Ingabe ngivame ukuhlangana nezingane ngemva kwesahlukaniso?

Ngabe ngivame ukuhlangana nezingane ngemuva kwesahlukaniso? Lo mbuzo ubalulekile kakhulu esikhathini sethu futhi abaningi bacabanga ukuthi bangaba kanjani kulesi simo. Ngekhulu lama-20 kuya kwe-21, isehlukaniso sathandwa kakhulu emphakathini wabantu, okungukuthi, kunamacala amaningi kangaka, kokubili eRussia nakwamanye amazwe.

I-Russia inkulu kakhulu futhi inani labantu liphakeme kakhulu. Futhi ngendlela efanayo eRussia lapho kungekho khona inamba encane yemindeni ehlukanisile. Ngenxa yalokho, kungacatshangwa ukuthi ngenxa yesehlukaniso, izingane zihlala zingenamndeni ogcwele. Ngokuvamile kaningi kumama womndeni ohlukanisile oshiya nezibalo ukubonisa. Inani elikhulu lomama lihlala ngabafelokazi, kodwa ngani? Ake sihlole. Unyaka ngamunye eRussia kukhona inhlolovo embuzweni wokuba umzali. Ngokuqondile, kukhona inhlolovo yabomama nabazali abahlukanisile. Kwabesilisa kule mibuzo, buza, imibuzo enjalo, ubona kangaki izingane zakho? Izimpendulo iningi azikho okuhle, kuphela 17% kubonakala, isigamu singavamile, kanti ingxenye yesithathu ayikho. Kulokhu sibona ukuthi emva kokuhlukanisa, kunezizathu eziningi zokuhlangana nobaba nezingane. Ucwaningo olufanayo lwenziwa abesifazane. Babuzwa lo mbuzo, umyeni wakho ubona kangaki abantwana?

Futhi impendulo ibaluleke kakhulu, ngoba omama lesi sikhathi kunzima kakhulu. Futhi lo mbuzo uvela ukuthi ukuhlangabezana nezingane ngemuva kwesahlukaniso? Obaba baphendula lo mbuzo ngezindlela ezehlukene, ngoba wonke umuntu unezimo ezihlukile - ohlala edolobheni elifanayo futhi ongekho, owathola indawo, futhi ongatholakali, futhi konke lokhu kuyabonakala. Kubuye kuncike lapho isehlukaniso senzekile, okungukuthi, isikhathi sibalulekile ingane. Uma eseyingane futhi ngokuvamile akaqondi lutho okwamanje, khona-ke isahlukaniso sakhe ngeke sithinte kakhulu, njengoba engaboni ukulahlekelwa noma inkinga. Kodwa uma ingane ikhulile, okungukuthi, kakade uyayiqonda ukubaluleka kokukhathalela nokukhathaza ubaba nomama, khona-ke isehlukaniso sizoba lusizi. Kuncike nesizathu sokuhlukanisa, ngoba kuxhomeke emihlanganweni yabazali nengane. Izizathu zingaba ziningi: ungathandi umholo wemindeni, ukuhlukunyezwa, izidingo zobulili, imfundo yengqondo, ubaba noma umama utshwala, umlutha wezidakamizwa, iziboshwa zonke izizathu zesehlukaniso, hhayi konke. Lapho unina ngemuva kokuhlala yedwa nomntwana, kunengqondo eyodwa kuphela engqondweni: indlela yokulondoloza indodana noma indodakazi evela kubaba. Mhlawumbe wayiphuza kakhulu futhi uyaphatha, noma uyisiqhwaga esingabeka umndeni wakhe engozini. Kukhona amacala amaningi kangaka emhlabeni jikelele, futhi kusukela kulo awukwazi ukuphunyuka noma kuphi. Ubaba emva kwehlukaniso, noma uvumelana nomama mayelana nemihlangano nengane, noma ehamba njalo, engaveli kamuva. Ukuhlukaniswa kwenzeka hhayi eRussia kuphela, kodwa emhlabeni wonke. Cishe wonke amazwe enza izibalo ezinjalo. Futhi isehlukaniso singabangela umphumela oyinhlekelele ukuthi bobabili umama nobaba abakhulisi ingane.

Lokhu kubonakala ezimweni ezinjalo, lapho ubaba ehamba emndenini, futhi engayikubona nengane, unina unemiqondo engalungile yokuthi akadingi ukumfundisa yena yedwa, futhi unquma ukuwunika abazali bakhe noma izintandane. Ngemuva kwalokho, ingane ayiboni muntu nhlobo. Yiqiniso, uma encane futhi engaqondi lutho, uma ekhula, inhliziyo yakhe ngeke ibuhlungu kakhulu uma inikwe eminyakeni emdala, lapho eqonda zonke izinto kanye nakho okubuhlungu kakhulu. Ingane kumele ibone abazali bayo. Emndenini, umama uyisekelo elithembeke kakhulu kwengane, njengoba ilungele ukukhulisa ingane futhi imvuselela, ukuthi ubaba wayengumuntu omuhle futhi onobungozi, ukuthi ukhona, kodwa usuhambe futhi ngeke abuyele maduzane. Noma umama uvuselela ukuthi wayengekho neze futhi akadingi. Kunzima kakhulu ukuba umama acabange ukuthi akekho ubaba futhi akukho ukusekelwa. Ingane idinga okungenani ilungu lomndeni elilodwa ukuba likhule libe umuntu ojwayelekile futhi ohlakaniphile.

Kuze kube manje, kuningi labomama abanjalo, futhi abayeki futhi bakhulise ingane yabo ethandekayo yodwa, ngoba bahlala ngenxa yezingane, futhi abadingi lutho. Obaba baphendula umbuzo wokuthi ngabe kuyadingeka yini ukuhlangabezana nezingane, ngezindlela ezahlukene, kanye nomama. Uma umyeni eqala umndeni ngenxa yezingane futhi wayefuna ukufundisa, khona-ke uzosho ukuthi kuyadingeka futhi kuyadingeka. Uyothola imali yengane futhi izokhokhela ukudla kwakhe, izingubo kanye nezifundo. Amacala anjalo awawona amancane. Kodwa kunezinye izinguqulo, ukuthi umyeni wayengakalungi ngalesi sigaba, kanjani ukuba nomntwana, futhi umfazi uphoqeleke ukuba abe nomntwana, khona-ke kusobala ukuthi emva kokuhlukanisa uzogijima kuqala, ngoba wayengakaboni ukuthi yini ayidinga futhi ayengaziphatha kahle silungele ukuzala.

Esinye icala lapho ubaba enganiki umndeni isikhathi esanele, okungukuthi, akawunikezi izingane, ngakho-ke umama uqala ukuthuthumela nokuxoxa isikhathi eside. Futhi uma emva kwalokho, umyeni akaqondi, noma kunalokho, akakwazi ukuyeka umsebenzi wakhe, njengoba lokhu kuyisinkwa sabo, khona-ke lokhu kungenye indlela yokuhlukanisa. Ngokuvamile, kungashiwo ukuthi isahlukaniso yisikhathi esinzima kakhulu kubazali kanye nengane, kanti uma abashadile bengaboni ndawonye futhi bashadile, kungcono ukubona ingane kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiziphi izimo, ngoba lokhu kungukuthi ingcebo.

Funda futhi: inqubo yesehlukaniso, uma kukhona izingane