Sekuvele kunesipiliyoni esibucayi besithandana, umlingisi uqinisekile: umbono ovame ukwemukelwa wokuthi izingane eziningi ziqukethe kakhulu, zigqokisa kakhulu:
... phakathi kwezingane ezimbili, ezintathu, ezine, akukho umehluko kokuqukethwe. Ingane eyodwa iyabiza. Okubili - akubizayo kakhulu, ngoba okwesibili yizinto ezindala.
Emndenini omuhle, ngokusho komculi, kufanele kube okungenani izingane ezintathu. Khona-ke abantwana baya "ekuziphatheni": basizana, abadala banakekela abancane futhi ... "bamba."
Umlingisi uyavuma ukuthi yena nomkakhe bakhuthaza "ukudwengula" ngaphakathi kohlaka lomndeni wabo, ngoba abantwana banikeza abazali ulwazi oludingekile ukuze labo abawazi zonke izindaba zakamuva bakwazi ukuvimbela imiphumela embi yezenzo ezingabhekwa njengabantwana ngesikhathi esifanele.
Ngesikhathi esifanayo phakathi kwabazalwane nodadewenu kukhona umthetho ongakhulumi ngokusho ukuthi ngeke bakhulume kubazali babo noma yimaphi izimfihlo zomuntu ngamunye:
Akunakwenzeka ukuthi noma iyiphi yamantombazane izosiqonda ngokujulile thina no-Oksana empilweni yomuntu siqu odade, ukutshela imininingwane encane. Futhi ukungabi nandaba kwezomnotho, okungathi thina, ngakho-ke, singafunda, kuhle kakhulu. Ukuzibophelela kwangempela.
Emndenini wobudlelwane obusondelene kakhulu no-Okhlobystiny - abazali baxhumana nabantwana ngokulingana okulinganayo. Bobabili u-Ivan no-Oksana bazama ukuba buthakathaka ngisho nasezintweni ezincane: abashadile bacabanga ukuthi akuhloniphi ukufunda izingane zabo, isibonelo, izincwadi zokuxhumana zabasilisa ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi.
U-Ivan Okhlobystin wayehlale ephupha ngomndeni omkhulu
Kungasho ngokuqiniseka ukuthi ukunqoba ubunzima bokuphila okuningi, u-Ivan Okhlobystin wagcwalisa iphupho lakhe elikhulu - wadala umndeni omkhulu onobungane. Ngokusho komdlali, yilezi zindaba ezibhekwa njengokuthi "zivamile kunokujwayelekile":
... uma abantu bezivumela ukuba babe nezingane, kuhle. Ukhuluma okungenani ngempilo yabo nethemba!
Umculi uyavuma ukuthi uzama ukuqinisekisa ukuthi lowo oyinhloko emndenini ungumkakhe, ngoba u-Oksana ugcina konke endlini ye-Okhlobystins. Ngenhlamba u-Ivan utshela umkakhe ukuthi akaze ahlukane naye ngoba okungenani uzobe eseqasha abasebenzi bonke, kusukela othisha kuya kubahlanzi. Ngomunye u-Oksana Arbuzova, umlingisi usebenze ndawonye iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-20. Ababukeli bayazi ukuthi umka-Ivan ungumdlali we-actress, owathi ngo-1989 wadlala indima enkulu emdlalweni othi "Ingozi - indodakazi yophiko."