Bathi amantombazane avela emndenini omuhle akufanele ahlangane nabesilisa abathandanayo, kodwa futhi uyaziwa ukuthi ukuphikiswa kuyadonseka.
Wayengumfazi wesifazane - manje akayithandi umphefumulo kumkakhe nezingane, wayishaya amabhakede futhi engenzi lutho - iminyaka embalwa yokuphila komkhaya akazange ahlale phansi kuphela, kodwa futhi wenza umsebenzi ophumelelayo.
Amadoda enzima ukuhlangana nawo futhi akwazi ukuguqula abizwa ngezindlela ezahlukene: "uhlobo olubi", "uhlobo olunenkani" akuyona umuntu olula, ngokujwayelekile. Kodwa ekuphileni kwansuku zonke kungabonakala ngokwakho njengoba uthanda. I-spectrum yiyona ebanzi kunazo zonke - kusukela ku-brawler kanye ne-grouch kuya ekuthuleni "ne-beeches". Omunye wayevame ukuveza imizwa yabo futhi akhulume ngokucophelela, omunye umuntu ufanelwe ngokwengeziwe injabulo ethule. Yini eqinisweni, yilo "uhlamvu olunzima"? Yini okufanele icatshangwe njengezimpawu ezamukelekayo, futhi yiziphi izinkinga ezimbi, ukubuyisana ongazifundile? Akunakwenzeka ukukhetha izindlela ezicacile noma ezingacacile. Kodwa bonke banikeza iseluleko esihlakaniphile njengokuthi "qaphela - thula" futhi "uma uthanda, wuthwale"
Izizathu zokulwa nokungaphumeleli kwabantu sinezikhathi eziningi. Kodwa kukhona phakathi kwabo okuphawuleka kakhulu. Abaningi bethu bacabanga ukuthi uma umuntu eshintsha, zonke izinkinga zinyamalala, izinkinga zinyamalala, futhi impilo iba mnandi kakhulu. Ingabe lokhu kunjalo ngempela? Funda ukusiza ukuhlolwa okulula. Ukuze uhlele wonke ama-minuses ayo, cishe, ngeke kube nzima. Zama ukwenza uhlu olufanayo lwezinzuzo zalo. Ngempela, ukuze uthanda umuntu ngendlela ayenayo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzikhumbuza ngokwakhe - ukuthi uyini.