Ungasabela kanjani uma uthola ukuthi ozakwabo basakaza inhlebo engathandeki ngawe emsebenzini? Ungathanda ukubeka umhlukumezi endaweni? Uzoyeka? "Ungathathi izinyathelo ezinzima," izazi zengqondo zeluleka, "futhi uhlale uphelile." Okokuqala kudingeka uqonde ukuthi yini ongayilindela ngokuhleba - kuhle (ungamangali, ukuhleba ngezinye izikhathi kunomthelela ekukhuleni komsebenzi wethu) noma ukulimala. Futhi uqhubeke kulolu senzo.
UKUSEBENZISWA KWEZINDLELA
Ngokusho kwamavoti, abantu abangama-79% babheka inhlebo njengento eyenza isintu esiyingozi. Yithi, abahlebezi abathile bavela ngenye into ebeka phansi igunya lomuntu siqu ngokungathí sina futhi isikhathi eside. Kodwa-ke, inhlebo ngezinye izikhathi ingakwenza inkonzo enhle. Ngokuvamile inhloso yazo zonke izinhleko ziyizinhlobo ezihlukahlukene zezidumi: abalingisi, abaculi, osombusazwe nabanye abantu bomphakathi. Abaningi babo babhekisela ekuhlekeni nokuhleka ngokuzumayo, beqaphela ukuthi noma yikuphi ukuhleka kuyisimangalo esihle kakhulu esisiza ukuba nesithakazelo somuntu siqu. Ngakho-ke, ngokuvamile abameleli bamabhizinisi abonisa ibhizinisi "ngengozi" behlehlisela imishwana mayelana nomshado ozayo, isahlukaniso, ukukhulelwa, ukuthenga indlu, njll Noma ngisho ngokukhethekile "nezinganekwane", ezizithuthukisa abezindaba. I-logic ilula: abantu bazoxoxa ngemininingwane yokuphila komuntu womculi noma umlingisi, bese behamba bathenge amathikithi ekhonsathi yakhe (ukudlala) ukuze bazibonele ngokwabo izingxoxo zabo. Ngakho-ke kuvela ukuthi ukuthandwa ngokuyinhloko kubangela amahemuhemu, amahemuhemu asiza ukwandisa igunya.
Noma kunjalo, inhlebo ayizuzisi kuphela izinkanyezi. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi abantu abangama-65% abaphikisana nabo futhi banomthelela ekusakazeni amahemuhemu ngawo emsebenzini emsebenzini. Kungani benza lokhu?
- Ngenxa yokuhlolwa okwenziwe izazi ze-psychologists, kwakungenzeka ukuthi lowo muntu obhekene naso ubukhulu bamahemuhemu "ajikeleza" ngokushesha ngokubona kweziphathimandla kunomsebenzi othulile ongekho othandana naye owakhumbula. Futhi lapha konke kuncike "ekunyundekeleni". Uma ekhombisa ohlangothini oluhle, umklomelo noma ngisho nokukhushulwa kuqinisekisiwe kuye.
- Enye indlela yokuphakamisa ukulinganisa ngosizo lokuhleba ukuhamba ngenkohliso, "ukuyiyeka" engxoxweni yangasese nomuntu osebenza naye ohlukumezeka ngokungahambi kahle (futhi kungcono uma lo muntu ngesikhathi esisodwa esondelene nomphathi), igama lakho lisesimweni sokuncintisana futhi linikeza umholo ophakeme.
- Noma kunjalo, ukuqapha akulimazi: inkohliso enjalo ayisebenzi ngaso sonke isikhathi - udinga ukuqiniseka ngokugcwele ukuthi imininingwane ifinyelela kumphathi nokuthi akafuni ukukushiya ngisho nangaphambi kokuthi "abancintisana" bakumema ukuthi usebenze.
- Kuyinto inhlebo evame ukusiza abaqalayo ukuba bazivumelanise neqembu. Lo mqulu uxoxisana ngokungapheli ngezinkinga zangaphakathi phakathi nesikhathi "sokuphuza umusi," bayakujabulela ukwenza "ukukhanyisa" omusha. Kodwa-ke, kuleso simo umqashi kumele aqaphele kakhulu. Yebo, uma utshele ulwazi ukuthi, ekufundiseni, akumele ludalulwe, unikezwa u-credence. Kodwa lokhu kudinga ukukhokha? Mhlawumbe omunye "amaqoqo" akhona kuleli qembu akuvumela ukuba usebenzise ngezinhloso zakho siqu? Noma ngabe "hlola izinyathelo": uhudulelwa ekuhlebeni noma uyakwazi ukuma? Izazi zengqondo zincoma ukubonisa ukuzithiba: lalela lokho abakushoyo kuwe, kodwa emva kwalokho zama ukuhumusha ingxoxo ibe esinye isihloko.
- Noma yikuphi ukuhleba kungolwazi lokucatshangelwa. Futhi yiluphi ulwazi olubalulekile. Ukusuka ekuhlebeni okusemthethweni ungathola ukuthi imiphi imithetho engavumelani yomdlalo eqenjini, ukuthi yini ekulindele kuwe, nokuthi yikuphi ukuziphatha okuvinjelwe, ojabulela igunya, nokuthi ubani ongaphandle, njll.
KONKE KUPHELA
Kodwa-ke, ukuhleka kaningi kungakalungi, kepha kunokulimaza, ngaphezu kwalokho, okukhulu. Ngezinye izikhathi kunzima kakhulu ukufezekisa ukwanda kokwethembeka emsebenzini ngemuva kokuhleba. Kunezimo eziningi lapho ukuhleba kuye kwonakalisa idumela lomuntu isikhathi eside futhi ngokujulile. Ngakho-ke, uma uqonda ukuthi ubuntu bakho emsebenzini bubangela amahemuhemu amanga kakhulu, ungaphumuli, uhlale ukhumbule, uma kwenzeka "ukucubungula uhlelo" ekhanda lakho.
