Noma kunjalo, sizozama ukuthola ezinye izinto ezijwayelekile kule ndaba.
Ubuhlobo buqala kuphi?
Bathi ukuphila kucebile kunezinganekwane. Futhi eqinisweni, phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane besithandana bavame ukuqhutshwa ezindaweni eziningi kakhulu: emsebenzini, esikoleni, eduze kwendlu (endaweni) bajwayele imibhangqwana engama-80%. Okuncane kakhulu eholidini, kuma-nightclub nase-Intanethi, kodwa ikakhulukazi sithola uthando kumbuthano wabangani abasondelene nabo, osebenza nabo noma abangane.
Uma ubuhlobo buqala
Awekho amaphethini jikelele. Abanye bathola uthando ekuboneni kuqala, abanye bajwayele ngaphambi kokuba ubuhlobo buqale iminyaka. Kodwa kukhona isikhathi esihle ngaphambi komshado, emva kwalokho imindeni eqine kakhulu idalwe - sekuyizinyanga ezingu-3-6. Lesi sikhathi sizwela kakhulu ukwazi kahle ukuthi ngabe umuntu ungakini. Esikhathini sesibili ekuthembekeni komshado phakathi kwabantu abajwayele ukuvela ezinyangeni eziyisithupha kuya ngonyaka, okwesithathu - kusukela ezinyangeni ezintathu ukuya kwezinyanga ezintathu. Uma abantu bebazana isikhathi eside: iminyaka emibili, emithathu noma emihlanu, kodwa abazange baqale ubudlelwane bokuthandana, njengomthetho, bakha imindeni enenkinga kakhulu futhi engaqiniseki. Ukuze ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane bube namandla futhi buhlale njalo, izinqumo ezibaluleke kakhulu kumele zithathwe ngesikhathi azijwayele ezinyangeni ezintathu kuya kweziyisithupha. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ukwazi ukuthi ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane buqala kanjani, nokuthi yini engayiholela, kubaluleke kakhulu kithi ukuthi siqonde ukuthi uthando luvela kanjani ekuboneni kuqala. Ngoba imibhangqwana eyadalwa kusukela kumuntu owaziwa ngaphambili, ngokusemthethweni, imibhangqwana idangele ukufuna abantu ababili abahluphekile nabanesizungu .
Uthando luvela kanjani ekuqaleni kokubona
Njengoba kungase kuzwakale, ososayensi sekuyisikhathi eside bethola indlela efanele yokuthandana ekuqaleni kokubona. Ngamafuphi, lokhu kulandelayo: ku-subconscious sinalo uhlu lwezimfanelo zesigamu esiphezulu sesibili esisuka ebuntwaneni. Kungase kungavumelani nalokho esikucabangayo thina, nokuthi yini esixoxa ngayo nabanye. Uma nje sihlangana nomuntu ohambisana nalolu hlu, kukhona "isifundazwe esifushane" - uthando ekuqaleni kokubona. Ukuqonda kwethu noma intuition yethu isitshela ngokungazelelwe ukuthi nguyena oyidinga.
Uma uhlu lwezimfanelo zendoda nowesifazane luhambisana, ubuhlobo buqala ngokushesha, futhi buya emndenini ojabulayo futhi oqinile. Uma lolu hlu luhambisana nodwa kuphela, kukhona uthando olungenakulinganiswa, okuyinto abaningi abheka inhlekelele enkulu.
Ososayensi bese-ke podsuetilis: bathi uthando ekuboneni kokuqala lungaba okungaphezu kwesisodwa empilweni yakho, futhi ukuthi kaningi loluhlu luhambisana, kunokungalingani. Okokuqala, kulolu hlu olulodwa lwezimfanelo oluhambisana nohlobo oluthile lobuntu, futhi abantu abanobuhlobo bomuntu emhlabeni banamalungu angaphezu kweyodwa. Okwesibili, isimiso sokuxhasana ngokuhlanganyela sivame ukusebenza, isibonelo, abesifazane abathandekayo bathanda abantu abangenalutho, namadoda athambile - abesifazane abanomlingiswa. Okungukuthi, uhlobo lomuntu ngamunye luyinto enhle yokuqinisa uhlobo lomlingani wakhe.
Konke lokhu kuhle ezingeni le-theory, kodwa lokhu kungasetshenziswa kanjani ekusebenzeni, ubuza? Kunzima ukululeka lapha. Kunomuntu ubuntu obunjalo ngokuthi "izinga lokuziphendulela". Akuvamile ukuphakama, futhi ngokumangalisa, izinga eliphakeme kakhulu lokuziphendulela kubantu abavaliwe nabangenakuhlukaniswa. Abantu abaningi abanalo ikhono eliphezulu lokuzindla, okungukuthi, ulwazi olufanele ngokwanele. Futhi badinga ukubukeka kusuka ngaphandle. Akusizi ngalutho ukuthi amakhulu eminyaka kwakukhona isikhungo somshado, siphethwe ngosizo lomdlali wokudlala, noma ehlelwe abazali. Akukhona nje izizathu zenhlalo nezenhlalakahle ezazisenhliziyweni yalokhu, kodwa futhi nombono ovela ngaphandle.
Uma ufuna ukuthola umphefumulo wakho womlingani, ungasiza nabangani, nabangani, nokululekwa kwengqondo kwengqondo, okuzokunika ithuba lokubona ukuthi yini oyifunayo ngempela. Futhi emva kokuthola, udinga ukufunda ukuqonda okukhululekile. Lesi sici somlingiswa sinzima kakhulu kangangokuthi kuwufanelekile ukuqhuba ukuqeqesha okukhethekile. Ngenxa yokufundisa umbono okhululekile, awukwazi ukuzwa i-jaundice lapho ubona umuntu ofanelekayo, uxoxe naye ngokuzithoba nangaphandle kokuhlambalaza noma ukuphazamiseka, okujwayelekile ezimweni lapho sihlanganiswa umuzwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lekhwalithi izokuvumela ukuthi ungahlaseli umuntu onjalo ngokukhathazeka komuntu olambile ubudlelwane obuvamile. Kulula nje, uzokwazi ukuthola ibhalansi phakathi kwesifiso esaziwayo nesingazi lutho, phakathi kwezidingo ezizwakalayo neziyinkimbinkimbi zomlingani ozayo. Khona-ke uqobo lwalo luzokunika izinketho zomhlangano osuke ulinde isikhathi eside. Emva kwakho konke, kuvela ukuthi indoda yakho ekahle - inendawo ethile kakhulu, isondelene kakhulu!