Indlela yokubonisa ukuzwelana phakathi komfana nentombazane

I-robot ingenye yale mizwa evimbela ukuvela kobudlelwane. Kungokuthi ngezinye izikhathi ngezinye izikhathi asikwazi ukuqonda: yini into esiyizwa ngayo izifiso zethu nezifiso zethu? Kunzima ukuqagela nokuzwa umphefumulo womunye umuntu. Ngezinye izikhathi akusebenzi ngisho nabantu abasondelene futhi abasondelene, ukuthi yini okushoyo mayelana nabantu abangajwayelekile abangajulile ezinhliziyweni zabo abaphupha ukuthi labo ababajwayele bazohluma bese beba nobuhlobo obuhle. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uqale ucabange ngobuhlobo nomuntu, udinga ukuthola: ingabe lo mfana unentshisekelo kuwe njengoba nje unesithakazelo kuye? Isihloko sethu samanje esithi "Ngabe ukuzwelana phakathi komfana nentombazane kuchazwe kanjani?" Uzokutshela ukuthi iziphi izimpawu ezinikezwe umfana zingabhekwa njengento yokuqala yokubonisa isithakazelo.

Kunezinhlobo eziningi zezibonakaliso ezibonisa indlela isihawu esiboniswa ngayo phakathi kwendoda nentombazane. Udinga nje ukukwazi ukuthola ngesikhathi, ukuqonda nokubamba - futhi lokhu kwandisa amathuba okuqhubeka nokujwayele. Ngemuva kwalokho, amadoda, naphezu kokubonakala kwesibindi, bavame ukungamahloni, besaba ukuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala, uma bengaboni noma yiziphi izimpawu ezivela kumntombazane abathandayo. Kodwa le ntombazane ayinakwenzeka ukuhlela "ukudubula amehlo", uma ungaqiniseki ukuthi lo mfana ubonisa isithakazelo esijulile kuye.

Ngakho-ke, sinquma kanjani - ukuzwelana kwabo kuvezwe ngayiphi indlela?

Masinyane uqaphele: isihawu singafihlwa noma sichaze ngokugqamile, futhi uma sesibili sibonakala kulula, khona-ke owokuqala uzoba nokuthuthumela.

Okokuqala. Ububele obuvela phakathi komfana nentombazane kubonakala emehlweni. Akusizo ngalutho ukuthi bathi amehlo awona amachibi omphefumulo. Ngakho-ke, bangafunda konke umuntu akuzwayo, ukuthi bazizwa kanjani lapho bekubona. Udinga nje ukukwazi ukufunda.

Ngakho, ukuzwelana okufihlekile kubonakala ekubukeni okwesaba ukuthi indoda ilahleka ngezikhathi ezithile kuwe. Ukuvama kwemibono kuncike eningi, into eyinhloko ukuthi awuboni ukuthi uyakuhlola. Nakuba kunzima ukungaqapheli ukuthi isithwebuli samehlo akhe "sibheka" kanjani. Uma uzama ukubamba amehlo akhe - mhlawumbe uyobheka amehlo akhe, mhlawumbe, azofihla ngokuncane, kodwa ngeke akwazi ukuzivimbela yena futhi masinyane okwesikhashana uyophakamisa ukubuka okungabonakali kuwe. Umfana uzokukufuna ngokuxhumana njalo - uzozama ukuhlala eseduze nawe, ukuze akhulume nawe amagama ambalwa, noma nje akhangele kuwe ngokweqile.

Vula ukuzwelana, futhi, kuboniswa shazi, kepha lo mbono uqinisela kakhulu futhi unamandla. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kusuka ekuthandeni kwakho ekukhulumisaneni ngamehlo akho, uzothola impendulo yangempela kuwe. Amehlo akhe abuza: "Ungithandi kanjani? Mhlawumbe sizokwazi kangcono? " Ukubukeka ngesibindi kuyakwazisa ngokwengeziwe, uzizwa wonke umuntu, uhlala isikhathi eside emilenzeni, esifubeni nasezinkalweni. Emehlweni akhe, ungafunda imvume yokuthi amafomu akho abangele. Yiqiniso, akuwona wonke amantombazane afana nalabu bukeka obuvulekile - bacabanga ukuthi kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu futhi sekuphelile ukuthi umfana ubona kuye kuphela into ekhangiwe ngokocansi, kuyilapho isiginali esingaqondakali esikhuthaza umuntu ukuba ahlolisise okhethiwe kuzo zonke izinhlangothi. Ukukhipha umuntu ngombono kulula-uma ebheka intombazane, futhi uyayithanda kakhulu, abafundi bakhe bayanda ngokushesha, bese kuthi noma yikuphi ukubonakaliswa okungalungile, ukucasula noma ukuhlukumeza kususiwe, indoda ibukeka kahle, njengokungathi ibangela amehlo akhe.

Kodwa isiboni akuyona kuphela isikhali samadoda nabesifazane evumela ukuthi umuntu abonise isithakazelo somuntu ensimini ehlukile.

