Emindenini enezimiso ezinzima kakhulu, futhi nabazali bangaphandle abahlala behlala nezingane behamba ze. Futhi emindenini yethu - noma yini engenzeka. Zahlulele wena, yikuphi uhlobo lokukhonza uNkulunkulu okungaba yinkulumo lapho umndeni wezingane ezine uhlala endlini eyodwa noma ngisho nendawo yokuhlala?
Lapho ukushintsha izingubo kubazali ukuze umntwana wabo osemusha angazizwa engakhululekile, ethola abazali babo ngemuva kwalolu hlelo - hhayi endlini yokugezela, empeleni!
Kodwa nokho kukhona iminyaka yezingane, abazali abazohamba nabo nabo. Njengomthetho, kubazali bezocansi ezahlukene kule minyaka bahlukile.
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Uma nje umbuzo wokuziphatha uphakanyisiwe (kungokwemvelo noma ukuziphatha okubi ukuhambahamba uhamba nezingane?), Yonke imibuzo ehlobene nayo ivuliwe.
- Ubani - ubaba noma umama - kufanele atshele umntwana, kusuka kuphi futhi kanjani?
- Ngabe kungcono kangakanani ukwenza lokhu?
- Indlela yokuvikela izingane ebudloveni - ngoba zithemba ngokwemvelo?
- Indlela yokubasiza ukuba bangadala izimo "ezinzima" (njengokuthi, isibonelo, okulandelayo: intombazane eneminyaka engama-4-5 ubudala, lapho efunda ukungalingani ngokobulili, ekhuluma nomalume ongajwayelekile futhi embuza ukuthi ipeni lakhe liphi).
Indlela yokuvikela ubuntwana babo kusukela ekuthuthukiseni okuncane kakhulu?
Ngakho-ke, ukuxazulula umbuzo owodwa kuphela - ukuzikhethela ukuthi uneminyaka yobuphi izingane, abazali abangabe behamba nabo, futhi ushiye konke akutholakali - akunakwenzeka.
Umphakathi noma umndeni?
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngumndeni obeka umthetho wokuziphatha nemithetho yokuziphatha. Futhi akekho omunye ngaphambi kwabazali abanothando akufanele bahlanganyele emfundweni yezocansi yengane. Nquma ukuthi umndeni awufanelekile ngempela.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma iminyaka yobudala, abazali abangayihamba nabo, ngokuzenzakalelayo "bayaphuma" ekufikeni kwentsha-lokhu kugcwele inkathazo. Kanye nokuthi intombazane eneminyaka eyishumi nantathu ubudala ibiza ilungu le "izinhlamvu". Akumangalisi ukuthi abangane bakhe cishe bayobhekana, futhi abantu abadala - bayamangala.
Futhi nakuba sisengumntwana ezinkambweni zomthetho nezomthetho, eminye imibuzo kungcono ukukhula "i-academician" kusengaphambili kunokugcina ingane ingazi lutho kuze kube sekugcineni.
Ngakho, zombili umndeni nomndeni bayawuthonya. Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuhlanzekile kangakanani (noma ngokuphambene-okuvumela okuningi) noma amasiko emndenini, umphakathi uzoba "ulungise". Futhi ngokuphambene nalokho - ngisho nasendaweni "ephukile" kunazo zonke imiphefumulo ehlanzekile yentombazane eqotho emicabangweni, ungazami "ukuthengisa ubuntombi ngokuthanda kakhulu", njll.
Ungakugwema kanjani ukukhubazeka okuthuthukayo?
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ukuchaza ukusebenza komkhakha wezocansi, ukwenza ube ngcwele ngokwanele, obuseduze - kusho, ukusindisa ingane. Phela, ukuphambuka okuningi kuphakama kusuka ekuvinjisweni ngokweqile (isijeziso sokuba nesithakazelo esakhiweni sobulili obuhlukile), noma ekuvumelaneni.
Futhi isici esinqumayo lapha yisikhathi sezingane, lapho abazali abangahamba khona nabo. Kusukela lapho ingane ifunda amagama okuqala, lapho i-vocabulary yakhe ivuselela-kubalulekile ukuyeka umkhuba wobudlelwane nengane - ngokugcwele noma ngokocansi (ukudlala ngothando). Yebo, usemncane futhi ngeke aqonde, kodwa ngokuvamile kuvame ukungaqondi ukuthi izimbangela zezinhlekelele zikhona.
Ungakugwema kanjani inhlekelele ngendlela yocansi?
Ungalindeli iminyaka yobudala abazali abangayihamba nabo - ngoba ukuhlukumezeka ngokocansi kungabi nje izenzo ezenzelwe izingane. Kwanele ukuthi kukhona okungaqondakali okwenzeka nabo.
Ukuhumusha okwenzekayo (ekuqondeni kwengane) kungahluka. Isibonelo, umkhuba ukuhamba uhamba. Noma ukuthi umuntu omdala angambonisa "ipussy" intombazane. Akuyaziwa, okokuqala, ukuthi indodakazi noma indodana izosabela kanjani lapho ebona uyise nomama behamba behamba isikhathi eside, nokuthi lokhu kuzobathinta kanjani umbono wabo ngocansi.
Okuwukuphela kwendlela yokubusa
Abazali banconywa kakhulu ukuba bagqoke izingubo ngisho nasezintweni zangaphansi zabo lapho beneminyaka engu-5-6 ubudala. Okusho ukuthi, kusukela embuzweni wokuqala ocacile "ngivelaphi?" Kodwa okuhlukileko umzali wesini esifanayo kanye nesimo esifanayo.
Amantombazane awusizo ukuba abe eduze komama we-naked noma kunini ubudala, uma efakwe ngesidingo - ibhuku lokugeza, ishazi echibini. Ngokufanayo, amadodana nobaba. Njengomthetho, lokhu akufaki nethonya ekubunjweni kwezinsongo zobungqingili, kanye nokugqoka izingubo zomuntu. Isibonelo, umzalwane angagqoka ingubo kadadewabo ekhaya ngaphandle kokuvimbela - lokhu kuzobonisa isithakazelo sakhe ngemininingwane kanye nezingubo ezihlukanisa abafana namantombazane.
Futhi ekugcineni - amahlaya amancane
Indodakazi (iminyaka engama-4), umama, ebhishi e: Futhi kungani izintambo zikababa "ngegulfikom?" Ungumuntu omdala, akunjalo? Futhi uma ngikhula, ingabe ngizoba namakhola anjalo, na?
Indodana (iminyaka emihlanu), umama: Ngibheke! Ngingu-spider-man! (ukufaka i-pantyhose ekhanda nokuyidonsa ezandleni zakhe). MOM! Ngikhiphe lapha!
Abazali futhi bafihliwe ngaphambi kwengane, futhi baze bahamba ndawonye ekugezeni - bahlanza, yebo, behamba futhi bebonke. Kodwa lapho ingane iqala ukukhuluma - yonke imininingwane yayitshelwe kubantu bomdabu nabantu abangajwayelekile. Yini izinwele zikamama ezikhula, cabanga, phakathi kwemilenze! Futhi Papa unesoseji! Abazali babengazi ukuthi benzeni ngehlazo. Futhi manje bonke abazali abajwayele bayelulekwa ukuba baye ekhaya okungenani ngama-shorts