Umehluko phakathi kwabafana namantombazane

Kusukela esikhathini esidlule, ukuhlukana phakathi kwemithwalo yemfanelo yamadoda nabesifazane kwacaca. Lezi zihlukaniso zazingenakunyakaziswa futhi azikwazanga ukuphikisana. Amadoda endulo ayenamalungelo kukho konke, kuzo zonke izenzo, ngenkathi amalungelo omama ayengaphili kahle. Sebenze abendlukazi abajwayelekile, abagcini bezindlu ezivela kubantu besifazane, amadoda, ngaphandle kwemisebenzi yabo eqondile, futhi bahola ukuphila okujabulisayo nokuvame kakhulu. Inzuzo manje akuzona lezo zikhathi nakho konke okushintshile. Ngabe-ke umehluko phakathi kwamantombazane namantombazane manje?

Ake siqale ngokuhlelekile. Yini esele manje kusuka emithethweni ehlanganisiwe emlandweni? Yebo, manje, njengangaphambili, umthetho wokuthi umfana ungumvikeli, umqaphi nomqhawe, uye wahlala. Amantombazane ahlukumeza, omama abanakekelayo, izidalwa ezithandekayo. Kodwa ngenxa yokushintsha kwezobuchwepheshe, ezobuchwepheshe, ezenhlalakahle nezomnotho, konke kuguquka ngokungahambisani. Uhlala umbuzo ofanayo: ngabe umehluko phakathi kwamantombazane namantombazane?

Le ndoda iyinkosikazi, isebenza, ihola ngokusebenza ngokweqile izindlela zokuqinisekisa impilo yakhe kanye nokuphila kwabathandekayo bakhe. Ngokuvamile abantu bahola imali ngemisebenzi yabasebenzi, bangabalandeli beSoviet theory ukuthi amandla ezandleni zabo, abalandeli bezwe lanamuhla bathola izindlela zokuthola ezinye izindlela, ngaphandle kokusetshenziswa kwamandla emvelo. Amantombazane asebenzisa kakhulu izimfanelo zabo zemvelo, ukubukeka, ubuhle, nokuzijabulisa. Lona umehluko endaweni yokuqala. Le ntombazane izothola indlela elula yokuthola, ngaphandle kokubeka imizamo ekhethekile, le mbono ayilungile kuphela uma kwenzeka abaqeqeshi bezemisebenzi, labo abasebenza nabo kanye nokuphumelela kwamaphuzu okusebenza kubaluleke ngaphezu kokuziphatha kwabo ngokomzimba nangokomzimba.

Umehluko phakathi kwamantombazane namantombazane nawo afakwe embonweni wezwe nezingozi, futhi ikakhulukazi uthando. Amantombazane akholelwa ukuthi ukuphambanisa zonke izinhlobo zezinto zothando akuyona isibopho esingunaphakade sokuthuthukisa ubudlelwane, kodwa inkokhelo yeholide kuphela. Okusho ukuthi, lapho ehlele isidlo sothando noma enze isipho esimnandi, ngokuqinisekile kuyohambisana nayo nganoma iliphi iholide, hhayi nje lokho! Amantombazane asekulungele ukugubha ubuchopho bawo, ukwenza umhlangano, isidlo sakusihlwa, ubusuku buya ocansini kakhulu, khumbula. Yiqiniso, ukulinda impendulo kwimpendulo efana ne "Ngiyabonga, othandekayo, uhlele konke okuthandekayo," asiyikuphelelwa ithemba, hhayi ukuyizwa ekugcineni. Emva kwakho konke, ukuzama ukwenza kube mnandi kuye, sifuna lokho ekugcineni kube kuhle kithi.

Lapho sibona umfana omuhle, senza cishe ukudala imilingo mayelana nokuthi angaba yinduna. Lona umehluko phakathi kwethu, amantombazane kanye namadoda. Sibona igobolondo elihle, ngezinye izikhathi lihlakaniphile, ngezinye izikhathi lijabule, ngezinye izikhathi linokwethenjelwa, kodwa kumbhangqwana wokuqala, asihlanganisi ukubaluleka ekugcwalisweni kwalesi sigobolondo, okungase kungabi mnandi njenge-praline, kodwa kukhangwe kahle ngezinongo. Abafana babona ukuthi bafunani, yini efanelana nabo futhi izozivumelanisa nabo ekugcineni. Amantombazane anelisekile ngokuboniswa kwabo, futhi kungani kungenjalo, ngoba wonke umuntu uzoba nomona intombi enhle. Lona umehluko. Amantombazane aphupha ngekusasa, abantu bayaneliseka ngalesi sikhathi.

