Kodwa ngemva kokuthatha umhlalaphansi futhi ehlala umfelokazi, wayevame ukukuvakashela. Ubonise "ukubuyekezwa" kwesibhangqwana sakho semibhangqwana, ubekezele izimiso zakhe - futhi waphinde washiya umhlalaphansi. Wena nomyeni wakho abazange nilandele ngokukhethekile kuzo zonke izincomo za "umcwaningi wamabhuku", wonke umuntu wayehlale enquma ndawonye futhi enokuthula.
Kodwa konke kushintshile lapho usenomntwana. Umkhulu wayejabule kakhulu ukuthi lo mfana. "Indlalifa yesibongo! Umvikeli wekusasa nokusekelwa komndeni! "- wamemezela e-christening. Utshele ukuthi kufanele uzinike isikhathi esiningi ukukhulisa indodana yakho ngomoya onjengezimpi. Futhi waqala ukuzibandakanya empilweni yakho. Ngokuyinhloko kusizwe ngalokhu nemali, nokuxhumana. Lapho indodana yami ikhula, waqala ukuya enkulisa, wabeka phambi kokuthi umkhulu wakho uzobe ekhulisa indodana ngomoya onjengoba yimpi. Umyeni wakhe ngokungazelelwe wasisekela ohlangothini lukayise, nakuba wayethemba ukuthi uzothatha uhlangothi lwakho.
Ukukhuliswa kwendodana kwaqala ngokuthi abaningi baqala ukumnikeza izibhamu nezixhobo zempi, badlale naye kuzo zonke izinhlobo zabantu abadubulayo - ikhompiyutha kanye "nendawo", babheke izimbangi, baqiniseke ukuthi uyingxenye yezobuciko ... Izingane - le ndoda ayifuni ukuxabana nokuthandana, kodwa kulula "ukuqala" futhi emva kwesikhathi eside akuveli kulo mbuso. Esimweni esinjalo sokuthakazelisa, ukuwuyisa emsebenzini othile okhuni kunzima kakhulu. Lokhu kukhuliswa kwendodana yakho akuhambisani nawe. Ngomntwana, uzama ukuphikisana nomyeni wakho nomkhwekazi wakho. Kodwa awufuni ukubekezelela imfundo enjalo yendodanakho ngomoya olwa nempi. Uyaqonda ukuthi umfana kufanele akwazi ukuzivikela, athi, kusuka kuma-hooligans. Kodwa akufanele, futhi ngombono wakho, unengqondo kakhulu ngokuhlupheka, ukufa, ubudlova. Utshelwe ngokushesha ukuthi awunamahloni, awukwazi ukuphila okunonya ngesihluku, angangeni engozini, kanti umfana uzoba nebutho! Ngamafuphi, awukwazi ukuwashintsha.
Ukukhulisa indodana akulula. Futhi kungokwemvelo ukuthi umfana ubaba abe igunya elikhulu, hhayi umama. Kodwa konke okufanayo akuwona umthetho ongenakuphikwa ngokuphelele.
Umntanakho ubona kahle lokho umama wakhe akufunayo kuye, futhi uzohlanganisa ngokuphelele "amandla akhe" (avela kuyise nomkhulu) enothando nangomusa (kusuka kunina). Ngenxa yalokho, ingane izokhula ibe namandla futhi ibe nesibindi, kunokuba ibuthakathaka futhi ithandeke. Ngakho akudingeki wesabe ukuthi uzokwazi ukuzimela, kodwa ngokungabi nalutho! Enye into - ngesilinganiso se "militancy" nezinhlobo zayo: kungenzeka (uma ucabanga ukuthi kuyadingeka) ukukhawulela. Isibonelo, uma wesaba kakhulu noma wesaba, ukuhlukumeza ubuciko bokulwa - unike indodana yakho ku-aikido. Lona ukuvikelwa komnene nangomusa kakhulu. Sonny ngokuhamba kwesikhathi awukwazi, uzokhula futhi aqine.
Umbono wesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo
Lapha kunesibonelo sokuqala sokungena kwenkinga. Eqinisweni, akuyona imfundo yendodana emoyeni ophikisayo odala ukukhathazeka, kodwa ukwanda okungenakuvinjelwa komkhwezala. Izigwebo ezicasulayo ze "umcwaningi wamabhuku", amazwi akhe nezeluleko, nokuvakashelwa ngokuphindaphindiwe kuyadabukisa. Umama unomuzwa wokuthi uphonswa eceleni futhi unqatshelwe ilungelo lomthetho lokwenza izinqumo ekhaya lakhe. Konke lokhu kubangela ukukhathazeka nokuphikisana. Ukuvukela kuphela kuvele kube uhlobo olwesabayo. "Akunakwenzeka ukukholisa" - lawa akuzona amagama omama, kepha intombazanyana enamahloni aphezulu phambi komuntu omdala. Kubuhlungu kakhulu ukuthi awukwazi ukuthembela kumlingani wakho. Naye, akazange aphumelele ukwesaba kwakhe kwengane kayihlo oqinile. Kuvela ukuthi ukulwa "nemfundo yamadoda" yendodana ukuthi leyo ngxenyana yokuphikiswa okuveziwe komkhwezala, okunganqunywa kulokhu. Isimo esifanayo sizoqhubeka kuze kube yilapho imingcele yomndeni icacisiwe ngokucacile futhi imithetho yezihambeli zasekhaya isungulwe.