Kuhle ukugqoka ijazi elimhlophe bese ufika emotweni enezivikelo futhi uthi ngokuqiniseka: "Ngingowesifazane ojwayelekile, ovamile! Anginawo ocansini ngosuku lokuqala, angifuni ebuhlotsheni obuseduze ngaphandle kothando, angiyishintshi umyeni wami! "Futhi phansi, futhi ngezinye izikhathi kuveza ngokucacile ukuthi abantu" abayizinengiso "ngokwabo abangekho ebangeni lokuqala. Ubulili ngaphandle kwesibopho yisihloko esivundile. Cishe njengesihloko semifino, inkolo noma amalungelo abesifazane ukukhipha isisu, ubuhlobo obuseduze ngaphandle kothando ngeke bushiye noma ubani ongenandaba. Kuzobe kube yibo "abakubo" nalabo "abaphikisanayo".
I-Pragmatists ne-Romantics
Yiqiniso, kuyaqondakala ukuthi kungani umuntu engeke abe nesithakazelo "ku-sex nje". Wonke umuntu ufuna ukuzizwa ethandwa, okudingekayo, okuwukuphela kwakhe futhi angachitheli ubulili namandla angokomoya emasakalini. Lokhu akukona nje ukukhathazeka kwabesifazane, kodwa futhi nabesilisa, naphezu kokubukwa okuqhubekayo kokulungela okuqhubekayo kokubambisana.
Kodwa kukhona nalabo "abathandani bobulili obulula" abangaboni lutho olwesabekayo nge-psyche. Abadingi umthwalo enhliziyweni noma ebuchosheni ukuze bajabulele injabulo yobulili. Ngokufanayo, akudingekile ukuba uthandane nomuntu ukuba ahlanganyele ezemidlalo, ukulungiselela ukudla noma ukudansa. Kodwa-ke, iningi liqinisekile ukuthi uma umuntu ekwazi ukujabulela ubulili, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyathandana noma cha, unenkinga enkulu. Mhlawumbe kufanele aphendule ochwepheshe bezocansi? Lapho bayokwelashwa ukukhathalela okubi ngokobulili! Ngempela, ukwethembeka, kuhle ukulala nabantu abavamile ngenxa yothando, futhi bonke abangakwazi ukwenza okunye babizwa ngokuthi amagama asekhrashi asekhono.
Umdlalo owakho
Kodwa-ke, impilo ifakazela: kuqembu elifuna ucansi ngaphandle kwezibopho, babhala ngokungalindelekile bona.
Abaningi balabo abazama ucansi ngaphandle kwezibopho, ngaleyo ndlela bachithe isikhathi ngemuva kokuhlukanisa noma ngesikhathi sokuqeda umsebenzi - lapho amandla engqondo engenawo okwanele ukwenza umuntu ajabule, kuphela ngokwabo futhi othayishiwe. Ubulili obungenzi inzuzo bukhethwa ngabantu abazimele abangakaze babone uthando lweqiniso, noma ngokusemthethweni abafuni ukwabelana ngempilo yabo nomunye umuntu. Ubulili ngaphandle kwezibopho njengoba kungenakwenzeka ngandlela-thile: noma yikuphi ukushaya izingcingo, umhawu nemibono engadingekile.
Akukho lutho lomuntu siqu
Ukuzigcina ngokocansi okwesifazane akulimazi. Ukungabi nobulili kubi kakhulu empilweni - ingxabano ayilungile. Kodwa kuyaziwa ukuthi umsebenzi wezocansi womuntu awuthuthukisi nje kuphela isimo sakhe somzimba, kodwa futhi nengqondo. Isiphetho silula: kuyasiza kakhulu ukuba ocansini kunokungayinaki. Kodwa lesi sitatimende, esimweni sobulili ngaphandle kwezibopho, kuyiqiniso ngaphansi kwezimo ezithile.
Okokuqala, ukuphepha kubaluleke kakhulu. Izifo ze-venereal azidingekile noma ubani noma ukukhulelwa okungafuneki kumngane wakho, okungafanele ukuhlotshaniswa naye.
Okwesibili, amantombazane asebenzisa ubulili obukhululekile, phawula ukuthi ingozi enkulu ekuthandweni ngokomzwelo kumlingani. Ukuze bangabi othandweni, bayeluleka ukushiya ikhanda elibandayo, hhayi ukuyeka ngokuphelele isifiso; hhayi ukuchitha ubusuku embhedeni owodwa; Ungazivumeli ukuba ucabange ngomuntu futhi; ekugcineni, akufanele unikeze emehlweni akho ukubaluleka futhi uziqinisekise ukuthi ubuhlobo besikhathi eside abuhambisani. Ungamanga - indlela eqondile, ngakho-ke, ngaphandle kwesimo sokushintshaniswa kweziphuzo, ingqondo engaphansi komuntu ayitholi iziphetho ezingaphezulu.
Okwesithathu, gcina ibanga ocansini ngaphandle kokuzibophezela kuyadingeka sonke isikhathi. Uma owesifazane engowesilisa kuphela njengomlingani wezocansi, kuye kufanele kucace. Ukuthembeka nokukhulumisana okungenangqondo "akukho lutho oluphakathi kwethu" ngeke luphazamise. Yiqiniso, amadoda awakwazi njalo ukuzwa ukukhanya kwemvelo okunjalo.
Izimbali nezipho ezincane njengezibonakaliso zokunakekelwa - zibhubhise ibanga. Izindawo zokudlela, ukuya kuma-movie, ikhofi embhedeni ekuseni - ngoba ifomethi "ubulili nje" ayisebenzi. Bomelele kakhulu engqondweni ngesimo sezimpawu zokunakekelwa, okusho ukuthi kubangele ngokuzenzakalelayo uthando. Ngakho-ke, ngisho nezintambo kufanele zigcinwe ngaphansi kokulawula.
Ekugcineni ohlwini, kodwa isici esiyinhloko sobulili obukhululekile ngokobulili kuyisibopho sokucabanga ngemiphumela ngaphandle kokuvela kwalokhu. Akukhona nje kuphela ngokuphathelene nomlingani, kodwa futhi kuye.
Isibopho somzwa womuntu yisimo esibuhlungu kunazo zonke, ngakho-ke uma kungekho okuqinisekile ukuthi ubulili ngaphandle kothando lunomusa, akufanele neze uzame.
Ngokuvamile kukhona abantu abangenalo lutho ngezobulili ezingabambisani - indlela yokuphila. Ngokuvamile, ubuhlobo obunjalo buyinto yesikhashana egcwalisa impilo ngokubona, elinde into enkulu futhi ehlanzekile. Izinyathelo ezilula kakhulu ziphukile njengewebhu, ngokushesha nje lapho zivela khona. Ukujula, ukuthinta ubudlelwane bomphefumulo kubangela injabulo eyengeziwe kunokwesekwa okwesikhashana okusekelwe ezithombeni zesilwane.