Umbono wokuhluleka komuntu siqu uhlukile. Umehluko wukuthi ekucabangeni kwamantombazane lokhu kusebenza - akuzange kusebenze, kuhle, kuhle, ngeke ucabange okuningi. Ingabe la madoda - ngahluleka kanjani, kufanele ngibe nenombolo eyodwa, enye indlela ayihambisani nami? Yilokho umehluko phakathi kwethu, amantombazane kanye namantombazane, asixhasi, kancane kancane usizi, siya phambili ezenzweni ezintsha nezimpumelelo, zingabantu abafanayo, ukulungele ukuchitha izinsuku, amasonto, izinyanga, ezizolwa njengenhlanzi eqhweni, ngethemba lokuthola lokho ababekufunayo. Kodwa-ke, masingakhohlwa ukuthi ukuze sifinyelele umgomo thina, amantombazane, silungele noma yikuphi ukuhlukumezeka, amahlazo nokucasula.

Thina amantombazane ahluke kubafana ngoba singathola ukunambitheka kwabo. Sisebenzisa zonke izinhlobo zezindlela nezindlela ukuze uphume ngaphandle esixukwini, sikhumbule. Asiyesabi ukubonakala sengathi siyizintambo, ziqine futhi zinesibindi, ngoba umgomo wethu wukuthi sihlonishwe futhi sixoxwe. Kufanelana nabafana lapho konke kuhamba ngaphandle kokuphazamisa isikhala sabo siqu. Yiqiniso, uma bengewona amaconsi noma izinkanyezi zezemidlalo, kulokhu konke kuhlukile, ngoba ngokwe-PR balungele noma yini, izenzo ezingaphezu kwenhliziyo ezingaphezu kwezingonyama ezingokwemvelo zingakwazi ukuzikhokhela. Lona umehluko phakathi kobulili.

Ungakhohlwa mayelana nemikhakha yethu njalo. Ukudla! Wonke umuntu uyazi leli gama, siyesaba futhi silihlonipha ekugcineni. Amantombazane agxila kakhulu ekubukeni kwawo, isibalo, esizokwenza umqondo emhlanganweni wokuqala. Silungiswa nge-kilogram yethu, imiqulu, ubukhulu, ukuthi sesilungele ukudla lutho futhi sihlale emanzini afanayo, ukuze singene emgodweni omnyama omnyama ukuze sinqobe umuntu wethu. Okukuphela ekugcineni akuqapheli umehluko uma ngabe ushiye i-kilogram eyodwa engalungile, noma ngaphezulu kwayishumi. Kulokhu kune-plus and minus. Ngaphezu ukuthi basibona futhi bathande lokho esiyikho. Ngezinzuzo nezingozi, kodwa ukuphazamiseka ukuthi ngeke bawazise leyo mizamo enzima esiyenzile. Amantombazane ngokwemvelo ayakhathazeki ngokuthi ngabe agibela engxenyeni yabo namuhla noma cha. Bakhuphuka - kahle, cha-ngizohamba ngizithenge ezintsha, cishe i-jeans isibe encane. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lihle kangakanani, kuyiqiniso. Kithina, ukufika kwenkathi yasebhishi kusho - okwanele ukudla, thatha ngesandla, phambili ukwenza isibalo. Kubo - i-hooray, isizini sase-beach sivulekile, amantombazane ase-bikini, akunandaba ukuthi ngineqhwa elibi kakhulu. Lona umehluko phakathi kwethu, amantombazane namantombazane.

Omunye umehluko phakathi kwethu ubuhlobo bethu komunye nomunye. Sinjengeminyamane elinda abafana bethu, siqinisekisa ukuthi bahlambulukile, bahlanziwe, bahlonywe, bahle, ukuze sijabule ukuba nabo, futhi akusihlazo ukubabonisa abantu noma. Abafana nabo badlala ikakhulukazi indima kababa, okungaqondakali, ikhanda elingenakunyakaziswa lomndeni obhekene nakho konke futhi uthanda ukubaluleka kwakhe. Akukhathaleki ukuthi kubonakala kanjani, ukukhetha umshini omusha, ukukhetha izembatho zemidlalo emidlalweni emisha, into eyinhloko ukuthi igama labo liyilokugcina. Ngenxa yobuqili bethu, sikwazi ukusebenzisa le mfanelo yabafana, sidlala, sikhulume phakathi kwemigqa ekugcineni sithole lokho esikufunayo, sikwanelisa izifiso zabo nokwaneliseka.

Phakathi kwezimfanelo zethu ezihlukahlukene futhi ezivamile singakwazi ukuphatha amadoda amahle, futhi futhi ngobuhlakani futhi asivumele ukuba senze lokhu nabo. Lesi yisiqinisekiso sokujabula kanye nobuhlobo obuphumelelayo phakathi kwethu. Lokhu kufana nokuhluka phakathi kwamantombazane namantombazane.