Kodwa uma uvakashelwe umcabango wokuthi nomyeni wakho wangaphambili, ungasindiswa kusukela enesizungu, futhi kubonakala sengathi konke akukubi kakhulu, noma mhlawumbe wawungenalutho ukuhlukana naye ngeze. Lapha udinga ukuma, ngoba uzobe ushaya ngokushesha amagagasi amathathu omusa: kulokho okwenzekile, okwenzekile kuwe.
Asiyeke ukuzisola ngalokho okwenzekile. Phela konke lokhu sekuvele kwenzeke. Ungowesifazane ohlakaniphile, futhi ngokuqinisekile unezizathu ezikhethekile zokuhlukanisa. Abaningi besifazane abahlukanisi nhlobo ngoba "abanesineke", kodwa konke, ngoba abesifazane bafakwa ezimweni ezinjalo. Uma usuqedile isahlukaniso, usuvele uyinqobe.
Yeka ukuzisola ukuthi wayenakho. Ake siphuphe ngalokho okuyoba khona. Khona-ke sizohumusha amaphupho zibe indiza yemigomo, futhi sizohamba ngokuya emigomeni. Konke kwakunjalo. Abaningi besifazane bayazicabangela esikhathini esidlule ngemva kokuhlukanisa. Uma konke kwakungcono, kungani umndeni wahlukana?
Ungazihawukeli, nakuba kulula ukukusho ukuthi ungayenza kanjani. Yebo, ukhubekile, ushiywe, futhi cishe uzodlula lesi sigaba sokuhawukela wena. Ungalulazi futhi ungajabuli ukuqonda ukuthi ushiyiwe. Uma unabantwana, khona-ke lokhu kuzoba insindiso yakho, ngoba ngenkathi uziphendukela ngobugovu, kunzima kakhulu kubo. Unesifo esincane sokungathembeki, okuyizihlobo zakho ngezinye izikhathi ezikulimazayo, futhi ezinganeni ezivela ekuhlangenwe nakho kokulahlekelwa - ukufa kwebheyi lakho ozithandayo emshini wokuwasha noma ukufa kwezinhlanzi ozithandayo.
Yini okudingeka uyenze ngenkathi isikhathi siphila amanxeba akho? Ukuphumelela kokwelashwa kuyoba ngendlela efanele yokuziphatha kwesiguli. Ayikho umkhiqizo wodwa wokwelapha, njengoba kungekho iseluleko somhlaba wonke. Ngamunye uhlala ngokuhlukile, lezi zikhathi. Yini owesifazane ngokuvamile akwenzayo?
- Owesifazane uyakhala. Lokhu kuhle, kodwa into esemqoka akumele ithathwe. Ukukhala kuyasiza, kodwa konke kudinga isilinganiso. Uma ungangeni emangcwabeni, konke lokhu kuzoba nemiphumela emihle emlandweni we-hormonal. Izizathu zokukhala, mhlawumbe okuningi.
- Unomunye wesifazane, wangiphonsa, ungcono kunami, futhi ngiyingozi nakakhulu, ngingumuntu ohlakaniphile kakhulu, esifubeni esincane, esincane, enamafutha nokunye.
- Ngedwa, angidingi muntu, ngingumdali ongenalutho, akekho ongithandayo ...
"Anginawo ongazibheka, ngedwa, anginakho lutho lokuphila, anginakho indawo yokuhlala, anginakho umuntu oncike kulo ..."
Ake sithathe konke lokhu ngoku:
- Ukwesaba! Ngichitha iminyaka eminingi ngalesi sidalwa esingenalusizo, owabekwa nge-carrot futhi ethathwe esitokisini ...
Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo, ungajabula ngokuthi uphume ngokulahlekelwa okuncane futhi wamlahla ngesikhathi. Ungabonga ezingqondweni zala wesifazane onesibindi oye wahluleka ukuphila nomuntu onjalo onesizotha, ngakho wakukhulula.
- Ukuziphindiselela. Kufanele kube nomqondo wezinga. Sonke singabantu abadala, futhi asikho isidingo sokukhunjulwa ngezinyathelo zokuvimbela nokuvikelwa ezifweni ezidluliselwa ngocansi. Konke lokhu kusiza okwesikhashana owesifazane ukuba abaleke enesizungu futhi aphakamise izinga lokuzihlonipha kwakhe. Ungabuyi ezingeni futhi into esemqoka ayikuzuzeki uma uzinikela. Bavumele banqobe. Emva kwakho konke, khona-ke ungakwazi ukuletha izimbali ezivela kumadoda amahle.
- Uphuza. Kubonakala sengathi ayidakiwe, nakuba kunezimo ezinjalo. Kubonakala sengathi i-martini izosiza. Kodwa akusiyo iwayini, hhayi i-whisky, hhayi i-martini eyasiza. Umkhathi nenkampani kusiza. Izindlela eziphumelelayo kakhulu zokudala ukukhohliswa kokuthi "Angiye ngedwa" futhi ngikhulisa ukuzethemba, ngothando, ukuphuma nabangani "ekukhanyeni", thola isibindi. Intombi, ezama ukudonsa okungenani i-movie, kumbuzo wami, "Yimuphi umbukiso we-movie?", Wangiphendula "Noma kunjalo yikuphi ifilimu, uma nje bekukhona isizathu sokwenza!".
Ithola i-hobby. Kunezinketho ezimbili, wenze okuthile ngaphambili, wathande, wakwenza, kepha lapho ushada, kwakuwukuntuleka kwesikhathi noma into ofuna ukuyenza, kodwa ngezizathu ezimbalwa awukwazi. Manje ungenza lezi zinto ozithandayo, njengoba inhliziyo yakho ifisa. Lokhu kuyoba indlela enhle yokuvuselela ". Kuhle futhi ukuthi izingane zingakwazi ukuhlanganyela kulo.
Uyaqhubeka nokuphila. Ake ucabange ukuthi yiziphi izinto ezingase zivule ngaphambi kwakho. Konke ongakwenza, vele ube nesineke, ungabi namahloni, uvuselele kahle. Ungakwazi ukudlala ngothando nomuntu ongaziwayo, ukhale phezu kwefilimu, ungakwazi, uqale i-kite nezingane.
Manje siyakwazi ukuqala impilo entsha ngemuva kokuhlukanisa. Ukuphila kuqala nje. Thatha ngokwakho, futhi uzophumelela, futhi konke kuyoba kuhle empilweni yakho.