- Ake sithi ufunde ukuthi omunye wabalingani bakho usakaze ulwazi olubi ngawe (mhlawumbe ngisho namanga). Cabanga: likhulu kangakanani leli gossip? Ingabe nguwe yedwa ophikisana nawe noma ohlangene naye? Ziyini izingozi zokusakaza amahemuhemu? Kungenzeka ukuthi lo muntu akakhathaleli ngawe nokuthi wehla ngengozi ngaphansi komlilo ". Kulesi simo, zama ukuqhubeka ungagwegwesi ngaphansi kokubili u-gossiper ngokwakhe "nabangane bakhe abaseduze."
- Ukuzwa ukuthi omunye wamalungu "aguqa izinyo kuwe" (kodwa uyaqonda ukuthi lokhu akuthandi, futhi kuphela), ungakwazi futhi ungacacisi ubudlelwane naye naye, uma ungawuthandi izinyathelo. Kwanele ukuba uqaphele ngokwengeziwe imisebenzi yakho, ukusebenza ukuze ungekho icala. Mhlawumbe ukhululekile kancane, kodwa inhlebo ifuna nje ukusebenzisa lesi simo ngenzuzo yakho? Ngakho ungamniki ithuba!
- Muva nje, ezweni lethu kaningi kufanele sibhekane nesenzakalo esivamile kakhulu eNtshonalanga - ngokubambezela (ukusinda okuqaphelayo kubambisene nabasebenzi). Futhi isikhali esiyinhloko emzabalazweni wabo bonke ngokumelene nenye inhlebo. Njengoba uqaphela ukuthi ubanjwe emlilweni womzimba amaningana omphakathi, cabanga ngokucophelela: ukulungele ukulwa noma kangcono ukufuna omunye umsebenzi? Uma unquma ukulwa nendawo yakho kuze kube sekupheleni, zama ukuthola ukuthi ngubani ophethe "izenzo zezempi". Ngumgqugquzeli wezinkinga ze-psychologists "eziphazamisayo" bayelulekwa ukuba bakhulume ngokuqondile, bethola ukuthi akayithandi. Uma ingxoxo enhliziyweni ayizange ikusize, kuvunyelwe ukufaka isicelo sokusekela kumphathi, ukuthi ngaphambili uhlele uhlu "lokuhlushwa" ngokumelene nawe. Ungakhathazeki, lokhu akuyona indlela enamandla futhi engekho emilweni yokulwa namahemuhemu, kodwa akwanele ngempela. Ngomunye wemizi yaseColombia, isibonelo, ukuhlakazwa kwamahemuhemu ungabhongela ejele isikhathi eside seminyaka emine! I-dolobha yomuzi wanquma ukuthi lesi yisijeziso esihle kulabo ababazi ngokungahloniphi udumo nesithunzi sezakhamizi zaseColombia.
I-SPLITTER: VEZUCHNIK KANYE NEKHAYA
Yini ongayisho ngalabo abangazange babe yizisulu zamahemuhemu, futhi uyazihlanganisa njalo? Mhlawumbe, unelisekile ngesimo sakhe, ngoba kulabo abaningi abaqoqiwe "ama-rumor controller" bajabulela idumela lomholi ocacile noma ongakahleleki. Kungakhulisa kalula ukwethembeka kwanoma yiliphi lezisebenzi, futhi linciphise ize. Ikhono lokukhipha ulwazi oludingekile lithandwa ngabaningi. I-gossiper ihlale iyazi ukuthi ingabe izinkokhelo zizokhokhwa ngesikhathi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kunciphisa abasebenzi esikhathini esizayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi u-boss uzohlela "ukuhlukanisa" emhlanganweni wangekusasa ... Abantu bayamcela njalo iseluleko noma bamcele ukuba "akhanyise" abantu abahlukahlukene, futhi flatters. Futhi abaphathi, njengombuso, bheka "inhlebo enkulu", ngoba uyazisa ukuthi omunye wabasebenzi ufuna ukuyeka noma ukuya esibhedlela, ngaleyo ndlela evikela imisebenzi eminingi nezimo eziphuthumayo. Kodwa, kungenzeka ukuthi, "ukukhipha" ulwazi lwendlela yokuhleba akusiyona insizwa elula, kodwa ngezinkinga ezinkulu ezingokwengqondo. Ngakho-ke, ngokusho kukaprofesa waseMelika wezokwelapha uR. R.neau, abantu abangazithembi ngokwabo, abadinga ukuqinisekiswa okuvamile kokubaluleka kwabo, ukufaneleka kwezenzo abazenzayo, ngokuvamile bavela ngenhlebo. Ngezinye izikhathi bazibheka ngokweqile kwabanye, behlisa amakhono abanye futhi bagxilise ngokwabo. Ngakho bayakwazi ukuthuthukisa ukwethembeka kwabo emsebenzini ngokusebenzisa inhlebo. Ngenxa yalokhu, ukuhleka, njengoba uqonda, kuyithuluzi elihle. Ngokusho kocwaningi, odokotela, othisha, izazi zengqondo, izazi zezenhlalo, ochwepheshe bezokukhangisa kanye nezintatheli. Kodwa-ke, isiphetho sabahlebezi ngeke sithukuthele: naphezu kokuthi bahlala bezungezwe abantu, abavami ukujabulela uthando lwabo nenhlonipho. Abanayo abangane futhi ngesikhathi esinzima abanalo indawo yokulinda usizo.