Kuye kwaziwa isikhathi eside ukuthi imicabango ehlakaniphile ifika engqondweni emva kweqiniso. Isibonelo, wonke umuntu ubonakala ekwazi isaga esithi "Ubuhlobo buhlobo, futhi insizakalo yinkonzo," kodwa cishe ngamunye wethu wabhekana nesilingo sokuletha omunye umsebenzi njengomsebenzi omusha. Noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, hamba ukusebenza enkampanini lapho omunye wabahlobo noma izihlobo esevele esebenza. Futhi njalo lapho sicabangela ngokujulile lo mbono, esikhundleni sokushiya ngokushesha ...
ENGALINI YEMIBUZO
Ake sicabange, kungani umqondo wokubambisana nabantu abajwayele ukufika engqondweni? Mhlawumbe ngoba ukuhlela okunjalo kubonakala kulawulwa futhi kubikezelwa. Uma uhlamvu lomuntu, amakhono akhe ayaziwa futhi sanelisekile, kusho ukuthi kuyoba lula ukusebenza naye. Maye, ngokuvamile kuvela ngokuhlukile.
* Uma singazange sisebenze ngokubambisana nomngani wethu, ngakho-ke siyazi ngamakhono akhe okukwazi ukudala nokusebenza, hhayi konke. Phela, imibono yethu ngaye ikhiwa ikakhulukazi ekuxoxweni nalo muntu. Kodwa abantu abakwazi njalo ukuzinikeza ukuhlola okuhloswe. Umuntu uzodumisa ngokwakhe, ezama ukukhulisa ukuzethemba futhi (noma) "amandla akhe adonsela phansi" emehlweni abantu. Futhi othile wehlisa amakhono abo, ngoba ahlupheka ngenxa yokuhlukumezeka. Yebo, futhi thina ngokwethu, siwile ngaphansi kwezinto ezithandekayo zobuntu obuhle, ngezinye izikhathi siyi-oh, njengenhlamba.
* Zonke lezo zimfanelo "owaziwa" ohlelweni lokuxhumana (umthwalo wemfanelo, ukubekezela, ukusebenza kahle, njll), ekuboneni kokuqala, azikho ngaphansi kokungabaza. Kodwa, okokuqala, umuntu ofanayo emsebenzini nasemsebenzini angaziphatha ngendlela ehluke ngokuphelele, ikakhulukazi indoda. Okwesibili, ngokuphathelene nawe umngane angabonisa kahle kakhulu hhayi ngoba ungumuntu onjalo wegolide, kodwa ngoba wena uthanda yena. Noma unayo izibopho zokuthandana, kodwa kuncane kangakanani ... Ngamafuphi, nabantu abajwayele futhi abangajwayelekile, cishe sonke siziphatha ngendlela ehlukile. Ukuzibophezela komngane.
Ngakho ukuziphatha: kungenzeka ukuthi abaphathi bakho noma osebenza nabo ngeke bahlanganyele imibono yakho ngobuntu bomngane ngokuzijwayeza. Okusho ukuthi usengozini yokuchitha ubuhlobo bakho obusemthethweni kanye negunya lakho. Phela, noma yikuphi ukunakekelwa okwenziwa ngumsebenzi omusha owakucacile kuzophathwa ngokuzenzakalelayo njengephutha lakho. Ulethe okuthile, uphendula. Lokhu kungumthetho ongaqondakali, kodwa abantu abaningi bacabanga ngokungazi.
EZIPHUMENI NOKUHLOLA
Ngaphandle kokungahambisani nemibono yazo zonke izinhlangothi ezihilelekile kuleso simo, kukhona enye inkinga ejwayelekile ekulindele labo abazimisele "ukujabulisa umuntu wesilisa".
* Ngokuletha umngane enkampanini yakho noma enkampanini yakho, silahlekelwa inkululeko yethu, ngaphandle kokuthi, imvelo ikunikeze i-100% pofigism. Akukhona nje ukuthi ekuqaleni, ngaphezu kwemisebenzi yakho yomsebenzi, kufanele futhi usebenze njengesiqondiso "ukwethula umuntu omusha kubo bonke abantu abadingekayo nezindawo, kufanele wenze izinqumo njalo ngomzuzu: obani okufanele baphuze ikhofi noma badle, njengoba Ungakhuluma. Ngemuva kwakho konke, uma umngane engumngani wendlu yakho, udinga ukucophelela ukuthi izimfihlo zomndeni wakho "ungafaki" enkonzweni, nehhovisi - ekhaya.
