Udinga ukufundisa izingane ukuba zizwele. Okungukuthi, uma kukhona okwenzeka kumuntu omdala, khona-ke uzisola noma uyayihlonipha. Bafundise ukubasiza. Kunoma yikuphi, izingane kufanele zikwazi ukuqonda ukuthi abantu abaseduze kufanele banakekele. Fundisa ingane yakho ukuba ihlale icabanga ngabathandekayo. Futhi kubalulekile esibonelweni sakho ukukhombisa izingane ukuthi uzizwa kanjani, uhloniphe, uthande abazali bakho noma ugogo nomkhulu. Ungafihli imizwa yakho ngaphambi komama noma ubaba wakho, ngaphambi kwezingane zakho. Ungaphinda njalo amagama onke azoba ingane yakho yokukhulumisana evamile. Kumele kuboniswe ukuthi abantu abasha kufanele banakekele abantu abadala, mayelana nogogo wakho kanye nokhulukazi, owakhathalela ngesikhathi esisodwa. Khona-ke eminyakeni eminingi uzothola ubuhlobo obufisa wena. Bayoba nesithakazelo empilweni yakho, imizwelo, izokukhathalela.
Kodwa-ke, lokhu kulula ukwenza ezweni lapho abantwana kusukela ebuntwaneni babona ogogo nomkhulu ekhaya. Isibonelo, e-England kuyoba nzima kakhulu, ngokombono wami, ukuba ngithole lo mzwa enganeni, ngoba kuyisiko ukuba izingane zikhuliswe ngumama wazo. Yiqiniso, wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi kukhona owesifazane olungele ukubeletha ingane emva kweminyaka engama-30 kuphela. Okusho ukuthi, uma lo mndeni unekhaya, umsebenzi okhokhelwa kahle. Futhi ngemva nje koku konke lokhu banquma ukuba nomntwana. Kodwa kukhona into eyodwa kodwa. Akuyona inkambiso yokuba ugogo bazinakekele abazukulu babo. Okusho ukuthi, umama kufanele azinakekele.
Kodwa kunamazwe lapho abazali abasha bahlala khona emva kokudalwa komndeni futhi bahlala ndawonye nabazali babo. Kula mazwe, abantwana banikezwa emva kweminyaka engu-20-25. Lokhu akukona ukunakwa okukhulu okukhokhwa kumbuso wezinto ezibonakalayo. Ngoba eduze kwabo kukhona abantu abadala, okungukuthi abazali bomyeni wakhe nanoma yisiphi isikhathi lapho kunzima khona ukunikeza usizo lwakho kokubili ngezinto ezibonakalayo nezingokomoya. Kula mazwe, unomthwalo wemfanelo kagogo ukunakekela umzukulu wakhe. Akekho owenza ukuba akwenze konke. Yena uqobo uyayifuna futhi unikeza abazukulu bakhe konke uthando lwakhe nothando lwakhe. Emindenini enjalo akulula ukufaka ingane ingqondo ngenhlonipho noma uthando kubazali bakhe noma kubantu abadala. Njengoba bebona nsuku zonke emndenini wabo inhlonipho yabazali babo ekubekezeleni kwabo abadala. Babona ukuthi ugogo nomkhulu wabo bazinakekela. Kula mazwe emaphakathini ungahlala uhlangana nogogo ohamba nabazukulu babo. Noma abahamba ngezinyawo abanezingane, abagogo bayaqa. Kakade uqobo, kukhona ukuxhumana phakathi kwabantu abadala nabantwana. Futhi kulokhu kumamatheka akunakwenzeka ukuthi baphatha izihlobo zabo kabi. Uma othile ebona uthando futhi ehlonipha nsuku zonke, angabona kanjani okubi? Emazweni afana ne-Armenia, Georgia, eRussia, kulula ukufaka inhlonipho ngezingane. Futhi akudingi ukuzikhandla okukhulu, ngoba kakade banakho, kungashiwo, egazini. Kodwa emazweni aseYurophu, lapho ingane ihlala khona nabazali bayo kuphela kanye nokuvakashela ugogo nomkhulu kanye kanye ngenyanga noma kanye ngesonto, khona-ke imizamo iyadingeka.
Olunye uhlangothi, indlela yokufaka izingane inhlonipho ngogogo nomkhulu babo, isibonelo, ubaxoxela ezinye izindaba ngabo. Okuthakazelisayo, okuhlekisayo. Isibonelo, ungatshela ukuthi ugogo wayeziphatha kanjani ngesikhathi ezalwa, ukuthi ukhathazekile kanjani, lapho odokotela bebika ukuthi ube ngugogo. Yiziphi izipho ayithengayo lapho esemncane. Izingane zihlala zithanda ukulalela izindaba mayelana nabathandekayo babo. Lokhu akunakwenzeka kodwa kubasondeza kogogo nomkhulu wabo. Baqala ukucabanga ngesidingo sokuthanda izihlobo zabo, ukuhlonipha nokuzinakekela. Ngemuva kweminyaka, ugogo wabo baba abesifazane abadala abangenalutho abadinga ukunakekelwa. Futhi uma ingane yakho iqonda lokhu, khona-ke kuyimfanelo yakho. Ungangenisa ingane yakho yonke imizwa yokuhlonipha, uthando kanye nesihawu. Ngakho usuvele wenze okuningi. Futhi izingane zakho ziye zafunda ukuhlonipha nonogogo nogogo kuphela, kodwa nabo bonke abadala.