Uthando lubonakala imizwa yomuntu oyedwa ngomunye noma kwabanye, aboniswa uthando olujulile nesihawu. Uthando luhlukile: luthandekayo, luthando, lungaxhunywanga, lwakwethu, olumama, olunobungane, lenyama, lothando. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwakunjani, uthando luhlala luthando, futhi ukukhona kwalo akunakuphikwa noma kunqatshelwe. Abanye abantu abathandi ipeni bakuthandana, kepha empeleni uthando luyigugu. Zingaki izimbongi, abaculi, abaculi, abalobi abahlabelela emsebenzini wabo wothando, kaningi kangaki uthando lwabo lwaluyi-muse yokudala ubuciko. Abaningi, kusukela endulo kuya ezinsukwini zethu, bazama ukunquma intengo yangempela yothando. Futhi uma ungakwenza, awukwazi ukuzwa uthando, ngoba uthando alukwazi ukuzwa!
Bangaki abantu - kusukela ezinkanyezini ezidumile kuya kubantu abafayo abalahlekelwa amakhanda abo othandweni futhi kanye namakhanda abo yonke inhlanhla yabo noma ngokuphambene nalokho, bangaki abantu ngenxa yothando abazidlula ngokwabo nabanye, banqoba izwe lonke ukuze banqobe owesifazane oyedwa.
Iyini intengo yangempela yothando lwethu? Amathegi anomthamo wamanani othandweni abanjwe abantu abaningi: ngakolunye uhlangothi, i-confusions kanye ne-courtesans kusukela ekuqaleni kwale misebenzi yasendulo kuya ezinsukwini zethu, okuyinto imali engayinika ithuba "ukujabulela uthando." Ngakolunye uhlangothi, izifundiswa zothando zemizimba yabesifazane, okubaluleka kothando abalutholayo kuxhomeke kuphela ekungeneni kwemikhwama yabo. Kodwa ingabe lolu uthando noma luyisidingo nje sezinto ezijabulisayo zenyama?
Uthando lungenye yezihloko ezidume kakhulu phakathi kwezazi zefilosofi, izazi zezocansi, izazi zengqondo kanye nalesi sihloko njalo kuye kwashukumisa ukucabanga kwefilosofi kanye nesimo sengqondo, wonke umuntu wayefuna ukwazi ukubaluleka kweqiniso, futhi ngizosho kanjalo, uthando lufanelekile ukuphila, futhi impilo iyigugu, ngakho uthando luyigugu . Njengoba uHelen Hayes, umdlali wezemidlalo waseMelika, wathi, "Iqiniso liwukuthi kukhona kuphela inani eliphakeme kakhulu - uthando," futhi ngiyavumelana nalokhu, futhi akukho ntengo yothando, futhi kukhona kuphela abaqeqeshi abathanda le nzwa futhi bayinike abanye / abanye abantu, bethola kubo ngokubuyisela, futhi, uthando.
Zonke izindinganiso ezibonakalayo ukuthi othandana bazithola komunye nomunye bawubonga kuphela ngothando olwamukelwe noma olwamukelweyo. Uthando alulinganiswanga nganoma iyiphi indlela ngezingubo, impahla noma izimoto ezibizayo, uthando kufanele luhlale enhliziyweni yomuntu ngamunye, futhi kuphela lapho wonke umuntu othanda ngempela angasho ukuthi intengo yothando ayikho ngemali futhi ayikho izipho, uthando alukho intengo! Ubani ongake akhumbule ukuthi uthando lungahlolwa ngandlela-thile? Uma sibuyela esihlokweni se-courtesans, abathengisi uthando, kodwa umzimba wabo.
Awukwazi ukunquma intengo evela emphefumulweni nasenhliziyweni yethu, awukwazi ukunquma intengo yesigamu sakho sesibili, awukwazi ukuthenga noma ukuthengisa uthando. Uthando luyazalwa kuphela, luzelwe emphefumulweni ngosizo lwezinhliziyo ezimbili zothando njalo unyaka noma usuku kufanele kube ngaphezulu, kodwa hhayi ngaphansi. Ungakholelwa ukuthi lolo thando lufa eminyakeni emithathu noma eyisikhombisa, ungakholelwa ukuthi uthando lungathengwa futhi luthengiswe! Uthando luhlala emphefumulweni ngamunye wethu.