* Uma omunye osebenza nabo ngesikhathi esifanele isisebenzi esisha sesisetshenzisile indawo yakho ekhethekile, khona-ke ukuqhuma ko "umhawu" kungenzeka, umzabalazo wokubheka phakathi kwabahlobo ababili - "aborigine" kanye "nokuqasha".
* Lungiselela ukuthi kuzodingeka ukhiphe "amakhasi e-biography" nezici ezimfushane kwabanye njengalunye uhlangothi, nolunye. Futhi, uma ungakhethi igama ngalinye ngokucophelela, angabe - ngandlela-thile - "ukugibela" ekuhloliseni okungafanelekile.
Akukwazi ukusho ukuthi zonke lezi zikhathi ezisheshayo ezingenakukwazi ukunqotshwa. Ungakwazi, njalonjalo, njengento yonke ekuphileni kwethu. Noma kunjalo, ama-nuances angabhubhisa ubukhona esimweni sokubambisana nabangane noma izihlobo, vuka kaningi kunakwezinye izimo.
ABANGENZI BAKHOLEKA UKUBUZWA OKUNGAKHO ...
Kodwa, mhlawumbe, ukulahlekelwa okunzima kakhulu okungalindelekile kulendlela kungukulahlekelwa umngane. Kungenzeka ngezindlela eziningi.
* Kwezinye izimo, ubudlelwane obuseduze buya kancane kancane futhi bungabonakali. Ukungena esimweni lapho ukukhulumisana kungenzeki khona, kodwa kunqunyelwe imingcele ethile - izithakazelo zenkampani (ezingase zingahambisani nabantu), ukuziphatha okusemthethweni, njll - ngamunye wabangane ababili bangaphambili banamacala amancane kanye nezikhalazo komunye nomunye kumngane. Khona-ke enye yezinye ayizange isekele emgqeni ezivela eziphathimandla, khona-ke omunye wathi ngezinkinga zomndeni ngamanye ngamazwi angaphezu kwesigamu kunalokho esingathanda. Futhi ihambe. Futhi waya ... kancane kancane ubuhlobo buqala ukupholisa futhi kusukela othandweni lwangaphambili lwangokomoya alukho umkhondo. Ngomngane kubalulekile ukushiya.
* Inguquko yesibili engenzeka yokuphuka ukubonakala okungalindelekile kwezimfanelo ezingaziwa zomuntu owaziwa ngaphambili. Ngokungazelelwe omunye wabangane usheshe anqobe isifiso sokunakekelwa umusa nabaphathi bakhe, ukukhuphuka izinga lezemisebenzi, ukuthola imali eyengeziwe, njll. Futhi uqala ukwenza ngokubambisana nokuhlangana okungokomoya nomngane wezolo. Kusobala ukuthi wonke umuntu kufanele anakekele impilo yakhe siqu. Kodwa kuyinto eyodwa uma kudingeka ukuncintisana nabantu abangasondelene kakhulu, abanakho ngaphansi kwemibandela efanayo. Futhi okunye okunye, uma kufanele uphintisane nomngani osondelene naye, umzala wesibili noma umngane, owenza nabo belikiki ndawonye ebhokisini le-sandbox ...
* Isigodi sesithathu sisesimweni lapho abangane bezinyathelo ezahlukene zesitezi, okuthiwa "isevisi" - ekuqaleni noma ngaphezulu kwesikhathi. Ngokweqile, konke kulula: emsebenzini ungumphathi futhi ongaphansi, abangane - ekhaya. Futhi ngokuqhubekayo ukusinda inqaba enjalo cishe akunakwenzeka. Ubuhlobo nomngane wangaphambili nakho kuthinteka ngumona, ukuhamba ngezinyoni ngaphakathi enhliziyweni ngesomiso othule, nentukuthelo yedwa. Omunye uthukuthele ukuthi umholo wesibili uphakeme futhi umsebenzi uhlanzekile, owesibili uthukuthele ukuthi owokuqala udinga ngokuqondene naye ngamalungelo angenakuqhathaniswa kanye nesimo sengqondo esengeziwe.
Ngelinye igama, ukumemela umngane wakho umngane kubalingani bakhe, omunye noma omunye uzoletha ukulahlekelwa noma kunjalo. Futhi ngokuvamile kuvame ukulahleka lokho okungafanelekile. Ngakho-ke, kufanelekile ukuyeka isilingo esinjalo. Kungcono ukumnike imali ngemali mboleko noma iseluleko esihle, lapho ungabheka khona umsebenzi omusha! Futhi ubungani buhlobo, futhi inkonzo enkonzweni ngeke ibe yisithintelo.