kanjani ingane konke ukunakekelwa nothando lwakhe, angazizwa engadingekile, engathandabuzeki, futhi eqala "ukungenangqondo" ukuheha ukunakekelwa okunjalo, noma ukugwema indawo lapho engasithandi khona - ukuhlala emsebenzini, ukuchitha isikhathi samahhala nabangani. Esinye isimo sokuthuthuka kungenzeka - umona futhi ubhekisela ekukhathaleni emsebenzini noma kwezinye izizathu "uhambe kancane", uvumele umama ukuba ahlanganyele ngokugcwele emntwaneni. Ngamehlo omama, kubonakala kanje: ingane yakhe, ingane elinde isikhathi eside, ingane engakaze iyiqonde impilo, engabangela ukukhathazeka kwayo! Lokhu kungase kube yisizathu sokuvela kobunzima ebuhlotsheni ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane. Izinhloso zangempela zokuziphatha okunjalo kumele zifunwe ezingeni lezingqondo. Ukuthi owesifazane ngesikhathi sokuzalwa kwengane kudala isisindo somama - angenawo amagama, ezingeni lokuxhumana ngokomzwelo, angakwazi ukuxhumana nomntanakhe, engenazo ulwazi olukhethekile aqonde ukuthi nini futhi nini ingane yakhe idingeka. Abantu abanalo isimo esinjalo - yonke imizwa yakhe ngomntwana itholakele, idinga isikhathi sokwamukelwa, yithande umntwana wayo. Inkinga yesikhathi eside ebuhlotsheni kuphela yandisa isimo, hhayi ukuvumela umuntu ukuba ajwayele indima yakhe entsha. Kodwa-ke, akukhona nje ukuthi umuntu unecala lenkinga. I-syndrome yokucindezeleka kokuhamba kwesikhathi, okufana nesikhwama esivela esibhakabhakeni esibhakabhakeni siwela kumfazi osesele okhathele nokubeletha, futhi uyakwazi ukuvusa inkinga ebuhlotsheni. Ngakho uphuma kanjani esimweni? Njengoba izibalo zibonisa, imibhangqwana engu-39% ibhekene nenkinga ebuhlotsheni ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane. Ngakho-ke, inkinga ayiyona eyingqayizivele futhi idinga ukucatshangelwa, ngoba kuphela uma uqonda izizathu zangempela ongazixazulula.
Ukunqoba inkinga ebuhlotsheni kubalulekile ukuthi kube nesifiso sokuphuma kuso. Kulesi simo akunakwenzeka ukuthula - kubalulekile ukuxoxa ngale nkinga nomlingani wakho. Sitshele ukuthi ukhathazeke ngani, ukuthi ubhekene nani. Yiba neqiniso engxoxweni futhi ngokuphindaphindiwe uthola ukwethembeka kumlingani wakho. Qonda ukuthi kuphela ndawonye ungakwazi ukunqoba inkinga ebuhlotsheni emva kokuzalwa kwengane. Ungamlondolozi lo muntu kusuka ekukhathazeka "kwengane" - umfundise ukwenza uhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi - kholwa nguye, uzophumelela ngokuqinisekile! Okokuqala, umyeni uzoyeka ukwesaba ingane, futhi okwesibili, uzozizwa edingekayo. Ungagcini inkinga yokuxabana - zibeke ezicathulweni zomlingane wakho, ubuke isimo ngamehlo akhe - ungayenza kanjani endaweni yakhe? Ungacacisi ubuhlobo nabangaphandle noma nabantwana bakho - ingxabano ibhizinisi lakho kuphela, ungahilele abanye ekutholeni ubuhlobo. Makungenzeke ukuthi wena ngokwakho uzisola isizathu sokuxabana - kunabantu abambalwa kakhulu abangenasici. Uma wena ngokwakho ungeke ukwazi ukunqoba le nkinga ebuhlotsheni emva kokuzalwa kwengane, awukwazi - ungayiboni inkinga. Bheka isazi sezengqondo, inketho engcono kakhulu lapha ukubonisana okuhlangene.
Ekuphetheni, ngingathanda ukusho ukuthi isihluthulelo kunoma yikuphi ukungqubuzana komndeni kuwuthando, inhlonipho nokuqondana phakathi kwabashade. Inhlalakahle yomndeni kanye nosana lusekelwe kuphela kubazali, ikhono labo lokuthola indlela yokuphuma kwenkinga, ukuxoxa ngezinkinga, ukungalindeli kumlingani, nokuqala ukuya emhlanganweni! Uthando, hlonipha futhi ndawonye ungakwazi ukunqoba noma yikuphi ubunzima!