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Ukuhlanganyela nomyeni wakhe, ukuthi ungaphila kanjani isehlukaniso? Isikebhe somndeni wakho saphazamiseka, saphazamiseka ngokuphila? Kulukhuni, kodwa kufanele uzame ukuphuma futhi ungadli ukucindezeleka! Funda amathiphu esihlokweni sethu samanje!
Yeka ukuzibala unecala! Eqinisweni lokuthi awukwazi ukugcina umndeni, ngokuvamile bobabili abalingani kufanele babekwe icala. Ekugcineni, kunezimo nezimo ongazange ukwazi ukubona, ukushintsha noma ukugwema nhlobo. Thatha igebe kancane. Futhi khumbula into esemqoka: akekho onelungelo lokugxekwa futhi akusola ngokuba ngumfazi omubi noma umngane ongenandaba, oqhuba indlu, engathandeki ezindabeni zomyeni, njll. Kulesi simo, kungcono ukuzolile futhi ngesithunzi uthi awufuni ukukhuluma ngalesi sihloko nhlobo, noma lo muntu ngokuqondile.
Ukulwa nokucindezeleka! Okokuqala, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, insimbi evela ekucindezelekeni: lapho kwenzeka okubi kakhulu ukuthi awufuni ukuphuma endlini, ziqaphele, yenza-up, udle, uhlanganise izinwele zakho kanye nokumomotheka nje kuba inkinga. Ngakho-ke, kumelwe siziphoqe ukuba sivuke, sihlanze, sigqoke, sigqoke izinwele zethu, siphume futhi siphume kubantu: ukuvakashela, kumidlalo yaseshashalazini, ukuya kumabhayisikobho. Uma kunokwenzeka, ke uzilungiselele ukuyothenga okulula: uthenge ingubo engazange ikwazi ukuthenga ngesikhathi somshado, siza uzithokoze ngomunwe omusha wamanzi angasese. Uma ungafuni ukubona umuntu, hamba epaki. Into eyinhloko ukuzibandakanya ngento ethile, hhayi ukugxila enkingeni yakho futhi hhayi ukuhlushwa umcamelo ngezinyembezi.
Ungesabi ukuxoxa ngezinkinga zakho! Akudingekile kuphela ukukhuluma ngezinkinga nabo bonke abangani. Kwanele abantu ababili noma abathathu, njengomama noma umngane omkhulu. Zama ukukhuluma futhi ubone ukuthi ngokushesha uzizwa ungcono.
Yamukela ukwesekwa kwabantu abakuzungezile: ozakwabo emsebenzini, abangane, izihlobo. Akunakwenzeka ukuthi wonke umuntu uyakukulahla, ahleke noma ajabule ebuhlungu bakho. Ngokuqinisekile kukhona abantu abazofuna ukusiza esikhathini esibucayi sokuphila kwakho. Omunye uzokumema ukuba uvakashele, ngosuku lwakhe lokuzalwa, anikele uhambo ngaphandle kwedolobha, ezweni. Ngenjabulo, yamukela lezi zimemo, njengemibono emisha emihle yilokho okudingayo manje.
Thatha konke okukukhumbuza okwedlule! Fihla ama-albhamu kude ngezithombe, izinkumbulo ezivela kumyeni wakho wangaphambili nezinye izinto ezingakhumbuza ngaye. Nje ungawushiyi! Ngemuva kweminyaka embalwa, lapho ubuhlungu bakho buya khona, uzojabula ukubuyekeza izithombe futhi, ukukhumbula okwedlule.
Ungalaleli abaphikisi abafuna ukukwazisa mayelana nezenzakalo zakamuva ekuphileni komunye umuntu osekude kakade kuwe. Ukunganaki ukuwachazela ukuthi awunasithakazelo.
Ungasheshi ukungena ebuhlotsheni obusha! Yebo, ngifuna ukuziphindisela ngesikhatsi sami sangaphambili, bonisa ukuthi akuyena kuphela emhlabeni futhi abanye abantu bakunake. Kodwa emva kokuhlukanisa, isikhathi kufanele sidlule. Uma ugijimela phambili ekuthandweni olusha, cishe cishe uzokhetha indoda yesimo sengqondo lapho umyeni wakho wangaphambili owayengowakho, ngoba ngokungaqondakali awukakulungeli ubuhlobo obusha.
Ungenzi lutho ngokubi futhi ulimaze umuntu wakho wangaphambili futhi, ikakhulukazi, ugqozi lwakhe olusha! Ukwenza amaphutha kule nkathi kulula, kodwa ngeke kube lula kuwe. Dlula ngekhanda lakho eliphakeme futhi ungabanaki.
Unesiteji esisha empilweni yakho. Kuyoba ngcono uma kuhlotshaniswa nemikhuba emisha ewusizo futhi emnandi namasiko. Qala ukuya echibini noma ukuqina, bhalisela ezinye izifundo. Ngokuvamile ngangokunokwenzeka, uhlangane nabangani. Ingxoxo ejabulisayo ihlukanisa izinkinga, ungakhumbuli ngakho. Lesi sihloko sivaliwe! Zivimbele ukubiza imisho: "Ngonyaka odlule ngalesi sikhathi waya emvelweni, uhlele iholide," "Le ngubo, izinwele zakhe zazithanda kakhulu," "Ngijwayele ukupheka lokhu nokuthi yizidlo zakhe ezizithandayo." Phila okwamanje kanye nekusasa, hhayi okwedlule.
Uma unabantwana abavamile, ke ungawafaki ngokumelene nobaba wakho. Akunakwenzeka ukugxeka izingane engxoxweni nomngane, ukusola okuthile. Kudingeka sibachazele ngokuzithoba konke, ukuthi ubaba uyabathanda futhi akasoze ayeke. Akudingeki ukulimaza izingane zengqondo, akumele zibekwe icala ngekhefu lakho.
Ukuze usinde isahlukaniso, yiphathe njengethuba lokuhlola ubuhlobo bakho nabantu, cabangela amaphutha akho futhi esikhathini esizayo ukuze ungawavumeli.