Ngakho-ke, kungani kungase kube khona izingxabano nokuphazamiseka okuqhubekayo nomfana? Futhi kulungile, uhlale uhlukile ngokungahambisani nokuzithoba, kepha bonke abangane nabangane bakho bakhumbula wena njengentombazane engapheli nesineke nezimo ezingasoze zahlela isisulu ngaphandle kokuqonda isizathu futhi ngaphandle kokuzama ukuyiqeda ngokuthula. Uhlobo olunjani lwe-turbidity okwenzekile ekhanda lakho elikhanyayo? Kodwa-ke, lokhu akucatshangwa ngisho nabangani bakho, kodwa umfana ofanayo onenhloko yakhe ethululelwa kuzo zonke lezo zintambo kanye nokuqhekeka, ngokukhululekile ngokuhlakazeka ngesandla sakho esiphezulu. Kule ndaba, ngokushesha usuka, futhi ngokushesha ukugijimela kokuqala ukubeka uphinde ubhebhethele icala lakho. Kodwa konke lokhu kuphela ngenxa yalokho masinyane futhi ukuqala ukuxabana nokuvusa ukuhluleka kokwesaba kokubili, futhi kumfana. Kungani kunjalo?
Okokuqala, unake impilo yakho. Cha, asifuni ukusikisela ukuthi ukuphazamiseka kwakho njalo kuhlobene nenye uhlobo lwezinkinga zengqondo. Mhlawumbe nje ukuthi umzimba wakho unikeze ukwehluleka okuthile - isibonelo, ngenxa yokuthatha noma yimiphi imithi, isizinda se-hormonal saphazamiseka. Lokhu kuvame ukudala ukwesaba okwedlulele noma ukukhwabanisa. Kulesi simo, ukufinyeleleka ngesikhathi esifanele kumchwepheshe kuyakusindisa izinzwa zombili zombili futhi usize ukuxazulula inkinga ngokushesha. Okwamanje, zama ukuphuza ukudubula - nokho, umfana naye akafanele abekwe icala, ukuthi unezinkinga zempilo. Ibhizinisi lakhe kuleso simo ukukusekela ngangokunokwenzeka futhi unganiki umphumela wesinye isici, ukuzama ukugwema ama-angles abukhali.
Esikhathini esibi, esibizwa ngemithi "PMS", ngokuvamile sibacasula. Asinelisekile ngokugcwele konke: ukuthi ubheke kanjani, ukuthi ugqoke kanjani, lokho akushoyo. Siyakwazi ukuphumula nganoma isiphi isikhathi bese sishisa ngomlotha ekuhlaseleni kwethu. Akusibo bonke, yiqiniso, kodwa kunjalo phakathi kwethu. Ngakho-ke, uma uhlala ngokwehlukana, zama ukubona okungenani nabathandekayo bakho kule nkathi engafanele, ukuze ugweme izingxabano ezingadingekile nokuphazamiseka kwemizwa.
Esinye isizathu sokuphikisana amanga ngqo ngaphakathi kwakho. Futhi ubizwa ngokuthi ukungathembeki. Futhi kudala ukungazethembi komzwelo owodwa onamandla - umona, ngisho nalapho izinzwa zomdala ezindala zingaqedwa. Uzozibona wena: mhlawumbe unomhawu kuye yonke insika? Mhlawumbe uzosebenza ne-podkolkami ukuthi ulinde abasebenzi? Noma mhlawumbe uhlale ucabanga ukuthi ujika emgwaqweni, ukuze ubheke ngokuhlolisisa ubheke owesifazane omuhle onemilenze engapheli? Ngakho-ke, ngesikhathi esifanayo, bheka isimo sonke endaweni lapho indoda yakho ibuke khona. Kungenzeka yini ukuthi imoto yezemidlalo ye-BMW igxile emgwaqweni - yiyo kuphela isoka lakho eliphuphile ngayo yonke impilo yakhe? Ungamthukutheleli masinya, ungaqala ngqo phakathi komgwaqo. Uhamba nawe. Lapho angaboni khona ngengozi. Futhi ungabheka izinyawo zakhe ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kodwa, uma lesi simo sithinta wena, mhlela ukuba ahlale ehlalisa ekhaya. Ungabi namahloni kuphela (futhi bacabanga ukuthi sibahlekisa ngamahlazo omphakathi) impikiswano emgwaqeni. Noma yenza indlela yokuphendula. Futhi ngokufisa, bheka enye insizwa ekhangayo. Qinisekisa kuphela ukuthi lo dade uyayibona. Yikholelwa, uzoqonda isifundo sakho.
Futhi manje masithembeke kithi ngokwethu. Mhlawumbe lezo zimpikiswano nezingxabano ozihlelayo isoka lakho ngaphandle kwesizathu esizwakalayo kungukungena ngaphakathi kwangaphakathi kwakho, okusho ukuthi ufisa ukuhlukana nale ndoda? Uhlangane, futhi konke kuhle emehlweni akho, kodwa ngokuqhubekayo ubuhlobo bakho buya - uma uqonda ngokwengeziwe ukuthi akayena umuntu ofanayo, hhayi umlingani wokuphila ongathanda ukuguga ngesandla sakhe? Emva kwakho konke, futhi lokhu kungaba - akukho okuyihlazo noma okubi kulokhu. Kunalokho, ngokuphambene nalokho: kungcono ukuqaphela ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ukuthi awuyena umbhangqwana, futhi ukusabalalisa kunokuba uqonde lokhu uma usuvele uhlanganisa okuthile okungaphezu nje kobudlelwane bomshado. Umbuzo kuphela ukuthi uziphathe kanjani, uphetha ngokuthi awukwazi ukuba ndawonye ... Mhlawumbe awufuni nje ukubeka leli phuzu? Ingabe ukwesaba, uyesaba ukuthi ngeke uthole omunye umuntu ngokwakho? Noma nje ungafuni ukuba ngumqali wekhefu ebuhlotsheni? Lapho amabutho amabili elwa phakathi kwentombazane, enye yayo imqhubezela ukuba icacise ngobuqotho ubuhlobo, futhi amandla amabili okuqamba amanga futhi enze izingxabano nokuhlukana ukuze umfana ashiye yena, khona-ke impilo yakhe yonke iphenduka isihogo sangempela. Akukho okubi nakakhulu kunomzabalazo onjalo. Futhi kungcono ukuzidonsa ndawonye futhi ukhulume ngokukhululekile naye, kunokuba uhlasele ama-scandals bese uqeda ukushisa kwakho. Ungumuntu ophilayo, uyakuthanda, uma engashiyi, naphezu komlingiswa wakho ongenakubekezelelwa. Hlala uthembekile kuye: ufanelwe ukukhuluma iqiniso.
Eqinisweni, izizathu ezibangela amahlazo onke, ukuphazamiseka nokuxabana nomfana, mhlawumbe ngisho nemoto nenqola encane. Mhlawumbe ezinye izinto ezincane ekuphileni: isibonelo, akakuhlinzeki ngokwanele, akayena othandana njengomakhelwane womakhelwane ka-Irki futhi akanalo imoto epholile, akwazi ukudansa futhi akabhali izingoma. Kodwa empeleni wena ngento ethile uye wathanda kakhulu? Ngokuqinisekile, uzwela futhi unomusa futhi uyakukhathalela kakhulu - futhi lokhu kubonakala kungavamile kumadoda anamuhla! Ngakho-ke funda ukuqonda ubuhlobo obunakho, futhi ungabakhuzi izikhalazo ezingenangqondo.