Kunzima kakhulu ukuphendula umbuzo othi ubani olula ukukhulisa nokuphakamisa. Kungenzeka ukuthi ayikho impendulo ecacile futhi engaqondakali. Kodwa-ke, kuyakholelwa ukuthi ukuthi kulula kakhulu ukuba ubaba afundise umfana, kanye nentombazane kumama. Kodwa lapha konke akulula kakhulu. Lo mbono awuboni ukuthi zonke izingane zihlukile, ukuthi ingane ngayinye ihlukile. Kodwa kuncike kakhulu esimweni somntwana nesimo sakhe sengqondo.
Imfundo yamantombazane.
Umama, okhuphula le ntombazane, uvame ukubhekana nezinkinga ezithile. Ngezansi kuchazwa izindawo eziyinkinga kakhulu zomlingisi, okuthi, ngokusakazeka kwazo, kungabonakala kumaphethini okuqala.
Amantombazane angokomzwelo.
I-Mostamam ithi amantombazane, ikakhulukazi asebancane, athambekele ekuguquleni isimo sabo sengqondo ngokuvamile esivela esilula ukuya kumlingane, okuyinto engavamile kubafana, abavame ukujwayele ukugcinwa kwemizwa yesikhathi eside.
Ukuvame ukuphikisana nokufunda.
Ukuthuthukiswa kwenkulumo kumantombazane kuyashesha futhi ngenxa yezinye izici zamantombazane okuthuthukiswa kulula ukuthola amakhono okukhuluma. Yiqiniso, ngakolunye uhlangothi lokhu kuhle kakhulu. Noma kunjalo, lokhu kusho ukuthi umama kufanele abhekane nazo zonke izimpawu, ama-whims kanye neminye imibonakaliso yobuntu nomlingiswa wentombazane.
Ulaka ngokomzwelo.
Abafana bavame ukubonisa ukuhlukunyezwa ngosizo lwezindlela zomzimba, ngokungafani nokugqoka, okungenzeka ukuthi bahlasele isitha ngamazwi, okungukuthi, amahemuhemu, ukuphawula okucasulayo, ama-boycotts, ukukhishwa emidlalweni, njll.
Imfundo yabafana.
Ngokwezibalo zokuhlola, izinkinga eziningi emfundweni yabafana yizici ezilandelayo:
1. Abafana basebenzela umzimba futhi behlukumezeka kakhulu.
Abafana bakhuthele kakhulu ngokomzimba, sonke isikhathi sisebenza, sagxuma, siwa, kaningi into ewonakele noma ephukile. Lokhu kungachazwa ngezizathu ezimbili - banezinga eliphansi kuphela lozwela, ngenxa yalokho umfana engaboni umqondo wokuthi "umonakalo" kanye "nokuphuka" umsebenzi omubi futhi ophezulu ngokomzimba.
2. Ukukhulumisana ngokoqobo ekuqaleni kunzima kakhulu.
Amakhono okuxhumana kubafana athuthuka kancane kancane kunamantombazane. Ngesilinganiso esibalulekile, isitayela salezi amakhono sihlukile. Ngenkathi amantombazane ezama ukuxoxa ngezenzakalo ezihlukahlukene, abafana bakhuluma kuphela ukuthi bafuna ukuthatha, ukukwenza noma ukuthola. Isibonelo, ungacabanga ngokukhetha i-cartoon yokubuka. Intombazane izocabangela futhi ixoxe ngokukhetha kwakho nokhetho lwakho, lo mfana cishe uzoma eqinile.
3. Yonke imisebenzi izama ukwenza umncintiswano.
Abafana njalo bancintisana nabazalwane nodade, ontanga, abazali. Uma umndeni unabafana ababili noma ngaphezulu, idatha ingasetshenziswa uma ufuna izingane zidle ngokushesha, ugqoke, njll.
Noma kunjalo, ama-stereotypes awasebenzi ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Ngesikhathi esifanayo, akuyona into engavamile ukuqaphela umkhuba osemncane kumfana, noma ngokufanayo. Ukukhulelwa kwabantwana akuzange kube yimibuzo embi, kuyadingeka ukuyiqonda, ngenxa yalokho ingane efika enhle futhi indlela yokuyigwema ngayo:
- Ingane inomsindo kakhulu. Inzuzo lapha ukuthi kusho ukukhulisa ingane enenhlalakahle futhi esebenzayo ngokomzimba, okungase kuvele kutholakale kahle ekuphileni. Ingane enenkonzweni yabo ayizange ithwale indlu, ungase uhambe naye ukudlala emgwaqweni, irekhodi esigabeni sezemidlalo, njll;
- Ingane iyazi ukuthi ingawufeza kanjani, ikuphoqe ukuba ushintshe isinqumo sakho. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ingane inetalente ecacile yokukhulumisana okungakhulumi, uyakwazi ukuqinisa umxhumanisi ngendlela yakhe yokucabanga. Siza ukuthuthukisa ngangokunokwenzeka ngokuxhumana nengane. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, uma imibono yakho ihlukile, zama ukuhlala nombono wakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane iphikisana nani;
- Ingane ngokuvamile iphula amathoyizi, iwahlukanise zibe izingxenye. Lokhu kubonisa ukoma kolwazi, ilukuluku lokuhlakanipha. Kulesi simo, thola amathoyizi aklanyelwe ukuqoqwa futhi ahlakazwe. Kodwa-ke, uma lokhu kungukubonakaliswa kokoma ukuphuka, kungcono kakhulu ukufihla amathoyizi wengane, aze aqonde umqondo wokuthi ukwephula akulungile.