Okulandelayo emgqeni kuyisenzo. Ulimi lwezandla luhluke kakhulu, uma uhlolisisa ekutadisheni kwalo, ungahlola futhi uqaphele noma ubani ngaphandle kokusebenzisa ingxoxo, kodwa uvele ubheke izandla zakhe. Ukubekwa kwezibonakaliso ezingekho ngamazwi zokunakwa emadodeni akucebile njengabesifazane, kodwa kunezibonakaliso ezimbalwa zesihawu, ezivezwe ngokuqondile emzimbeni.

Isibonelo, ngokushesha nje uma intombazane enhle ibonakala emkhakheni wombono womfana, ngokushesha uqala ngokungazi lutho ngokuzidela. Uyashesha ngokusheshisa i-vortex ene-disheveled ngesandla, idonsa ibhantshi yakhe, esevele ihlezi kahle kulo mfanekiso. Umfana angashesha ngisho nokuzulazula udoti noma udoti, okungekho ngempela - kungumkhuba nje obiza ukuthi ubukeke kahle phambi kwento yokufisa.

Enye inhlangano engazi lutho, inhloko eyinikeza indoda, ibukeka kanje. Umfana lapho ebona intombazane eyithandayo ibeka izithupha zombili izandla ngemuva kwesibhande. Kungani? Ukuheha ukunakwa kwentombazane "engqondweni yomzimba" wesilisa. Nakuba lokhu akusho ukuthi isifiso sakhe kukukuhudula ukuba ulale. Awukwazi ukunyathelisa imvelo nemvelo, njengoba besho.

Futhi isibonakaliso sokugcina esikhuluma ngesithakazelo somuntu yisimo esikhethekile, lapho evala izandla ezandleni zakhe, uphendulela umzimba kumntombazana futhi uqondise izinyawo zezicathulo ngokuqondisa kwakhe, njengokungathi uhloswe ngesihawu.

Manje ake sikhulume ngokumomotheka. Phela, lokhu kuyisikhali esinamandla sabesifazane bobabili! Abantu bakholelwa ngephutha ukuthi uma behleka, kusho ukuthi bayabazwela. Ngokuvamile kwenzeka, kodwa ukumamatheka kuhlukile futhi injongo yabo ibuye ihluke. Amanye asetshenziselwa ukutshela ngesihawu ngomunye umuntu. Abanye - ukuhlela umuntu ngokwabo ngenhloso ethile evela kuye ukuze athole. Kukhona ukumomotheka okukhombisa futhi isimo sengqondo esibi kumuntu.

Ngakho-ke, uma i-interlocutor yakho iyamomotheka nge "Hollywood smile" emlonyeni wakhe wonke, kodwa amehlo akhe awavezi imizwa ejabulisayo kulokhu - kusho ukuthi umuntu uzondla kuwe ngezinhloso ezithile zokuzibophezela. Kodwa ukumomotheka okukhulu, ukufudumala emehlweni nokuhleka okuqotho kubonisa indawo enhle ye-interlocutor kumuntu wakho.

Kukhona omunye ukumomotheka, okuyinto, naphezu kokuthi kubonakala kungavamile, kusabonisa ukuzwelana okufihlekile kumuntu. Yilapho lapho bebukeka khona ngomusa, eveza cishe wonke amazinyo ngokumomotheka, egoqa amakhanda awo kancane kancane futhi ephihliza kancane iso. Kuyinto enhle kakhulu, kusho ukuthi umfana ukhona kuwe, manje nje uziphatha kancane futhi uyazibuza, kodwa ukulungele ukukuthethelela. Kodwa-ke, akudingekile ukudidanisa ukumomotheka okungenangqondo nge-grin, lapho ubuso bomuntu buhlanekezela, iso liba nombi kabi, futhi amazinyo ahlengekile awakabonakali.

Unikeza indoda, yebo izwi layo, ithathwe yindoda. Noma kunjalo, ngeke kube umkhuba wesifazane ukukhuluma ngama-halftones aphansi, ahlaselayo. Indoda yindoda, futhi engxoxweni lapho umuntu ezwela khona iqhaza, ngezinye izikhathi iyoshicilela ukukhala kwangempela kwesilisa. Uzobona ngokushesha ukuthi izwi lakhe lishintshile kanjani. Ngamadoda alungile eduze naye ngesikhathi engxoxweni, futhi ngisho nangokwengeziwe ukuthi ngubani owenza amathokheni wokunakekelwa kwintombazane yakhe, uzokhuluma ngenhlonipho nangenhlanhla njengabancintisana nabo. Kodwa lapho ukhuluma nentombazane, lesi siqu siyashintsha, inkulumo izoba amanothi okucula, izwi lizovunywa futhi lizothululela njengomsakazo.

Njengoba ubona, kulula kakhulu ukunquma ukuthi uzwela lwavuka phakathi kwendoda nentombazane - libonakaliswa kukho konke kusuka ekubukeni kwesithakazelo esithakazelisayo, ekuziphatheni okwedlulele namagama. Into eyinhloko ukuqonda ucingo lomfana futhi uyiphendule - bese ububele bakho bungakhula bube nobuhlobo obunzima futhi obuqinile!